>>509611332 (OP)>What causes men and women to fight so badly ?Women.
See, every new relationship, for the first 12-18 months, nature gives both partners a chemical blast that results in blissful feelings.
Then after 12-18 months, that stops and you're left with "the real person".
Also, upon initial meetings, everyone "puts their best foot forward" while hiding their flaws.
The real questions are:
>Can you enjoy the "real" person (1) after the chemical cocktail wears off and (2) when you find them with their flaws? In other words, do they have anything genuine to offer in a partnership, or was it just "that feeling" you get when entering a relationship that made you overestimate them and discount red flags that you otherwise would warn a good friend about?The problem is many women are fickle and "muh feelings"-driven and always assume "something's wrong" if they don't "feel" like they did when they first entered the relationship 24/7/365 forever.
And then, of course, they blame you, the man because you "don't make them "feel" like that anymore
>Can BOTH people WORK towards the relationship when the good vibes from the chemical cocktail wears off?Again, women, being illogical and emotional, will tend to believe that "relationships don't take work" (especially on their part) and that "if it was meant to be, it would just magically romantically work out, and if it doesn't, it was not meant to be". Ironically, even thought they ascribe relationship success to "fate" rather than them lifting a finger to maintain the relationship and make it successful, again, somehow, they'll wind up blaming you, the man, for "not making it work".
>she seems very chill, obedient, homely, and family-orientedAll good traits, especially the "obedient" part, BUT – this is BEFORE you're married and while she's "putting her best foot forward". Make mental notes as to whether this keeps going 6 months, 12, 18, 24 into the relationship.