Welp
My dad is dying. I always hated my dad, I can honestly tell you guys that I never learned a single thing from my dad.
But he's my dad and he's dying. It's the sundowning phase of alzheimers/dementia/whatever the doctors have been neglecting.
So how do you deal with guilt? I hate my dad and pretty much everyone in my family hates me.
I hope USA gets in a civil war, I wanna move to italy and pretend I've lived there my whle life.
fck I hate this shit I'm drunk, how do you dea with your dad dying when he's a faggot that never taught you anything

>>507852811 (OP)
did he ever rape you while you sleep?

>>507852811 (OP)
BAN ME niggers this is some off-topc shit

>>507852811 (OP)
You hate him for reasons, but when he's gone you'll miss him for non-reasons.

>>507852811 (OP)
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>>507852811 (OP)
I'm sorry about your dad and the fucked up family situation. This too shall pass. All the best.

>>507852811 (OP)
Kind of in a similar situation, it's your duty to take care of him, spend some time with him or you'll regret it, anyways stay strong

It's perfectly normal to hate people anon, don't let society ever tell you otherwise. What we do with this hatred is totally up to you though. Choose wisely.

>>507852811 (OP)
>So how do you deal with guilt?
The blood of Christ Jesus the Lord.

>>507852811 (OP)
Forgive and ask for forgiveness.
Even if someone doesn't forgive you, the entire burden is on them, not on you.
You'll only answer to your maker, it's between you and God. After that you will stop hating.

>>507852811 (OP)
821am on a Wednesday you drunk and not working. No wonder he hates you. Day off? It sucks when a parent dies my mom died in 2019. Sweetest woman I ever knew in my life. I know it's cliche but once they die the pain doesn't stop until years later. You literally just got to live with it.

>>507852811 (OP)
Could be worse. You could be losing someone you actually care about. My dad died of Alzheimers 6 years ago and not a day goes by where I don't think about him. I visited his grave on Father's day with my mother and we both cried like babies.

>>507852811 (OP)
I fear the day when my mom time comes, I don't think I be ready much less know what to do

>>507852811 (OP)
Try to stop blaming him and forgive him while he’s still alive. Unless he raped you or something. Simply “not teaching you anything” isn’t a good enough reason. Most of that is on you for not getting over it and learning shit on your own

>>507852811 (OP)

Everybody dies and you know that you will die form the moment you are born. Question is will you be reborn or not. If you die with hatred you will be reborn with it. If you die after having caused suffering you will be reborn with it. Again and again until you learn your lesson.

Can we permaban frogbloggers? I don't give a FUCK about the trivialities of their pathetic lives.

>>507852811 (OP)
If you truly hate him then he did teach you something

>>507852811 (OP)
Forgiving your dad isn't for him. It's for you. That's the reason you're wracked with guilt. Also he probably still taught you more than anyone else in your life, albeit indirectly. Whether you like it or not who he is shaped who you became.

>>507852811 (OP)
>So how do you deal with guilt? I hate my dad
Why guilt if you hate him? Methinks one word is inaccurate.

>how do you dea with your dad dying when he's a faggot that never taught you anything
Wouldn't say he never taught me anything but wasn't ever fully on my team, more on his own team, so fuck it. There have been a few times I wished I could ask him about some old shit, but that's about it. Didn't hate him, but it basically wasn't my problem.

Someone dying isn't always that emotional.

My dad and I have an ok relationship. He lived near me his whole life but as soon as I have kids he left the state. I blame his wife but still. It's pulled us apart and we talk maybe twice a year.

A year or so ago I was on a job site (general contractor) and a guy walked in thinking the store was open and it looked so much like my dad I was shocked. It actually made me tear up a little because my first thought was that he came to see me. I'm a life-hardened 44 year old that almost cried at work because I thought my dad came to see me. It was a totally instinctual response but nothing like that has ever happened before. Made me realize how little I understand about emotions but also how important my dad actually is to me

>>507852811 (OP)
>It's the sundowning phase of alzheimers/dementia/whatever the doctors have been neglecting.
i could place some stuff, to help your fathers brain, but once the brain is depleted of the fat and memories, those things will not come back.
>how do you dea with your dad dying when he's a faggot that never taught you anything
just understand that is not your father fault. his father didnt teach him anything as well, because after ww2 the tradition of transmitting knowledge was broken because of lot of dads died in the war, jews used this opportunity to put the "hippy time" propaganda to make your father, stop worrying about traditions and being addicted to "sex,drugs and rock n roll".
stay with him until the end, then after he is gone, go live anywhere, anyplace, the way you want, not the way he wanted.

>>507852811 (OP)
>My dad is dying
Lol

>>507852811 (OP)
Do a song and dance routine on his casket at the burial ceremony

>>507855465
>>507855493
Looks like we got a couple of abortion survivors, or maybe street shitting benchods hahaha

I'm in the same situation as you; father hasn't known me for 5 years now. My Dad worked 6.5 days a weeks, so I didn't have the greatest relationship with him - nothing bad per se, but mostly the bare minimum of time. Not upset at him, he was grinding for a better life for the family.

Alzheimer's is a really odd disease. If you get cancer, everyone feels bad and visits you in the hospital; maybe you get better or maybe you die. With Alzheimer's the person just fades away, but is still there. My Dad is very healthy by has lost his marbles. We got lucky he is happy Alzheimer's, so he is always smiling and good natured.

There is odd guilt, because they can really just be forgotten. Birthdays, special events don't really matter, because he has no concept of a special day. So many things don't get celebrated. Some people like wives can get resentful towards the person for 'leaving' them. They are very much alive, but really turn into a burden - memory care wings for homes are very expensive as the people need a lot of care/watching/support. You pay a lot and get nothing back.

Best of luck anon. It happens to everyone in our family, so I have to time is correctly to 'check out' before losing it. In Canada you have to be of sound mind to get MAID. So, you may have to go a little earlier than you would have liked. I'm an oldefag and probably only have 10 years left to be sure I can get out before becoming the zombie burden to the family. Sad all around. Let the anger go against your Dad first. That is just a burden on your and you aren't going to get any reconciliation or a chance to start again. You WILL end up feeling guilty if you can't work that anger out.

>>507856069
>UK flag

Wouldn't that be you, Sandeep?

>>507852811 (OP)
Forgiving yourself and others is always an option.

>>507852811 (OP)
Tell him everything that you've been holding inside. Just sit by his deathbed, alone if possible. Tell your family or whoever is looking after him to take a break.

And just let out everything you've wanted to say. You owe it to him, and more importantly he owes it to you.

>>507852811 (OP)
>my dad treated me like shit for my entire life and never did anything
>oh no he's dying and everyone else feels bad and I don't???
Mental illness
You don't have to feel guilty
Maybe play face for your family (assuming they give a shit about you either)
The only reason you feel bad at all is because other people expect you to, which is worse
Is it better to be some apathetic asshole or a histrionic that acts and feels the way they're expected?