>>508139122 (OP)In my case, i had narcissistic baby boomer parents that wanted to micromanage me to the point where they would tell me how to feel, and any time I attempted to express an emotion they would make it about them and I would slowly lose the ability to have feelings. Similar to what many drill sergeants do to recruits but far more abusive and selfish without reason.
e.g. Once my father took my dog out and let her run, she got hit and killed by a car, when I went to cry my mother would immediately storm in and scream that it wasn't their fault, they didn't do this, and behind bringing up fights from when I was a child, turning my sadness to anger - then my father would threaten me, put his hands on me, and threaten to call the cops and put me in jail (which they had by lying).
They seemed to think parenting meant they were up against their kids, and took each others sides against me and my brother who sexually molested me (my parents downplayed that to protect him). For what it's worth, i was as respectful, gentlemanly, polite and well mannered as a royal, but they treated me like a fucking scumbag delinquent and gave me that reputation by humiliating me in front of my family and peers. I used to shake at the thought of coming home from school, but didn't get much relief from school because my father was a teacher there also and he would humiliate and lie about me in front of my classmates.
Sometimes they would accuse me of something I had zero knowledge of, and when I said I did nothing, he would grab my arm and with his fingernails digging into my skin while he was yelling and spitting my face he would swat me in front of others.
They were incredibly miserable motherfuckers that were never positive, blamed their kids for everything, contradicted me every time I would speak, lie to me, keep me dependant by taking tools and opportunities away, neglecting a constructive education and treating me like a cop treats an arrested suspect most of the time.