Thread 41049462

I'm a passoid who's been medically transitioning for 3 years my name and documents are updated and most of my friends have only ever known me as a woman.
Would it really be so bad if I started identifying as a she/her HRT femboy? I still want everyone to treat me exactly like they do now but occasionally I say I'm really a boy and they go "hahaha sure thing Molly!"

passing is a myth, you are delusional, and, in reality, look quite male

bait used to be believable

>>41049471
I also don't think I pass but I keep having to have "serious conversations" when people I'm friends with find out I'm trans from someone after a few months of us hanging out it's super awkward

>>41049471
found the hon

>>41049462 (OP)
go for it

>>41049462 (OP)
Absolutely! A passoid going "im a boy" is a very very good way to get hons to rope. They'll see the most girl-coded girl they've ever known declare they're a boy and have a total meltdown - watch carefully and you might even see the light flicker out of their eyes as they realize they never had a chance at all. The smart ones will detransition soon after, the others will rope, then everyone wins with less hons in the world.

>>41049462 (OP)
my friends laugh when i tell them i am going to be a boy

>>41050739
hirsute, reticulated knuckles that would have anchored the house of habsburg typed this post

>>41050111
there are no non-hons

>>41050784
Absolutely! Im a gay man with no illusions of being a woman, but have had the joy of watching my passoid friend joke about being a boy in front of her hon """friend""" plenty of times. Last I hear they were full-on detransitioning. Good for them for at least taking the brave route, sucks that it took that much mental anguish for them to realize they were never seen as a woman. Hons transitioning only invites misery for everyone.

>>41049462 (OP)
okay but we will make you do all the things nobody else wants to do, you are. a boy after all

>>41050739
This anon is kind of a dick about it, but he has a point. If you have any trans friends who don't pass and are self conscious about it, declaring yourself a boy even as a joke can hurt very badly. Think about if you met an expert in your favorite hobby and they declared they were quitting because they believed they sucked at it. Even if they were joking, if you were a novice or struggled, you may well feel overcome with hopelessness.
It'd be kind of a dick thing to do to someone.
If you friends are cis, passing, or not self-concious about not-passing, by all means. But please pay attention.

>>41050875
bro stop larping and get a job

>>41051016
Im a dick about it because Im tired of seeing people hurt themselves trying to be something they never had any hope of pulling off and then dying over it.
>>41051037
Im trying but job market is shit.

>>41051055
you're a dick because you're a fucking repper you fucking repper. stop REPPING like jfc slap yourself for me. i'm finna go back to jairl

>>41051080
I'm not a repper. My ex/best friend transitioned a few years ago and she drags me along to queer events that inevitably include a lot of trannies. She passes very well, so she likes me there for safety since Im pushing 7' - gives her someone to hide behind.

>>41050739
well I don't want THAT to happen
>>41050951
everyone treats me like a princess way too often and sometimes I just want to be a little more tough than people treat me y'know?
>>41051016
I do think it sucks to say that I can't be a little silly with my gender just because other people want to hold me up as an example of a more binary gender, but I do get what you say. I guess I'll do my best to keep it private

>>41051275
>since Im pushing 7'
in your fucking DREAMS your cishetero bf is this tall and does this for you. audibly lmaoing @ u rn holy shit. thanks for that

>>41051508
Honestly I would just have a quick conversation with friends who might be potentially impacted by it. Communication, as always, is key - especially when trying to be thoughtful and cognizant of others. No reason you can't be silly, just pay attention and be mindful.
And, ultimately, it's not your responsibility to take care of other people's feelings. A mature adult will just realize it's not about them and move on. I'm just writing from the perspective of understanding that there's a lot of trans people who are very very sore about the whole affair.

>>41051522
>cishet
If he's het, he has a lot of explaining to do, lol. Whatever you say, pal, your projection ain't my problem.

>>41051695
oh, now i get it. you are that tall and that's why you rep. no one who isn't a repper themselves comes into a thread saying
>Absolutely! A passoid going "im a boy" is a very very good way to get hons to rope
"pal." like, why do you even care if hons rope? you really think hons are the danger to someone like her?

>>41051748
I think they're a danger to themselves.

>>41051781
>The smart ones will detransition soon after, the others will rope, then everyone wins with less hons in the world
no one reading this thread is going to look at your posts and believe you are anything other than a repper or a larper. this is your last (You)

>>41049462 (OP)
>a she/her HRT femboy
struggling with this rn. I almost wanna socially detransition but keep taking hrt
> why
being trans sucks and pretending to be a woman sucks too but having tits and being a fag is kinda kewl

>>41051805
Meh, what they believe does not change the weight of what I said. This sounds entirely like a "you" issue

>>41049462 (OP)
>>41051508
if you’re stealth to most of them it would be an extremely bad idea. they could start treating you differently in the bad way, even unconsciously. if you want to be seen as tougher try just doing/wearing things that signify that or outright tell people you get annoyed when you’re treated like you’re helpless (this will let them know to stop doing that without actually accusing them of doing so)

>>41051832
Honestly just started doing this, myself. Detransitioned socially - went back to old name, don't tell anyone my pronouns (any/all if asked), packed all of my women's clothes into a box and tossed them into the back of the garage to be donated to Goodwill sometime soonish. It's a little soul crushing, but better than trying and failing miserably to be acknowledged as a woman every day.
I WISH I had the privilege to joke about being a boy. Any time I attempt to joke about it, I'm treated like I suggested killing myself.
Not dropping HRT, tho. I like the effects, I'm just a realist on how people see me.

>>41052073
I wish we could force you off hrt. Nothing would bring me more joy than seeing the smug grin on your face wiped off.

>>41052073
>packed all of my women's clothes into a box
yeah i mainly dress androgynous. I don't mind going out as feminine and if i really really try i can at least appear as a woman but 1. I dont sound like one 2. i dont look like one naked and 3. it feels silly to talk to people who very much can tell i am not one of them (a woman) but keep pretending to be nice.
wish i could just be a cute guy with long hair and jewelry who acts very effeminately.. and has tits that he is happy with xp

>>41052089
Oh, I'm not smug at all about any of this. There's no soul left in me, I'm just trying to have the least amount of pain possible before I die.
Honestly give it some time and the current US admin will probably find some way to make it impossible for me. Honestly I'm just gonna shoot myself when that happens, if not before. Whatever.
>>41052108
I randomly pass now and then, even after going back to men's clothes and general masc presentation -- which is even more painful now.