Do women with BPD target autists? - /pol/ (#508280865) [Archived: 931 hours ago]

Anonymous ID: y3vDBvHiUnited States
6/22/2025, 5:46:45 AM No.508280865
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If so, why?
Is it intentional?
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Anonymous ID: VVxZrqg3United States
6/22/2025, 5:54:05 AM No.508281684
rofl no

no one is touching your badly aged ass.
Anonymous ID: AWvA9BMq
6/22/2025, 5:54:51 AM No.508281767
>>508280865 (OP)
Your kind are retarded and easily manipulated. Also why troons groom you.
Anonymous ID: BTNqfkkXSweden
6/22/2025, 5:56:55 AM No.508281985
>>508280865 (OP)
They will target anyone availalble. In that age range that might be guys like that.
Anonymous ID: Fy6RsCiQUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:03:09 AM No.508282666
>>508280865 (OP)
Iโ€™m already used to this shit from female family members. The worst that could happen is she accuses me of rape/battery. But I would put cameras everywhere and log all my times in and out of the house.
Anonymous ID: RIYZ1EQUUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:04:36 AM No.508282809
>>508280865 (OP)
I never heard of BPD preference being autists. I honestly don't know what kind of women like autists. I know which men like female autists tho.
Anonymous ID: 5VJh9wLsSwitzerland
6/22/2025, 6:05:00 AM No.508282858
>>508280865 (OP)
autists often can't tell if someone has hidden motives and are easier to manipulate if you know how.

they are literal people and can be lied to more easily.

it's as simple as that imo
Anonymous ID: oE6x4J4cUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:06:36 AM No.508283031
I don't think they target them, only that they are prime candidates for feeling like special saviors to poor mistreated girl and don't have the experience to recognize red flags.
Happened to me. Fell for it, discarded, can't think about anyone else since.
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Dr. No ID: Km60xYAQUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:07:11 AM No.508283081
>>508280865 (OP)
Emotionally unstable women will attack anyone they can get away with.
Anonymous ID: eMq/6poYUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:08:29 AM No.508283223
>>508280865 (OP)
I am a BPD woman but also autistic. So I can't really answer, but for me I just love anyone that loves me. Everything I do that hurts my partners isn't even intentional and in an idealistic situation could have been avoided. I am just a little angel.
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Anonymous ID: udSipbh0United States
6/22/2025, 6:08:46 AM No.508283251
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i hope so
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Anonymous ID: 5/Sw6+Z9United States
6/22/2025, 6:08:53 AM No.508283263
>>508280865 (OP)
I never thought about this before, but it would make sense. Good thing Iโ€™m only kind of autistic, Iโ€™m too gullible and trusting, but not enough to fall for it when this BPDemon tried to babytrap me.
Anonymous ID: eMq/6poYUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:09:42 AM No.508283348
>>508283223
Also apparently my BPD gives me dick sucking super powers
Anonymous ID: Zw2Llf0VUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:10:18 AM No.508283404
>>508280865 (OP)
autists are easier to manipulate, especially incels who get their first ever crumb of pussy from a borderline girl (the most dangerous combo ever, a man who doesn't have experience with women with a manipulative woman)
Dr. No ID: Km60xYAQUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:10:20 AM No.508283408
>>508283031


Men simp for women(tuch muh pp) so much that they say "not all women, tuch muh pp, believe all women, tuch muh pp, provide for women, tuch muh pp) and you can't trust them when they do. ALL husbands lose their reason to their own hormonal storm that turns them into a feminist supporter because [PROTECT] [FAMILY]. That would be fine if he didn't lock up innocent men because his woman said so. I mean the thing where she says "Did you hear what happened in the next town over? Bla bla bla misogyny bla" so you help an innocent man get arrested and his family destroyed because a woman said so.

YOU are the problem with Women. Women are delusional about reality. Men are delusional about women. "Marriage" is a trap. Government marriage is slavery to people that want to control you when successful and slander you if you fail.

The men in our society get no respect and they deserve none. You pay your money for what you want. Do not simp-out and force everyone to pay for what you want. If you want single-mothers covered, YOU cover them with YOUR money.

I have income that is not taxable because I refuse to pay for women I never met. Find out who made that mess and leave the rest of us out of it.

Asshole narcissistic simps.
Anonymous ID: dlaEyIfwUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:12:08 AM No.508283615
>>508283251
Why is this crusty the clown looking bitch being posted everywhere?
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Anonymous ID: OimNvpBkUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:14:44 AM No.508283865
>>508280865 (OP)
they target literally anyone. they can smell weakness.
Anonymous ID: y1NTwRYQUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:18:20 AM No.508284275
I'm am autist that targets women with bpd. Explain that.
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Anonymous ID: GZyEqQadUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:18:32 AM No.508284296
Well I'm not autistic but I'm a diagnosed schizoid (only found out after getting out of the military) and my wife is BPD.
She acts crazy but I don't really care? She just talks a lot and yells and cries but I just nod or whatever and think of something else and eventually she apologizes and we have sex.

