Thread 40732249

I want to transition into being a guy. I love my bf though, and he's not into men, so I expect the second I stop repressing I'm going to have to break things off with him and the idea of that has hurt too much to consider starting.
It's getting harder and harder to push down the dysphoria, and the fact he's been talking about our future, and his vision of us having kids and stuff, has had my stomach in knots. How do I make this easy?

there are no easy roads in life

>>40732249 (OP)
comp cis/comp het is genuinely a brutal thing happens to a lot of trans people especially pooners you gotta reflect on this tbhon

>>40732249 (OP)
Im watching this cute poon boy from tiktok get on t next week. He is dating a cis hunk who seems to be supportive, he is posting pics of his poon "bf", they lift weights together. I worry about that poon. Do you think they will break up after t does its changes? :(

>>40732249 (OP)
It’s going to hurt no matter what I’m afraid, what you’re really doing here is choosing how long you want it to hurt. Breaking up with him will hurt, obviously, but people will heal. Takes time, months or years maybe, but you’ll heal. And you’ll be happy
It’s that or you decide to stay with him, deny yourself until it reaches a breaking point. You might be happy with him or you might go insane being something you never wanted. You shouldn’t live only to appease someone, even if you like them
Idk I just woke up, I just think personally I’d rather deal with heartbreak now than want to kill myself later

>>40732249 (OP)
You could still have kids with him?. I sometimes joke to my bf about transitioning and he says that he would still love me and that he would be gay for me but I'm too scared to do it

>>40732249 (OP)
i mean is being with this guy more important to you than being a man?

>>40732249 (OP)
>and the fact he's been talking about our future, and his vision of us having kids and stuff, has had my stomach in knots.
you need to tell him what's going on so both he and you can make informed decisions about this
you should not let him get invested in this potential future without letting him know that there's a major potential obstacle to it

>>40732249 (OP)
Op where did you go

>>40732249 (OP)
you deserve happiness for your patrician taste

>>40732665
He knows that he has to say that or you'll dump him

>>40733257
Sorry, got high to clear my head. Still high, really wish this could all just go away. I wanted to bury the trans stuff and just be with him, but the feelings just get harder to ignore.
>>40732665
I don't think it would go the same for me. He's not willing to be gay.