Im a straight trans girl and I hate how much I NEED validation from men. When I go out I’ll get called beautiful by other women relatively often (not that I’m model, I figure women are just nice) but I feel so little from it. But when a man calls me beautiful it’s like suddenly everything is ok. I have value, I’m worth something, I’m allowed to exist. It’s like a drug I swear. I hate how much I’ll seek it out because I shouldn’t need a man’s approval. I’m always going on chat sites so I can hear men tell me I’m worth something. I’ll post here. Ill make dating app accounts purely so I can get reminded I have value whenever I get a notification.
The crazy part is I don't event go on these dates, It’s rare I meet a man who I’m into enough to date, plus I’m an anxious wreck, but I don’t need to date him I just need him to tell me I’m worthy. I don’t want to be an attention whore but I feel like I don’t have value unless men find me attractive. I need so badly to be told that I am good. I need a boyfriend to mutually obsess over so bad, maybe that would fix this. But until then how do I stop myself from feeling this way? I’m going bonkers

>>40609631 (OP)
whats your relationship with your dad like

>>40609631 (OP)
I've got some male attention for you babe

>>40609631 (OP)
You're not straight. You're a gay man.

You’re not seeking love, you’re chasing male validation to prop up an identity you don’t fully believe in

>>40609631 (OP)
yeah maybe you should find yourself a nice boyfriend girl...until then just limit yourself with the amount of men you talk to

>>40609642
I love my dad, he’s really supportive of me

>>40609674
> You’re not seeking love, you’re chasing male validation
I just said that
> You're not straight. You're a gay man.
This really doesn’t change anything about my question.

>>40609821
> find yourself a nice boyfriend
> limit yourself with the amount of men you talk to
The eternal paradox :/

>>40609858
just asking you to be more patient!! idk if you have multiple contacts that you try and juggle like a ball but if you are just..dont do that

>>40609943
I do not have multiple contacts. That sounds too stressful. I mostly get the validation from strangers online because in my head they feel more “honest” because they have nothing to loose by telling me what they think of me.

>>40609631 (OP)
unfortunately the general desire for male attention and not a specific partner will lead to an evaporation of options and you will wake up one day 40 years old and alone

>>40610029
but they do have some wet hole to gain if they're nice to you
just sayin'

>>40609631 (OP)
I was under the impression that women get approached and complimented by random guys all the time, and that they're sick of it. That's the main reason I never do it, because I know she gets it all the time.

>>40610398
its more of a flex women say to be socially accepted

>>40609631 (OP)
i mean i love attention from my bf (maybe having a bf has just desensitized to it) but i honestly wish i got more compliments from women. ik this is dumb and definitely not true but in my mind i pass to most men and most women see me as a rapehon because they can sense the male socialization through my female appearance

>>40610398
No, we're not allowed to do that

need to know the answer to this. posting all my unsees is probably not a good idea but i crave male attention sm :(

>>40611438
Drop your nudes in my dms instead babe

>>40609631 (OP)
I used to be like this, but getting rejected a bunch of times eventually broke me and I tried to find new ways to be happy. You probably need to be broken before you can break free, like I was.

>>40609631 (OP)
I think that barring catcalls, it’s hard to get sincere compliments from men, thus their value seems to go up.
Not that catcalls are sincere, they’re mostly done performatively by men who are already in a group
Also, there’s something nice about male attention in that it feels a bit validating in our weird brain, a guys compliment makes you feel like you have a future whereas a girls compliment is more sudden, and lasts less long
Anyways what do I know I’m a loser tranny who no man will ever love

>>40611807
if you get catcalled you're probably cute and can find a bf