Horny Edition
previous: >>40526903 (bumped off the catalog)

Goal of the thread: Talk to a friend or loved one, or in a pinch, feel free to socialize with us. Talking to people is a human need, even to those of us who exhaust quickly from communication.
Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!

>What is this thread for?
Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.
Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.
>Why is this thread /lgbt/?
Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.
>Notes to consider:
Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:
WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION
>Note on advice
Generic advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.

We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!
Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!

## RESOURCE LINKS:

Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07
General advice from Anons: https://sntry.cc/sig-tips-2024-04
Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://sntry.cc/sig-posts-2024-04

Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!

- prepare 1 load of laundry
- do 1 load of laundry
- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off
- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish
- eat a meal
- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes
- make your bed
- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)
- do the dishes for 3 minutes
- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)
- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)
- Open your window for 10-20 minutes
- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)
- take out the trash
- drink a glass of water
- put one item of trash in the bin
- reach out to an online contact
- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)


Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:
IRC: presently defunct afaik.
Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2

Sorry for being so inactive recently, don't you worry, I will catch up with the last thread in due time. I am still committed to responding to everyone, it's just that this week and the last I am on vacation and hardly online at all.

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sorry for being so unattractive recently

>>40612717 (OP)
2nd round of laser tomorrow. Ballin

hate living in a state of perpetual identity crisis

pg8

I'm probably gonna pass out before replying to all the posts from the previous threads again.

Sorry, goodnight for now.

pg7

>>40612717 (OP)
They made a chaser sig thread chat what are we doing lmao

Back home from my spontaneously acquired job. Managed to avoid panicking over being hired for something I am an amateur at and also managed to produce some results. Didn’t get nowhere near as far as I’d wanted, and I definitely feel like a massive fraud even if I warned them beforehand, but… It’s a start. And I think I’m learning something, too.
Hopefully I’ll be able to keep my health in check for a few more days.
My hand turning purple and losing the ability to feel that I accidentally cut myself isn’t ideal, and my voice is steadily deteriorating. There’s blood and slime coming out of me again, so...I uh. Guess I’ll just have to wrap the project up asap.
I really dont want them to see.
I want to do this. The money is irrelevant I just want to prove to myself that I’m not worthless.
I’m going to drink lots of chamomile tea, study for my tasks, and go to bed early.

>>40615937
Ah lol, reminds me of when someone tried to make cisbigen a thing. Offshoot gens like that rarely last anyway so I guess we can just gently ignore it

>>40612717 (OP)
heyhey /sig/gies and siganon,
must be about two months since my last update
sooo relationship is still going on, it's amazing and I'm so happy most of the time but my insecurities are eating away at me bit by bit
I feel like I'm the only one opening up, I share my insecurities when I feel they're starting to impact our time together or when something she said or did triggered something in me but I got nothing in return, like don't get me wrong, I'm met with lots of understanding and consideration but nothing of emotional substance from her side and it's freaking me out tbdesu
Like things feel so incredibly easy and I can just be myself with her so much but it's like the comfiest one-sided mirror ever, she sees all of me but I get nothing beyond good vibes and compliments
yeah
I tell her how grateful I am to have her and things like that and it's met with a me too but nothing like that ever comes from her
We haven't said I love you yet and while I am in love and I'm depending on my mental state 99-60% sure she loves me too I'm not gonna be the one to say it first out of principle, I make myself more than vulnerable enough already and I really just fucking need her to give me anything of emotional substance at this point
anyway, exam season too so that's great, not keeping up well at all because I also got a new job again and some asshole there recognized me from a past job where I still boymoded and outed me and now I'm the office tranny and it's eating away at what little willpower I have left steadily
but still you know, at least I feel the pain of being alive again instead of just being a zombie and that unironically is still better than nothing
I'm sure better days are coming and I'll keep trying my best but I'm fucking exhausted rn

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>>40583481
>I'm not sure how much he genuinely believes it
Yeah I think there is a difference between being rationally aware and "feeling it", if you will.
>He says he's got hobbies and friends that he's satisfied with
The brutal truth is that if he didn't believe it he would be panicking, because he would realize how thin the ice he is on actually is.
>the only goal for him outside living with me and seeing me is him securing his living situation.
To be fair a secure living situation does lay the groundwork for almost anything else, but I think I get what you mean.
>it feels like that's the only reason he does anything sometimes.
>God, I hope I don't come off as an asshole saying this.
Not in the slightest, really.
>Maybe somebody else can put words to it?
Frankly it sounds like he lacks a drive to do things on his own, as you said. This would not be an issue if he were as content as he claims, but in reality what is most likely going to happen is that he is going to wind up feeling miserable. To explain what I envision more cleanly, maybe watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LO1mTELoj6o
Can you imagine him falling into a depressive spiral like this?
>>40587055
Awesome, there is something satisfying in those kinds of maintenance I find.
>>40591698
>Tbh I've explored all my options atp and I'm just rolling with it. I dont need to make an exact choice for a while on how I'll handle it
That's a reasonable way of looking at it I think, nothing to be done than wait and see then I suppose. Thanks for explaining it to me again!
>>40591905
>What should I do for my birthday? Go to a bar alone? Stay home and study? Hookup with some rando on Grindr? Get with my abusive ex for a night?
Might be a little late depending on when your bday is, but frankly if reconnecting with old friends is not an option I would suggest focusing on yourself and what you enjoy, or make you feel accomplished. Treat yourself. And if you feel isolated and alone, we can try work on it.

Today I had a very long but pleasant day. There is a long backlog of posts I will have to catch up with next sunday latest, but right now I have not much screen time.
Nonetheless, every post will be replied to eventually. Thanks for your patience.