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You have instincts that "contradict reality" because evolution doesn't necessarily have anything to do with working properly, and the instincts you evolved to have aren't there to help you get laid per se, they're there because those are the traits that the females of our species selected for, either intentionally or unintentionally. Look at the example of the Irish Elk to figure out how 'good' that selection process is. Human men are better at literally everything compared to women. But there have been countless men throughout history that have thought over the same conundrum, and in turn chose not to put up with shit. As a general rule, their bloodlines succeeded less. What nature itself has selected for, indirectly, is successful offspring. That means the man (or I guess: A man) has to be around to do literally everything, because women are borderline useless in the real world. So how do women get men to stick around and take care of the kids? It's simple really, they find whatever man they can to do so. Women evolved to carry and breastfeed children yes, but they evolved to be very very good at one single thing(the only thing they had to): emotionally manipulating men. You want a woman and what a woman provides based on the romantic instincts that you have. But such women don't seem to actually exist. Through sheer chance there is a fraction of the female population that has the required desirable traits, but good luck ever finding one.
Women indirectly selected for easy to fool, romantic sops for the bottom 80% of the male population (betamales), who are probably most of your male ancestors. What you want has been selected for, but you also got enough brains, and presumably real life experience. Historically people like you and I (hopeless romantics who want something that isn't real) just die alone. It is what it is. Doesn't help that everything in this regard is worse than ever before and mating has become transactional.