We have kids and yeah she was my first gf ever and it was easy, and I did nut raw in her on the second date, and she did have a terrible relationship with her family. But navigating through normie space is pretty easy if you just turn their volume to zero for any nagging or emotional stuff it literally doesn't matter. Her parents bought us a house and her dad told me thanks for taking care of his daughter, but it feels like I'm not doing anything that out of the way if I'm being honest. Sometimes I even get away with insane stuff and shut her down with like the meme with the wife crying about random shit like "what about the children!" and he replies "appeal to emotion"
I don't have experience with women but I had already assumed they were all like this? I was raised by my uncle, so I just played videogames all day and he never talked to me, so I don't have a mom for reference either.

Sorry bros, BPD semen demons belong to guys like us. Thought I'd drop an alternative viewpoint in here.
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Anonymous ID: gY1j+J15United States
6/22/2025, 6:20:29 AM No.508284495
>>508280865 (OP)
I'm a diagnosed autist (late, at 14). In my mid 30s now, slept with about 70 women. BPD is actually very rare. I've fucked three times more schizos than BPD. BPD chick was actually cool, but I knew it wouldn't work out. They're just mentally unwell, and any dark triad shadowy power they have is separate from that.
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Anonymous ID: /uHq/GxICroatia
6/22/2025, 6:20:57 AM No.508284540
>>508280865 (OP)
Just date autistic girls then. What's the problem?
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Anonymous ID: VgRjQLrLUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:21:59 AM No.508284659
>>508284296
Schizoid personality type could be a useful counterbalance for a BPD woman. Sadly most anons here with think that means schizophrenia.
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Anonymous ID: fo18idFXUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:28:49 AM No.508285304
>>508284659
I've often thought I might have an extreme case of schizoid personality disorder. I'm in my mid-thirties and I have literally never tried to even speak to a woman outside of a professional setting, much less had sex with one. I have an extreme disinterest in pursuing romantic relationships, friendships (0), or even anything beyond surface-level relationships with family. I don't like being acknowledged or perceived in any way, I hate it when people know literally anything about me, and I'm only mildly bothered by the idea of spending the next fifty to sixty years alone with my media in my room, without even any pets. There aren't even any pictures of me online.
What's even odder is that I entered into a creative type of career where people often fall all over themselves to praise your work and ideas. I just feel nothing when I receive it.
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Anonymous ID: UJXJCf7cUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:29:56 AM No.508285419
>>508284296
you are right but most guys can't take the insults and abuse. IF you can tune it out and just ignore the nagging and insults they reset so fast you quickly learn that their outburts and fights dont matter at all. I feel like they are all like this deep down anyways and its just a sliding scale of how bad they are anyways. They are basically children trying to drag you down to their level when they snap you just have to be the adult and ignore the outbursts.
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Anonymous ID: srOSVECaUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:32:26 AM No.508285698
>>508280865 (OP)
Because fefails prey on the weak and vulnerable.
>Why?
They have no tail.
Anonymous ID: W1XyI3itUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:32:41 AM No.508285719
>>508284275
>I'm a fly that targets spiders and purposely gets trapped in their web heh explain THAT atheists
Anonymous ID: VgRjQLrLUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:32:43 AM No.508285723
