Hello first time posting here and this is a throwaway account for privacy reasons. I really need some help and support. I don’t know what to do.

I transitioned in my 20s and now I am in my 30s. I am a nurse so my schedule changes a lot. I have been working night shifts a lot lately. I live with my husband of three years. We dated for four years before we got married. Two nights ago I went to my night shift but didn’t feel well so they sent me home as a precaution for Covid. When I got home, I heard talking and giggling in the bedroom. I ran to the bedroom and I couldn’t believe what’s in front of my eyes. My husband was naked in bed with another man. That man was a normal looking man with a beard and hairy body. My husband also has a similar look but he was wearing my bra and panties. I immediately started crying and screaming. I was crushed and I felt like my world was collapsing. The man was surprised to see me. My husband told him to leave.

What happened next was a blur. I remember my husband came to hug me but I pushed him away. I remember asking him if he was gay. He said he was bi and he’s been having these feelings all his life. Why did you not tell me, I asked him. He said he was afraid I would leave him. He asked me if I would support him if he decided to transition. I told him I don’t know. I need time to think.

I met him online. From the very beginning he felt very comfortable with me. He was also very fit and attractive. I thought I hit the jackpot and couldn’t believe such a hot man would want to be with a trans woman like me. I pass very well and a lot of men flirt with me but I still couldn’t believe I would ever find a man who loved me for me. He always loved the fact I was non-op and functional down there. Whenever I brought up bottom surgery, he said he’d be supportive but he wouldn’t feel as satisfied sexually. Now everything makes sense.

I don’t know what to do. I still love him but I feel like I can’t stay in a sham marriage. If he wants to transition, I can’t be in a relationship with him. I am not a lesbian. I marred a man not a woman. It’s maddening he never told me he was bi. When we first met he said he was 100% straight. Was he always like this or I turn him into bi??

>>40616186
https://youtu.be/Dq07deBzQfU?si=sV0RTCt2Zr51MJtO
This should explain everything

>>40616181 (OP)
>>40616186
He was always like him
Divorce immediately because he cheated on you
Im sorry. Reach out to friends or possibly see a counselor, this is a very painful moment and you should give yourself a lot of time. But I would begin the separation process now.

>>40616320
Kiwi farms a great resource but that man is gay

>>40616186
stupid bitch. straight men dont fuck trannies lol. literally you have to be heteroflexible at minimum to look past the dick or them having had a dick.

>>40616186
>he always loved that I was non-op and functional down there
I mean I don't want to be mean but shouldn't she have seen this coming? Get SRS. Never worry about this happening again.