Thread 40802226

Should I just lose it to a rando from a hookup app at this point?

9 months hrt 23 mtf and I look like a feminine twink.

Don't think I'm going to be comfortable girlmoding or dating anytime soon.

I'm worried about the bad experiences people write about, but it can't be as universal as it sounds, right?

I'd take and read up on every precaution.

i got raped my first hookup and then forced into a threesome on my second

>>40802257
I'm so sorry. This is exactly what I'm afraid of.

My mind is trying to rationalize that it wouldn't happen to me and it doesn't happen as often as one might think.

It's irresponsible, dumb, and would break me if it did.

Unfortunately, my self-image is still too poor to date.

>>40802226 (OP)
similar situation but 22y
i wish my first time couldve been with a guy that i was at least a bit friends so i could be more comfortable during it since im very ashamed of my body. but i dont think that will happens and even tho my libido isnt high i kinda want to have that experience but idk i didnt want to use grindr either :(

>>40802396
idgi i wish i was pretty enough to get raped i look like a moid even when i transitioned at 13

yes i want validation no i dont pass

>>40802226 (OP)
>>40802607
I would date you if I could. It feels like now that I feel emotionally ready, no one else is ready anymore.

>>40802226 (OP)
that's what i did at 18 and i dont regret it one day
just make they are hot

>>40802226 (OP)
>>40802607
you're both going to lose it to the most sleezy scumbag you meet on grindr who is going to rape you. sorry, that's just how it goes

>>40802226 (OP)
At least get to know someone before you have sex with them.

>>40803590
If this were a certainty, the apps wouldn't exist.

>>40803615
My self-esteem is too low to date someone irl.

>>40803632
You don't technically have to date.

>>40803617
they still exist because trannies are too mentally ill to report rape

>>40802226 (OP)
do you know any cute guys you could ask instead?

>>40804017
No, I didn't stay in touch with anyone from high school and didn't make any friends in college.

I don't want to socially transition yet or start making friends now until I'm further into my transition.

>>40803632
>make friends.
>have sex with your friends.
>profit?

>>40804100
im thinking you should be more focused on making friends than on having sex

>>40802226 (OP)
i'll throw you a pity fuck if you live in PNW
>t. 6'0" cis male with a big dick

>>40804240
Making friends requires too much time and effort.

It would also mean putting myself out there as I don't want to twinkmode with people I wish to forge a meaningful connection with.

I'm hesitant to leave the house more than I have to because I'm afraid of getting clocked as a tranny now that it's getting harder to twinkmode.

Sex and romantic relationships are something I've steered clear because I couldn't imagine myself doing anything prior to the egg cracking.

I really want it now, when I'm the most isolated I've been in my life.

>>40804316
My self-esteem is low, but it isn't as low as to resort to pity sex.

>>40804415
how are you going to be in a good position to have sex if you are not able to make friends or even leave your house?
like yeah you can go on the grinder and text a guy to come over but it won't be good for you at all. you need a guy that you love and who loves you so you can be vulnerable together.

>>40804443
The next couple of years are going to really suck. I've mostly made my peace with that.

I don't want to be an abstinent virgin until I'm like 26.

>>40804521
it's not worth it if it's just a guy off grinder though. he'll just cum in your butt and leave you alone to cry

>>40802226 (OP)
Holy fuck tttt is all giant loser ass weirdos

Make some tranny friends and go out to party u stupid whore

>>40804442
well if you're actually a nice person and pleasant to talk to i'd be open to dating. it seemed like you just wanted to get laid

>>40804622
I'm very skeptical on e-dating.

The reason why I'm interested in having a hookup and not dating rn is because I don't pass and it would just exacerbate my dysphoria whereas a hookup is a one-time thing and a part of me really wants to experience what it's like now.

>>40804686
what do you think it's like to have a hookup

>>40804686
okay so if you live in pnw we can have a hookup. but i hope you realize you have to talk to someone and they have to percieve you before you hookup with them, unless you just go to a glory hole or have them wear a blindfold and earplugs or something. it sounds like you don't actually want to do this

>>40804713
I'd talk to him about it online beforehand. I expect sex, cuddling, and wine.

>>40804776
how is that going to happen when you're scared of talking to people? you already have one guy on here and you're scared of him

>>40804735
I don't, but I also do, but only because I want sex if that makes sense? Not in and of itself.

I live on the other side of the US in NJ.

>>40804820
>NJ
jesus christ why are there so many trannies in NJ and PA what do they put in the water there

>>40804801
I live in New Jersey. Can you really blame me for being hesitant?

This is 4chan we're talking about. I guess I'd be nervous regardless until I'm able to talk to the person one on one.

>>40804840
Is it really that common? I didn't know any troons growing up.

>>40804867
that's why i was saying if you know any cute boys you could ask them but i don't think you're mentally prepared for sex right now

>>40804885
this year alone i have met 4 troons from NJ

>>40804892
I don't think I'm mentally prepared for a lot of things rn, but I'm more likely to wind up dead every passing year and is anyone truly ever ready for sex?

>>40804910
Waow, I'm glad to hear that.

>>40804840
its a good state man idk

>>40805034
>>40804941
>not saying "it's a jersey thing"
gammon lads

>>40802226 (OP)
its better to get it out of the way with someone u dont care about because you're going to be awful and it will be remembered by someone u date.

>>40805169
Jersey Shore has forever marred our reputation.

>>40805195
That's a really cogent point.

>>40805195
>you're going to be awful
why do women have this weird perception that they're going to be "bad" at sex? cis or trans, they have this strange belief that they have to practice sex to be "good enough" for "the right man". i cannot tell you how many times i got laid back when i was a sleezy younger guy by using that logic against them

>>40805195
Are the people that you date awful or impatient? I can't imagine breaking up with a girl because they were not good at sex for the first time.

>>40805261
there are no feelings in a hookup and we dont want to be a dead fish for a guy that finally decides to actually love us. experience is always a good thing even if people frame it as whoring around.

>>40805281
you naturally aren't going to be a dead fish if you actually care about and connect with the person you're having sex with, which becomes more difficult to do as you take more and more dicks into your hole. its like burning yourself over and over again to gain immunity to fire

>>40805304
Sounds like a false equivalence. There's nothing wrong with sleeping around a little when you're single and inexperienced.

I wouldn't want to be a dead fish with someone I'm in love with.

>>40805376
>I wouldn't want to be a dead fish with someone I'm in love with
so you won't be. you'll grow and explore together. my first gf was a virgin when we met and the first time we had sex it was magical

>>40805376
ur only a dead fish because ur fucking people u have no feelings for idiot stop letting random men fuck u

>>40805731
fren i had to learn how to properly use my hips and body the first 2-3 times were not good and i was ashamed of them but after i started getting a lot better. i know guys want to be the first and lay their claim but i'd rather do it the way that makes me comfortable.

>>40805927
>trannies are so used to toxic, emotionless fucking that the concept of fucking the same guy more than 2-3 times is alien to them
what a sad existence

>>40806015
i'm ugly nobody wants to actually date me

>>40806056
i'm sure there are men who would date you, you just want chad. you are very much so like a woman in that regard, congrats.

>>40806056
>>40806088
>no response
baseball, huh?

>>40802226 (OP)
just by a dildo you retard, you don't sound mature enough to have sex with other people yet and that's okay

>>40802226 (OP)
just get it over with
u will realize that it didn't mean that much in the long run anyways
i got broken in hard the first time w some rando although he was sweet and kinda cute
but if i hadnt done that id be stuck wondering forever and potentially ruin it w someone i actually loved
this way u can actually decide how ur first "real" time goes idk