Thread 41540152

Where do you go to look for a relationship? I've only been in 2 my whole life(I'm 30 both lasted year) and they were both with people I met off of 4chan. One another troon from /v/ and the other a guy off frengen, but I've realized that I just got lucky both those time and I'm kinda lost on how to find someone to date because I'm getting too fucking old to be alone.

>>41540152 (OP)
No idea. I'm the same age and got out of a relationship that lasted for 4 years a few months ago.

>>41540152 (OP)
First I met from high school theater. Second I met on okcupid. Third I met on okcupid. Fourth I met on whisper.

what’s your type?
are you feminine?
do you vc?

I've been wondering this too but unfortunately the answer is dating apps, if you don't enjoy bars/clubs

>>41540152 (OP)
>Where do you go to look for a relationship?
anywhere but discord

>>41540152 (OP)
>30
Stop preying on kids, date people your own age. I don't care if you feel like you are 21. I see posts from older anons on here occasionally, or join a lgbtq friendly boomer trannycord server.

>>41540527
>lgbtq friendly boomer trannycord server
where is the older 4chan trannycord sever? I would love to join it

>>41540527
i also would like to state i dont want to date anyone younger than like 6 years of me and my first relationship i was 26 they were 25 second i was 29 they were 27

>>41540152 (OP)
most people meet on dating apps- there's nothing else as reliably available
after that it's normal to meet people at work/ school or dating friends of friends, where you at least know each other a bit first, maybe then getting into some group hobby or going out to bars and stuff
getting into online relationships, idk, it just kind of happens in some circles when they're close-knit and there are some spaces geared towards sex and dating, but that's also doomed to kinda suck and not work out most of the time

>>41540635
The problem with 4chan guys is that this is the norm. It's always someone 23, 24, 25, and never someone 33, 34, 35. There probably are guys your age to give you a wider dating pool, but if you aren't noticing them, you won't find them.

>>41540152 (OP)
>I've realized that I just got lucky
unless you're the type of person to seek out relationships, in which case you'd be doing that in like gens or dating apps, i feel like it just happens randomly and that's exactly the way it works. using dating apps/any form of thing that is for seeking out relationships i think adds a filter on anyone you meet as looking for a relationship and at least i don't really want that type of person necessarily so i would say to maybe not do that unless this is the type of person you want

tldr just exist and it happens randomly unless you're completely socially isolated

>>41540152 (OP)
I mostly met people at bars and clubs, but my current relationship started on Hinge, that app is more for like serious relationships and not flings. And we've been together almost two years since. But in my years of seeking people out at clubs, it feels like some years it hits and some years it doesn't, like one restless summer can become a ceaseless chain of new friends and lovers and then the next it's just like nobody is around anymore. idk I think life gives you at least one good year like that, to remember fondly.

>>41540821
>>41540890
>dating adds a filter
Sadly this. See a high 'compatibility' profile. Similar beliefs, safe zodiac sign, decent looking, kind, seems wholesome really.
>Works in the film industry
X:

>>41540620
I'm not trans, don't have a link, sorry

>>41540975
Dating apps can work, but they really only work well for adjusted 'normal' people. It's hard to use them for people with autism or psych divergence. Just a whole culture of ghosting, white lying, and playing the field that's rough to navigate.

>>41540152 (OP)
OP stole my frengen image

>>41540152 (OP)
Bumble friends unironically. Gays try to come onto everyone on there, lol.

>>41541896
yeah i liked it im sorry

>>41540477
>>41540821
>>41540975
So like how do you progress from meeting at club/bar to actual relationship if you are stealth? I feel like most men at bars and clubs do not want to date troons

>>41543086
>I feel like most men at bars and clubs do not want to date troons
I feel like a lot of dudes are curious enough to try and hit that as a sneaky link, but not date lol.

>>41543272
Yeah, but i dont want dl sex :(

>>41540152 (OP)
I'm in the same boat. All the "normal" methods are awful so I'm just hoping to get lucky again.

>>41540152 (OP)
idk i think as you get older you will come to accept being alone. many people are. its normal

>>41540152 (OP)
Well it's important to know what you are compatible with and what you are looking for. If you're not the socializing kind of person you won't be able to find someone through going out, troon or not.

I'm a rather normal looking cis guy who in theory could do all the usual dating stuff (like bars/clubs or tinder/bumble for het, and gay scene and grindr for dudes) but I'm very neurodivergent and I hate every second of it whenever I try (and I tried a lot). I learned the "hard" way that I'm incompatible with normies and normie dating, but I guess this is fine, I just stopped trying that way.

I tried dating off 4chan for a bit because generally the people from here are more compatible. I just needed to get used to the fact that the only women on here are trannies (bot on the flip side, they fuck on the first date, so I've never had as much sex as when dating off 4chan). The problem here is more the distance, that if I got to know someone we often lived hours apart. Also most people on here are completely dysfunctional and I've got a way to normal-ass life for this.

So now I'm trying to get to know people through shared hobbies and spaces. And while I feels much better, with much less anxiety and even if it doesn't work out you still get some local friends, I am still (or again) single... So it's not really working either

>>41540152 (OP)
I'm wondering the same thing OP

>>41544082
yeah everyone i meet online lives pretty far away from me it's pretty shitty

i feel more in common with certain guys on 4chan than i do at gay bars, where it's a mix of normies and the truly depraved. normies can be boyfriendable, but like if you can't call them a faggot without hurting their feelings it ain't gonna work out. need me a man that has a good sense of humor is all i'm saying

>>41544920
yeah, i feel this hard, dating irl i'm waiting for the political gaybomb to drop, feeling out whether everything i say should be put through the moderate ambivalence filter

>>41545108
yeah i called someone a fag once and it was over irl

dont have to worry about that on 4chan

>>41540527
Any adult can date any adult

>>41544082
anon, can I ask you on which thread you found trans women to meet ? the ones on /soc/ ?
sorry, I may sound weird but I'm unable to find any trannies since mine left on dating sites, despite being tall, fit and young. I don't understand why pulling cissoids is so much easier, I'm tired of it.

>>41545868
4chan has an aging userbase, when boomers say they can't find anyone, it's because they are screening out people in their own age brackets
oh btw, these guys always say they look or feel younger than their age to justify it, yeah a 30 year old can have sex with a 23 year old, but it's undeniable that the 7 year gap isn't going away and chasing youth after he leaves, it'll get wider

>>41542995
Its whatevs, should check out her other art
https://x.com/END80236189

>>41546075
>4chan has an aging userbase, when boomers say they can't find anyone, it's because they are screening out people in their own age brackets
not at all please for the love of god send me someone my age please please please