>meet girl through friends
>shows interest in me by holding by hand sometimes when we're walking and complimenting me
>ask her out for drinks
>she agrees
>we have sex later
>see that i'm saved as "anon hot" in her phone
>she sends flirty texts like saying we should netflix and chill
>Next time I see her I kind of spill spaghetti and treat her like a stranger I saw for the first time, leave without even hugging her
>she begins acting more cold, ignoring me asking if I want to hang out, making excuses, taking forever to reply to texts, her texts are a lot more dry too

Should I continue going for it? It almost feels rapey at this point.
One night I spent the night with her but as we were watching a movie together she told me she was on her period. She still invited me to bed and we cuddled but I felt like that was her way of telling me to fuck off home and I was unable to take the hint.

>>81483855 (OP)
You fucked up. It happens. Move on to the next girl.

>>81483855 (OP)
Abandon mission then. If just one slip up was enough for she to treat you like that then she isn't worth it.

If you're questioning it enough to make a post about it on here then it's over

>>81483869
>>81483898
well if I message her she still does get back to me, sometimes she still messages me herself.

Idk, I feel like there's still a chance but I don't want to sound like a desperate cuck.

>>81483911
I make posts about pretty much everything here.
Once I asked whether I should get KFC or Subway.

>>81483869
>>81483898
>>81483911
I kinda figured out that she got mad at me because she thought I ignored her.
She said we should "netflix and chill" on Friday or Saturday. and then I just told her that sounds good. Apparently I was meant to specify a date. I thought she meant that she's free both Friday and Saturday so I was going to message her on Friday if she wants to hang out on Saturday because I assumed she'd be tired from work.

maybe starts warm up again, and stop acting like cold Max Payne or something?

>>81483968
She probably just expected you to say
>sure lets hang out Friday at 6pm
Honestly, if you posting on here, just learn and move on.

>>81484176
But we're still talking. And I see her often because she's my (gay) friends' roommate. Is there anything I will lose by simply continuing to do what i'm doing until she tells me to fuck off?

>>81484185
Why would you ask r9k for advice if you're just going to be a fag and say well I don't REALLY think I should do that I don't think it's REALLY hopeless okay so keep talking to her then. Retard

>>81483855 (OP)
>>Next time I see her I kind of spill spaghetti and treat her like a stranger I saw for the first time, leave without even hugging her
She posted this exchange in reddit and or to her friends and they said "he's lost interest" or "he's cheating" and that's that. You're done, anon. Try and find out why you behaved that way so you can course correct in the future, with a different girl.

>>81483968
Anon. Take all of her time. It doesn't matter. Netflix and chill Friday. Netflix and chill Saturday. Why the fuck would it matter. If you blow her off have your bucket hat ready. I got busy. Had some errands. Car fucked up. Picked up a shift. Not feeling too good. Anything. But steal all of her time.

>>81484185
>Is there anything I will lose by simply continuing to do what i'm doing until she tells me to fuck off?
Respect, and social stance. You'll basically cock block yourself in that social circle and possibly any connected circle. Do not be a creep. Women talk about their business very often and openly. Give her some space, go talk to other women. Make it seem like you have other stuff going on and don't depend on just her, as it should be.

>>81484198
I didn't ask so I could tongue your asshole. At the end of the day it's up to me to decide what to do. I'm asking for ADVICE, not for you to hold my dick. Jesus.

>>81484199
She's not a blue-haired whale, she's not posting on reddit.

>>81484243
>Respect, and social stance. You'll basically cock block yourself in that social circle and possibly any connected circle. Do not be a creep. Women talk about their business very often and openly. Give her some space, go talk to other women. Make it seem like you have other stuff going on and don't depend on just her, as it should be.

Am I being a creep though? She's the one that started getting touchy with me, she's the one who suggested netflix and chill. When we had sex it was after she asked me to go up to the bedroom.
I feel like i'm doing the logical thing here.

>>81484247
So make that judgement call big boy we're all rooting for you

>>81483855 (OP)
>>ask her out for drinks
>>she agrees
fuck off normalnigger

>>81483855 (OP)
Had sex? Even if it's true or not I should not be replying BUT
Were this to happen, (i wanna believe it didn't), she realised you're still at the loser stage or retard stage where you might have thinked that "bad boy gets the girl" or that treating her bad and being an asshole will make her fall for you. Pathethic shit, now I realise you're not even lying, being nice to girls and treating them like a human is a thing that actually works, acting like a spazzed out retard giving them the impression you will choke them to death were they to be alone with you, is not

>>81484247
>She's not a blue-haired whale, she's not posting on reddit.
I hope that the word "reddit" didn't distract you from the point I was making and that you understand that a person doesn't need to have blue hair specifically to talk on reddit or any other social space where advice is given out.

