>>40825977
context first. i top other women and bottom for men. so my perspective is that of someone who has experience both bottoming for guys who make me feel very loved, but also being a top who is not into dominating. i think really you just need to get into the headspace of connecting with your partner and expressing love to them. let them know how pretty they are and how good they feel, talk to them. take the lead in allowing them to relax into you, make them feel safe and cherished and held. and then fuck them lmao like, you don't need to be a eunuch about it. passion can also feel loving rather than raw or degrading.
so i guess talk to them, tell them how you're feeling, ask them how they feel. touch them! let them feel your presence. and make sure to feel something yourself, don't be a robot, enjoy the sex yourself and let them know how good it is.