My marriage has failed and I need a book to read to distract myself and maybe help me through it. Preferably something somber and with themes of loss but not too depressing... Anyone have recs?

What happened

>>24456661 (OP)
Did your marriage fail, or did you fail your marriage?

>>24456661 (OP)
Start eating organ meats and gorgonzola

>>24456665
My own flaws ruined it. Apparently it was "a mistake to get married," and "we were never meant to do that." It was difficult to be with me because of my jealousy, moodiness, and past mistakes and manipulation. And of course there is also someone else he is interested in now.
>>24456673
Some of both. There's a lot I messed up on but I was completely loyal and always tried to grow and improve. I stupidly believed that my own complete commitment and ideological opposition to giving up on a marriage no matter what was mutual.

>>24456683
>he
How the fuck does a married woman come to undergrad pseud land?

>>24456697
Gay people exist anon

>>24456697
I used to spend a lot of time on this board and I'm out of ideas on what to read.

>>24456715
You should read Honore de Balzac. Good and distracting stuff.

>>24456725
Thanks for the rec, I'll give him a try but I am heavily prejudiced against the French

>>24456736
Now you'll know what types of french people you really hate

>>24456661 (OP)
you don't need a book, you need a mirror.

>>24456683
if you're cute hit me up, and for my rec try the moviegoer by walker percy

>>24456661 (OP)
In Love by Alfred Hayes
Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy

I was reading Lovecraft for a couple weeks after my marriage failed because my head was too much in a swirl to process non-pulp. The Waste Land and Crow were the next things I read when I felt really up to it.

>>24456683
What's your bodycount? What's your husband's bodycount?

>>24456661 (OP)
Red Queen, the Manipulated Man

>>24456813
Giving this one a read since it's a good length that I can finish it even if it turns out not that good. It's decent so far, thanks.
>>24456818
Hitchhiker's Guide, really?

>>24457026
answer the question >>24456929

>>24457026
do you feel better knowing you are the desirable waifu of hundreds of /lit/izens who would enjoy a night in of reading then boisterous debate with you?

>>24457072
a lot of people are just horny out of their mind for ideas in their head they project onto other people

and i thought the board had improved after the retarded 'how to understand women' threads stopped.

>>24457059
I'm not going to tell you because I hate statistics and the soulless people who pay attention to them.

>>24456929
Really says more about the seriousness with which religious people treat marriage.

Also why are you faggots trying to get pussy off /lit/?

>>24457118
getting pussy isn't hard, getting well educated lit pussy is the dream.
OP, I can make you happy, not with money but I can keep your mind and body stimulated.

>>24456683
>jealousy, moodiness, and past mistakes
You fucked a lot of guys before you got married and projected your whore attitude onto your husband?

>>24456661 (OP)

The rest of the Southern Trilogy too if you're interested, though they're not as good as Annihilation imo. "Acceptance" might help later on in your process for obvious reasons.

>>24456661 (OP)
>Dido and Aeneas
well why not Chris Marlowe's collected plays? Also check out the BBC radioplay collection of them

>>24457136
*Southern Reach Trilogy mb

>>24456683
No front, but that's a common cause nowadays. Wish you best. If it cheers you up, I'm going to die relatively young.
Would you recommend young people or rather men to marriage, despite it's odds?

>>24457096
You're a slut, aren't you? That's why your marriage failed, because you didn't save your virginity for your husband.

sometimes i feel sad cause im a virgin neet loser, but at least im not getting divorce raped, having to pay child support, and or getting stds

>>24457168
Kek, women really be like that. After they ride the cock carousel and take miles of dicks thrust in them, they expect a husband who'll truly love them unconditionally.

>>24456661 (OP)
Yoda bad lip reading 100x skip the books and thnk me later

>>24457188
There's no reward in the risk of doing nothing. You're trading security and comfort now for life experiences you'll realize too late were actually important and you will not simply "catch up" with.

How do I know? Because I'm also a virgin neet loser, but with painful regrets. Doesn't have to be you.

>>24457228
This. just get divorce raped. it sucks but its probably better than never being in a position to be a viable divorce rape victim

>>24457236
I would advise never having the money to be a viable victim of divorce rape in the first place

>>24457236
Sorry to hear. Is there no protection at all?

