Anonymous
6/14/2025, 12:42:33 AM No.81485080
Are there any downsides to being a dismissive avoidant?
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Anonymous
6/14/2025, 12:54:07 AM No.81485182
>>81485080 (OP) d fug do u mean by 'dismissive avoidant'?
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Anonymous
6/14/2025, 12:58:19 AM No.81485217
>>81485080 (OP)
Never pair bonding properly so intimacy feels pointless instead of fulfilling
Never pair bonding properly so intimacy feels pointless instead of fulfilling
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Anonymous
6/14/2025, 1:03:56 AM No.81485246
>>81485080 (OP)
Personally? I see nothing wrong with the way I am. But I can see how some people might see me as 'cold' when I simply just don't want to be involved. You're likely to be called a narcissist too (wild I know) despite not wanting relationships or closeness with most people. Normies (secure attachment types) simply cannot fathom a reality in which not everyone grows up to be just like them. Then they blame you for being calloused or misanthropic as if we chose this kind of attachment style. There's plenty of downsides if you're a normie encountering a Dismissive Avoidant. For us, it's just another day.
>>81485182
It's an attachment style formed in early childhood.
>Short synapse. Dismissive-avoidant attachment is an attachment style characterized by discomfort with intimacy and emotional closeness, a preference for independence, and difficulty expressing vulnerability. Individuals with this style often avoid deep connections and suppress their emotions. They may downplay the importance of relationships and prioritize self-reliance and independence
Personally? I see nothing wrong with the way I am. But I can see how some people might see me as 'cold' when I simply just don't want to be involved. You're likely to be called a narcissist too (wild I know) despite not wanting relationships or closeness with most people. Normies (secure attachment types) simply cannot fathom a reality in which not everyone grows up to be just like them. Then they blame you for being calloused or misanthropic as if we chose this kind of attachment style. There's plenty of downsides if you're a normie encountering a Dismissive Avoidant. For us, it's just another day.
>>81485182
It's an attachment style formed in early childhood.
>Short synapse. Dismissive-avoidant attachment is an attachment style characterized by discomfort with intimacy and emotional closeness, a preference for independence, and difficulty expressing vulnerability. Individuals with this style often avoid deep connections and suppress their emotions. They may downplay the importance of relationships and prioritize self-reliance and independence
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Anonymous
6/14/2025, 1:04:42 AM No.81485255
>>81485217
Why is this a downside to someone that has never and would never find it fulfilling
Why is this a downside to someone that has never and would never find it fulfilling
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Anonymous
6/14/2025, 1:05:29 AM No.81485260
>>81485246
Dismiss all attachments, and I can't stress enough: DISMISS ALL ATTACHMENTS.
Dismiss all attachments, and I can't stress enough: DISMISS ALL ATTACHMENTS.
Anonymous
6/14/2025, 1:11:04 AM No.81485294
>>81485255
Because unless a person is a schizoid, they are still biologically wired to crave human connection. As much as people try to drown out that feeling eventually it will strike again. When it does though it's like your body craving food but every thing you eat has the taste and texture of sand.
Because unless a person is a schizoid, they are still biologically wired to crave human connection. As much as people try to drown out that feeling eventually it will strike again. When it does though it's like your body craving food but every thing you eat has the taste and texture of sand.
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Anonymous
6/14/2025, 1:13:40 AM No.81485318
>>81485246
You're most likely not avoidant attachment. People with that still want to experience love and be in relationships, they just have trouble trusting and are uncomfortable with intimacy which makes them reluctant to express their vulnerabilities. This has to do with their upbringing, not by how they're born. You're most likely just autistic
You're most likely not avoidant attachment. People with that still want to experience love and be in relationships, they just have trouble trusting and are uncomfortable with intimacy which makes them reluctant to express their vulnerabilities. This has to do with their upbringing, not by how they're born. You're most likely just autistic
Mike
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6/14/2025, 1:29:54 AM No.81485421
Cycles of self sabotaging relationships and self harm activities, ruminations, echoing thoughts of mistakes made and what could of been