>>508569476the thing that these people will never tell you about themselves is that they are lazy, annoying, and deeply damaged but also completely unwilling to seek any kind of help or healing. they are wholly unable - not even unwilling, literally unable - to take accountability for their situation in any way.
i'm not saying 'hurr bootstraps' and i'm not without empathy, but these people need actual legitimate therapy - techniques like motivational interviewing and so on to restore agency and intentionality to their lives and self-concept. but instead they just cry and whine. so it's no surprise nobody wants to be around them.
on a practical level, they are too lazy and broken to actually reach out for social contact. they say they want it but do nothing to obtain it, and then blame the world for not delivering it to them gift-wrapped. and to an extent they're right, in that in the old days you would have tons of incidental social contact by virtue of touching grass and isolating yourself in your gooner cave wasn't possible, but that's a solvable problem.