>>508971594 (OP)Many men are puzzled by the apparent contradiction in how some women dress and how they react to male attention. On one hand, women may choose to wear revealing or provocative outfits. On the other, they often feel insulted, uncomfortable, or self-conscious when men stare, check them out, or express interest—especially if the men are not conventionally attractive.
From the male point of view, this seems contradictory: if most men are considered unattractive by women, then dressing in a way that draws attention from the general public is seen as inviting that very attention—even if it’s unwanted. Men wonder why women would “open themselves up” to being looked at if they don’t want to be seen by anyone other than a select few.
This confusion stems from a misunderstanding of female psychology. When men recognize that women often operate from a solipsistic mindset—meaning they subconsciously center the world around their own perceptions—it becomes clearer. A woman may not truly register or comprehend why someone she has not “chosen” would look at her. In her mind, it doesn’t make sense that a man she has no interest in would act as though he has the right to look, because she does not perceive his experience as valid or real in the same way she perceives her own.
Western men, particularly white or Western-born men, have generally adapted to this dynamic. They’ve either internalized the rule that they should avoid looking at women unless invited to, or they fall into the minority of highly attractive men (“Chads”) who are unaffected by social expectations. But this unspoken code is not universal. Immigrant men from non-Western cultures may not share these social norms. Raised with different views on male-female interaction, they do not carry the same ingrained expectation to suppress their gaze—and this cultural mismatch often leads to conflict or misunderstanding in Western societies.