>>24456661 (OP)
Proverbs

Lolita

>>24457236
This is the worst-phrased assent to my post I could imagine, which is funny.

>>24457249
You're both focusing only on the worst outcome. If you've been divorced I get why, but people do often find happiness in marriage. Sometimes it takes longer to get there, but I bet anyone who's been happily married for a while can confirm the past upsets were overall worth it.

>>24457289
nta obviously but maturity and reading people would be two, which in part come from the experience of failed relationships. That's why it's important to not defer the process. Said relationships don't have to go so far as marriage-to-divorce, and so is protective against a large "failure of investment," but there is no sure protection in life. It was better to begin yesterday but now must suffice.

>>24456683
Please be in London

>>24457136
This looks really interesting, I will read this too, thank you.
>>24457153
Yes, I would recommend it honestly. Despite the pain it's causing me, I have grown and matured in ways I never would have been able to without the experience. On the one hand, it's hard to imagine life on the other side of all this, but on the other I know if I were still single I would be longing for it forever anyways. Despite all the promises and vows before God, you never truly know if someone will be able to follow through, no matter how devout.

>>24457379
You do realize women mutate after marriage? While due diligence as you say is essential, no doubt, it's not enough. Anyways, I was asking if there are contracts or the like to avoid getting mugged. Maybe hide the money or Idk.

>>24457582
dont know a single happily married couple. they all have their issues. almost all pretty severe issues where one or the other has to majorly alter their personality for the worse to maintain the relationship. hang around with a supposedly happy couple for a weekend (who have been together 5 or more years). unbelievable amount of bickering. no exceptions.

>>24457586
>dont know a single happily married couple
I'd say I met them as child, but the recent 15 years? Nope. Best case, they ignore each other.
>all have issues
They all have colossal issues.
>maintain relationships
It's true, there's always one clown.
>hang around...
No thanks, bro. Some couples do have their mandatory third wheel.

>>24457557
Did I hit too close to home? >>24457168
>promises and vows before God
You know God hates fornicators and sluts, right? That's why He let your marriage failed. Because you didn't save your virginity for your husband.

>>24457669
Leave the billion dollar company alone

>>24456661 (OP)
>>24456683
this book is the book to fix your marriage, and if it doesn't, then it will guarantee your next relationship to stay fixed until whenever you decide to end it, which, based on the methodology, might very well be never.
the cause of the decline of your marriage is NOT what you think. so try and read this book with an open mind. also, just read chapters 1, 2, 4, 7 and the end summary. the book is very repetitious and longer than it needs to be.

>>24458999
Care to sum it up? Are there like mistakes that no one avoids, like
>farting with your mouth open
or
>farting while you move your arma
or
>farting with one closed eye
Are these main criteria for failing marriages?

>>24456661 (OP)
also got dumped fairly recently, here are some modern books I've read since - I'm not saying they're "good", but I enjoyed them in this time:
Convenience Store Woman - autistic woman trying to live her way in japanese society
Gone Girl - revenge porn, you've probably seen the movie
Weyward - also kind of revenge porn, generations of women treated badly by generations of men
The Stepford Wives - surely your man is different and wouldn't want a maid/sexbot to replace you, right?
Project Hail Mary - quirky, fun

>>24459403
>also got dumped fairly recently
How did it happen?

>>24460678
he told me he met someone else

>>24459375
download a pdf on anna's archive and read the 'how do I explain this to my friends?' summary at the end. I have no idea what you mean by any of what you said. like I know it's a joke, but it's a bit incoherent.

>>24461093
>a bit incoherent.
Admittedly

After my marriage failed I just read comedies or escapism like Captain Blood, The Time Machine, and Rabelais. Why da fuck would you want to read something somber if you’re trying to distract yourself from feeling somber?

>>24456661 (OP)
Read Stoner.>>24456673

Are you a woman or are you a homosexual man? I need to know so I can reccomend a book for you accordingly.

>>24457136
Didn't think my thread would still be up to thank you again for this rec, I finished it today and it was very poignant, just what I was asking for. I'll give the other books a read as well.
>>24461180
Catharsis. It helps process difficult emotions to read through stories of people doing just that.

>>24457096
lol
you could have simply ignored the question, but you answered it in your attempt to dismiss it