I used to date a woman with BPD for five years. It was nuts! She was constantly having meltdowns over the littlest shit and made my life miserable. I was with her for so long for two reasons. The first reason is that I felt like a prisoner in the relationship. The other reason is despite her horrible personality she was a 9.5/10 as far as looks and she was ALWAYS down to fuck. Admittedly, I was weak. A guy will put up with a lot if a gorgeous woman constantly wants to have sex with you. Thank God I didn't get her pregnant. I'm pretty sure she was trying to get pregnant. She was from upstate New York. Half Italian and half German heritage. Her German grandmother attended the Nuremberg rallies. Her grandmother is the only person I've ever met that saw Hortler in the flesh.
Anyway, to anyone reading this, avoid women with BPD. They will make your life a living hell. The only thing good about them is they tend to have high sex drives, but you are trading off for a life of constant conflict.
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Anonymous ID: RoXf4p/rNetherlands
6/22/2025, 6:32:50 AM No.508285733
>>508280865 (OP)
Yes.
Because they think autists acquiesce to their demands in exchange for that fake love.
It's intentional. It's also dangerous, because an autist in anger is a very good rapist.
Anonymous ID: Y8mdXB9SUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:36:59 AM No.508286160
>>508284495
how do you do it?
Anonymous ID: qao1SvBFCanada
6/22/2025, 6:37:19 AM No.508286193
>>508280865 (OP)
My bpd ex was HORRIFIC. Like watch doctor phil for new gaslighting techniques horrific. They deserve to be culled. Wasnt even good in bed, I got gyped.
Anonymous ID: tzGfJuJNUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:38:33 AM No.508286301
yes but not consciously
BPD women interpret autistic flat affect as emotional stability, but the less socially experienced teh autist the less well positioned they are to understand and handle an unstable woman. BPD women are sincere, just kinda deranged
Anonymous ID: Zw2Llf0VUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:38:41 AM No.508286312
>>508284296
she's not that bad because her dad is part of her life. the dangerous combo is BPD + fatherless + daddy issues
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Anonymous ID: VgRjQLrLUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:39:29 AM No.508286402
>>508285304
My older sister married a guy with schizoid personality type. My brother in law is a really nice guy but he is just sort of socially "distant" and kind of keeps to himself. He's an electronic engineer by trade but he is also a creative type in the sense that he is a multi instrument playing musician. My sister who he married is kind of like that as well. They are perfect for each other.
Anonymous ID: Zw2Llf0VUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:40:51 AM No.508286549
>>508285723
>A guy will put up with a lot if a gorgeous woman constantly wants to have sex with you.
unfortunately my entire dating history idk why it feels like I'm a magnet for BPD girls but holy fuck literally any other type of woman doesn't even reciprocate my attention meanwhile BPDs will drive 1 hour to your house at 2 am to fuck if you say you want it
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Anonymous ID: VgRjQLrLUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:44:45 AM No.508286947
>>508286312
That was my ex for sure. She actually had a decent stepdad who I got along with. He tried to be a good father to her but she rejected him. Too bad since he is a good man. Interesting enough my BPD ex never knew her biological father since he was a sperm donor. Her mother was married to a guy in the military that was shooting blanks and she got knocked up in a fertility clinic. Her husband (who would have been her dad) divorced her mom halfway through the pregnancy.
Anonymous ID: BrHK+sSrDenmark
6/22/2025, 6:45:26 AM No.508287011
I got totally fucking mentally annihilated as a 15 yo fatherless autist when I got into it with a total psycho BPD whore. She was like a mideval torturer but mentally instead of physically, the fucking craftsmanship they can put into destroying your self esteem.
Anonymous ID: BAdZeGBWUnited Kingdom
6/22/2025, 6:46:36 AM No.508287142
a lot of BPD women are ugly or mid
Anonymous ID: d2676Lps
6/22/2025, 6:47:05 AM No.508287192
>>508280865 (OP)
Oh, this thread again.