>>81484260
Since you are a guy you will be seen as the creep if you insist on messaging regardless.

>>81484305
She knows i'm a loser sperg faggot lol, she doesn't think i'm "cheating" (we're not dating) or doing too many things to think about her. If anything, that would turn her on and make her chase me.

>>81484324
but she messages me too, and when I meet my friends, she's there too so we talk obviously.

>>81484260
>Am I being a creep though?
You are coming off as creepy. In a stubborn, autistic way and that is no excuse.
>>81484260
>She's the one that started getting touchy with me, she's the one who suggested netflix and chill. When we had sex it was after she asked me to go up to the bedroom.
and now that offer is off the table. Her behavior communicates she's not feeling you anymore. If you push, you might get kicked out of that social group, specially the way things are now. Back off, give her space or straight up let her be.

>>81484344
Talking especifically about the situation you are in where she's pissed off and barely answering. Insisting in that situation will just make you look bad.

>>81484330
>She knows i'm a loser sperg faggot
...Since when? Since you acted all weird that time? That's what did you in. Just take your "W" and go.

>>81484353
>You are coming off as creepy. In a stubborn, autistic way and that is no excuse.
well, she suggested it first, it didn't work out because I didn't specify a date, so I suggested it again then, didn't work out but I know for a fact it wasn't her just trying to get out of it.

Next time i'm chilling with her, I still want to do our usual routine or us watching a movie, getting touchy and then either going up to have sex or to cuddle and sleep.

>>81484353
>and now that offer is off the table. Her behavior communicates she's not feeling you anymore. If you push, you might get kicked out of that social group, specially the way things are now. Back off, give her space or straight up let her be.
after all that happened she still invited me to her bedroom to cuddle for the night. She kissed my arms, put her head on my chest and showed other signs of affection. Surely she wasn't doing it out of pity?

>>81484388
>...Since when? Since you acted all weird that time? That's what did you in. Just take your "W" and go.
nah, she knew it from the start. Even when we had sex she called me a very awkward person.

>>81484397
You made a whole thread about this, so you are absolutely invested. Now, relax and let whatever happens, happen. Even if it's her eternally pretending like you guys never fucked. It probably didn't mean enough to her to even think about it anymore, or there's some cringe you aren't telling us about that completely turned her off. Just relax, and let it be. Don't expect any more from her. Let things flow naturally.

>>81484412
>>81484430
If this is true. You might be her dirty little secret. Just enjoy the ride, while it lasts.

>>81484444
Nah, my friends know we fucked and we're open about it.

So next time those guys go to sleep and i'm alone with her, what do I do? Surely if she doesn't want me there she'll just say she's going to her bedroom and say goodnight?
If she stays there with me, puts on a movie for us, and starts doing stuff like placing her legs on my lap, feeling my arms etc it means she enjoys it and not just doing it out of pity?

>>81484482
It's not a secret lol, my friends (her roommates) know about it.

I want it to continue but idk if it will.

>>81484495
>what do I do? Surely if she doesn't want me there she'll just say she's going to her bedroom and say goodnight?
>If she stays there with me, puts on a movie for us, and starts doing stuff like placing her legs on my lap, feeling my arms etc it means she enjoys it and not just doing it out of pity?
You just relax and let whatever happens happen. Don't sweat it. And talk to some other women. You don't want to have to depend on her for sex or comfort.

>>81484571
>You just relax and let whatever happens happen. Don't sweat it. And talk to some other women. You don't want to have to depend on her for sex or comfort.
I don't know any other women currently. And i'm finished uni now so it's not easy.


Basically what i'm asking is would I be awkward if I stay there with her while my friends go to sleep?
If she wanted to go too she'd just say it, right? She'd say goodnight and then go to her bedroom without me?

ebtfdgew

>>81484588
>Basically what i'm asking is would I be awkward if I stay there with her while my friends go to sleep?
>If she wanted to go too she'd just say it, right? She'd say goodnight and then go to her bedroom without me?
In order: maybe? I don't know you guys personally, you should know that better than I would. I would be awkward to stake her out, though. Yes, and yes. But then you'd had to commit to sitting there alone for a bit. I'll say it again: Don't sweat it. Just relax. That's exactly how "it" happened before. You didn't plan it, did your thing, and it happened. I'm amazed at how awkward this all sounds when at the same time you're telling us this is all out in the open, btw.