Is this whole blackpill/hypergamy thing mostly an overblown internet meme?

I ask because I'm out and about on pretty much a daily basis (it's part of my job) and I see plenty of couples where the guy is some combination of short/chubby/bald, and this goes for pretty much any race even Jeets, and the woman is at the very least decently attractive. These aren't just old boomer couples either, plenty of young people. I see this pretty much anywhere. So is being perpetually online the issue with the incel community or what?