As other anons have posted, autists are easy prey for BPD women. They also are on opposite ends of the spectrum; BPD women can set up the most complicated of social traps (via their excellent manipulation) whereas autists cannot even attempt to do this, yet would have no problem being low empathy and "dangerous" enough to doing something that society would find heinous but the autist would describe as "whatever." Autists are also prone to NPD or behaviors like NPD which attracts BPD AND because BPD requires disintegration of the self to mirror another it could be seen as an expression of autism because in order to be hyper interested in something you have to "become" the thing. This is why >>508283223 shouldn't sound like a complete psycho, loving anyone that loves you may be mirroring, but it's there because it "makes sense" the same way way you might mirror the behavior of an animal to be it's fren. It's the state of the heart that determines whether this is calculated manipulation for social gain or just trying to understand someone else. I think it's better to consider whether or not someone has an "object orientated" brain VS a people one, as object brains will be prone to low empathy and are systematic.

BPD, NPD, PTSD and autism all have lots of overlaps in behavioural expressions, with the personality disorders usually being expressions of trauma responses. I'm of the opinion that people who have strong personalities that are not controlled and refined to do good by the individual end up being absolute retards. People with NPD and BPD's biggest issues is that they're bullies and have never been punched in the face. Addiction to drama, addiction to being a victim, cluster Bs are insufferable because their addictions require another person's soul in order to be satiated. Are they actual demons? I don't know, but in my experience, autists and PTSDs are more capable of self awareness and attempts at humility and kindness.
Anonymous ID: W1XyI3itUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:47:21 AM No.508287225
>>508284540
Most autistic women are sheltered and coddled by their families so its a bit difficult. Even more so because some times they are like half retarded and totally helpless on their own.
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Anonymous ID: BAdZeGBWUnited Kingdom
6/22/2025, 6:47:58 AM No.508287292
>>508285723
>she was a 9.5/10 as far as looks
Post a picture of her mate. I don't believe ya.
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Anonymous ID: iRqpBTahUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:49:57 AM No.508287499
>>508280865 (OP)
Personality disorders are not real
Anonymous ID: Zw2Llf0VUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:50:05 AM No.508287512
>>508284540
>>508287225
faking autism became trendy on tiktok so every chick is calling themselves an autist and it's hard to find the actually real ones, besides stuff like collecting plushies and other infantile behavior
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Anonymous ID: VgRjQLrLUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:51:01 AM No.508287618
>>508286549
I totally know what you mean. Eventually for me the sex just wasn't worth all of the nonsense she had me put up with. When I finally broke up with her she had a meltdown on facebook and put me on blast. In some social circles she ruined my reputation. Within a week of our breakup she started dating a friend of a friend who had hit on her while we were together. I guess they are still together to this day and I heard they are getting married. At first I was pissed at this dude, but now I realize that she is his problem now. The best revenge I could ever want for this guy that was trying to hit on my gal is that he is now stuck with her.
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Anonymous ID: c4ZBFYFYUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:51:26 AM No.508287667
How is it possible when I can completely block off womenโ€™s feels whenever I want to (big dick turbo autismo chad here with extra aloof autism powers)
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Anonymous ID: BAdZeGBWUnited Kingdom
6/22/2025, 6:52:38 AM No.508287801
>>508287512
>besides stuff like collecting plushies
A lot of hot onlyfans girls collect plushies
There's a study showing that autistic girls and adhd girls are more likely to become sex workers.
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Anonymous ID: v4TEwoqPUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:53:24 AM No.508287901
>>508280865 (OP)
this is quite the philosophical debate. this is why i use 4chan.
Anonymous ID: /Xkn6xsCFinland
6/22/2025, 6:53:31 AM No.508287917
>>508280865 (OP)
politics? and wish so but no one does
Anonymous ID: HX96/DmiUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:53:35 AM No.508287927
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>>508283615
cute!
Anonymous ID: Zw2Llf0VUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:55:13 AM No.508288107
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>>508287618
>she started accusing me of being a groomer because she was 19 and I was 26 when we started dating aka she was literally a helpess child with an underdeveloped brain
been there and wow it's something else when you get random messages from people she knows telling you to kill yourself. hey at least it wasn't a rape allegation
Anonymous ID: W1XyI3itUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:55:57 AM No.508288185
>>508287512
Why would you even want a real autistic girlfriend...??

At that point, you're not even dating, youre spending all your time taking care of mentally handicap person.
Anonymous ID: 02mh7XKK
6/22/2025, 6:56:00 AM No.508288190
>>508280865 (OP)
Yes because they're easily manipulated and depending on the autist type either are in software development or some other high paying job so they can leech off of that, or they have hobbies that the women can steal.

