>>512340986Yeah, it’s really sad when discipline of kids goes wrong and turns into abuse. Although I wouldn’t just settle on the opposite extreme of “just let him be annoying”, kids still need boundaries, some basic ethical codes and societal norms instilled into them. It’s a big duty for a parent.
Kids have really fragile little minds and nervous systems, let alone their literal bodies as compared to an able-bodied adult. Shit that to you in the moment can just feel like,
>”Eh, sure, the kid was being annoying, he was a tough kid to raise, so I smacked and punched him a few times over the years. What’s it to ya?”While, if done wrong, it’ll end up being a seminal influence on that kid, traumatize him, be taken by him very seriously and really fuck him up in that moment, then be added to a slowly boiling list of grievances and resentments over the years, worst case scenario, turning him into a fucked up traumatized adult.
I know many of us here distrust (((the science))) (kek), but you can consistently find studies, from psychology and sociological studies, showing greater corporal abuse of a child is tied to all sorts of things like poorer life outcomes the older they get, more likely to commit or be jailed for a crime including violent crimes, to be drug abusers or heavy drinkers, to have signficant enough mental health issues they need to be treated, etc.
>The tree remembers but the ax forgets.Proverb
Because you are older, maturer, wiser, more intelligent, more in control of your intellect and body than the kid is, and with correspondingly greater strength than him, you precisely have a greater duty to your child than most other types of duty in life. You can’t just get a pet dog for instance and decide, eh, since I give it shelter and food, since I provide for its whole life, whipping this defenseless puppy hard across the back with a whip when he annoys me isn’t too bad in the grand scheme of things,