For example a BPD whore I knew wanted to play MTG, so she got the local MTG champion, then she wanted to work in the comic book industry and she got the son of a local tycoon who had a comic book publishing company, and so on.
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Anonymous ID: D7txz9TIAustralia
6/22/2025, 6:56:06 AM No.508288205
>>508280865 (OP)
>you're a literal virgin sacrifice to a demon
Damn, that is actually profound.
Anonymous ID: l/JI92ZEUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:57:29 AM No.508288350
>>508280865 (OP)
What if I'm an autist with discouraged bpd
Anonymous ID: BAdZeGBWUnited Kingdom
6/22/2025, 6:58:13 AM No.508288423
>>508288190
>For example a BPD whore I knew wanted to play MTG, so she got the local MTG champion, then she wanted to work in the comic book industry and she got the son of a local tycoon who had a comic book publishing company, and so on.
Post pictures of her?
Anonymous ID: VgRjQLrLUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:58:14 AM No.508288425
>>508287292
I don't need validation from a paki in bongland. You don't have to believe me. I used to date absolutely gorgeous women when I was young and good looking myself. I don't date beautiful women anymore due to having my face scarred in an accident. I still have the memories though. My BPD ex was a model. She was gorgeous but crazier than a shit-house rat.
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Anonymous ID: D7txz9TIAustralia
6/22/2025, 6:58:18 AM No.508288431
>>508287667
Yeah sure pal, let's see how tism zen you remain when she baby traps you and you're biologically chained to her for life.
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Anonymous ID: cME3ePLMUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:58:18 AM No.508288433
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>>508280865 (OP)
Short answer:
They do and it's not necessarily intentional.
Long answer:
BPD have a damaged sense of self. They are essentially psychopaths with a myriad of fake personalities that they switch between subconsciously. As such their emotional and psychological self is in a state of constant chaos.
They do seek out people who appear to be very stable because they want that stability for themselves. Autists are very structured people who form routines and create stability for themselves.
It's not exactly intentional because BPD don't really have intentions. They act impulsively; They go with the flow and pursue what they want like a psychopath does.
They don't see an autist and think to themselves "hey it would be easy to ruin that guys life"
They see the stability of the autist and want it for themselves. When they can't get it because they are the chaos in their own lives then they destroy the autist in an act of revenge.
Anonymous ID: HX96/DmiUnited States
6/22/2025, 6:59:31 AM No.508288561
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>>508288431
hot
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Anonymous ID: BAdZeGBWUnited Kingdom
6/22/2025, 7:00:11 AM No.508288625
>>508285723
>she was a 9.5/10 as far as looks
Post a picture of her mate.
Anonymous ID: gY1j+J15United States
6/22/2025, 7:00:14 AM No.508288631
>>508284495
If you're masculine and become fit, all of your negative behaviors get reframed for the best possible interpretation. Halo effect.
Anonymous ID: TqAywNw1United States
6/22/2025, 7:00:34 AM No.508288676
>>508280865 (OP)
it's intentional to an extent as they are manipulators and naive autists are easy to manipulate. but BPDemons are barely sentient and cannot self reflect so they don't have any insights into why they do the things they do. They "know" what they're doing and choose to be that way but they're also broken retarded mental children.
Anonymous ID: BAdZeGBWUnited Kingdom
6/22/2025, 7:01:05 AM No.508288736
>>508285723
>she was a 9.5/10 as far as looks
Post a picture of her mate. I don't believe ya.
Anonymous ID: D7txz9TIAustralia
6/22/2025, 7:01:50 AM No.508288825
>>508288561
>hot
You sure?
>she leaves
>takes your child with her
>you know your kid is being tormented by her and having their self-esteem crushed
>you can't do anything to stop it
Seems like hell on earth desu
Anonymous ID: BAdZeGBWUnited Kingdom
6/22/2025, 7:01:55 AM No.508288834
>>508288425
Cool story boomer
Anonymous ID: Zw2Llf0VUnited States
6/22/2025, 7:02:26 AM No.508288892
>>508287801
>A lot of hot onlyfans girls collect plushies
what's up with turbo sluts doing stuff like being obsessed over hello kitty and collecting plushies anyway?
Anonymous ID: /nxdL9SAUnited States
6/22/2025, 7:02:47 AM No.508288924
>>508280865 (OP)
>Avoiding women...on psychiatric medication
Isn't that something like half of them?
Anonymous ID: iGA+UAKSUnited States
6/22/2025, 7:02:51 AM No.508288930
>>508280865 (OP)
>who would manipulate a sperg wuth money?
Women do that even if you aren't a sperg.
Anonymous ID: AlK/hWH1United States
6/22/2025, 7:03:34 AM No.508288995
>>508285419
I'm another BPD autistic bitch and you're right. If a BPD woman is accountable for her splitting outbursts and is mindfully aware, she will not justify any of her BPD meltdowns or bullshit. She'll try to warn you or isolate so you won't have to deal with her. The splitting is a caustic chorus of bullshit, like a rapid reel of insults and fears and crying - it's often aimed towards herself but can come out as a projection towards whoever or whatever appears as dangerous or stressful. Most of the time, the outbursts aren't true to what she believes in, it's almost like some weird possession. If I pray and listen to metal while in the midst of it, I calm down quickly. If my man doesn't react much to it and maintains himself, I calm down quicker. I've been doing a lot better and him and I have found consistent peace and fulfillment, despite how tough the ride was. He learned a lot about BPD and we are both autistic with the same interests, we understand eachother. If a BPD woman cannot be accountable and accept that her outbursts aren't fair or justified, and if she's trying to get help and is aware of her states of mind - there is hope. Don't ever try to be with a BPD lady who thinks her illness gives her permission to torment you or destroy your peace, if she feels justified in any episode, she is locked in her trauma and hasn't found a way to battle that. A person with BPD is often living in deep shame but don't realize how it perpetuates her trauma stricken chaos or pitfalls. The shame and remorse can be humble and direct her towards compassion and the effort to improve and heal... it can also be the fuel for her splitting potentials. My man never taught me to hate myself for my struggles, and I don't blame him for my own episodes either - it's something we've worked together on and I feel more tame and stable now. Women with BPD should try DBT as well. Prayer and God and humility are important imo but many will disagree with that. Anyway... be careful.