Anonymous
6/15/2025, 3:20:53 AM No.81495892
Have you ever really even had a friend? I have a theory that a lot of us here who are incels are simply so because we cannot truly connect with other people in general.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 3:22:15 AM No.81495896
>>81495892 (OP)
I thought I had friends until my oneitis made them witch-hunt me in secret. I honestly don't know if I have friends anymore since they turned against me so easily.
I thought I had friends until my oneitis made them witch-hunt me in secret. I honestly don't know if I have friends anymore since they turned against me so easily.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 3:25:51 AM No.81495922
>>81495892 (OP)
I haven't had a friend in so many years that when I think about times I spent with friends it's like remembering an old movie I saw a long time ago.
I haven't had a friend in so many years that when I think about times I spent with friends it's like remembering an old movie I saw a long time ago.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 3:27:50 AM No.81495931
>>81495892 (OP)
never had a ride or die friend. but i did have 2 casual friends i could play games with years ago.
never had a ride or die friend. but i did have 2 casual friends i could play games with years ago.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 5:59:14 AM No.81496847
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 6:06:57 AM No.81496902
the day you graduate high school is 1 big blackpill
>all those years spent struggling to catch the bus on time
>parents driving me to school as a last resort
>all those times we sat at lunch cafeteria
>we sat together at the school bus
>those moments we wish we had recorded
>washed away
>washed away over summer break
>we just.... never see each other again after grade 12 summer
i feel abandoned. i sound so dramatic but its how i feel. no other coworker or brother in law has the same interest in music and manga that my HS friend did. i feel so fuckin naked without my little clique. all those inside jokes we used to have stop having meaning one day. what were all those morning routines for? if school friends dont count as friends what the hell does?
>all those years spent struggling to catch the bus on time
>parents driving me to school as a last resort
>all those times we sat at lunch cafeteria
>we sat together at the school bus
>those moments we wish we had recorded
>washed away
>washed away over summer break
>we just.... never see each other again after grade 12 summer
i feel abandoned. i sound so dramatic but its how i feel. no other coworker or brother in law has the same interest in music and manga that my HS friend did. i feel so fuckin naked without my little clique. all those inside jokes we used to have stop having meaning one day. what were all those morning routines for? if school friends dont count as friends what the hell does?
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 6:14:25 AM No.81496961
>>81495892 (OP)
I had a friend and became a normalfag for a few years and it ruined my life
I had a friend and became a normalfag for a few years and it ruined my life
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 6:14:44 AM No.81496963
>>81495892 (OP)
Haha imagine being so insecure and autistic that you had no friends. Even the SG had more friends than you.
Haha imagine being so insecure and autistic that you had no friends. Even the SG had more friends than you.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 6:23:38 AM No.81497031
>>81496963
Just so op is aware I was talking about myself. Sorry if I sounded rude
Just so op is aware I was talking about myself. Sorry if I sounded rude
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 6:29:34 AM No.81497081
>>81496902
I know exactly what you feel.
Those people where the best friends I ever had. They saved me. I am still mourning their loss and I can't help but feel it was my fault.
I never talked to them after school ended, I was always waiting for them to talk to me. And when they did I would be like a dog excited that his master came back home, but I never reached out. I suppose they slowly forgot about me because they kept making friends and being bombarded with social media updates (I never shared anything on social media).
I still dream about those days, even though all things considered I hardly knew them. What are 3 years of high school versus 12 years of total radio silence? My old pals are all gone. Those people only exist on my memories now. I don't think I exist in theirs.
>what were all those morning routines for?
I think part of the magic of those days was that I didn't think of that. I just enjoyed it. I enjoyed going to school to see my friends, I enjoyed laughing with them. I am happy I got to experience friendship at least.
Come to think of it, that was the first time I truly felt the passage of time. I had everything one day, and the next I had nothing. Time took it all away from me. And I will never be able to go back.
>those moments we wish we had recorded
I know exactly what you feel.
Those people where the best friends I ever had. They saved me. I am still mourning their loss and I can't help but feel it was my fault.
I never talked to them after school ended, I was always waiting for them to talk to me. And when they did I would be like a dog excited that his master came back home, but I never reached out. I suppose they slowly forgot about me because they kept making friends and being bombarded with social media updates (I never shared anything on social media).
I still dream about those days, even though all things considered I hardly knew them. What are 3 years of high school versus 12 years of total radio silence? My old pals are all gone. Those people only exist on my memories now. I don't think I exist in theirs.
>what were all those morning routines for?
I think part of the magic of those days was that I didn't think of that. I just enjoyed it. I enjoyed going to school to see my friends, I enjoyed laughing with them. I am happy I got to experience friendship at least.
Come to think of it, that was the first time I truly felt the passage of time. I had everything one day, and the next I had nothing. Time took it all away from me. And I will never be able to go back.
>those moments we wish we had recorded
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 6:29:53 AM No.81497084
>>81495892 (OP)
I used to have a tight knit group of friends in elementary school, but after that, there has been a few on and off friendships.
They're typically constrained to a year, and they fall apart because my life changes every year.
I've come to the conclusion that I'm not the kind of person who has real friends.
I only have surface level relationships.
At the end of the day, no one knows who I am outside of where I meet these people.
I am uneasily content with this.
>>81496902
I am watching this happen for me in real time.
I don't feel insulted.
After all, they were only surface level friends.
Maybe that's my cope.
I keep them away so that when they leave, I won't feel as bad.
I used to have a tight knit group of friends in elementary school, but after that, there has been a few on and off friendships.
They're typically constrained to a year, and they fall apart because my life changes every year.
I've come to the conclusion that I'm not the kind of person who has real friends.
I only have surface level relationships.
At the end of the day, no one knows who I am outside of where I meet these people.
I am uneasily content with this.
>>81496902
I am watching this happen for me in real time.
I don't feel insulted.
After all, they were only surface level friends.
Maybe that's my cope.
I keep them away so that when they leave, I won't feel as bad.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 6:44:34 AM No.81497165
>>81495892 (OP)
Yeah, my brother. Closest and only friend I ever had. Got groomed by troons and cut me off. Cannot connect with anyone else I have met, not really. I miss my bro all the time.
Yeah, my brother. Closest and only friend I ever had. Got groomed by troons and cut me off. Cannot connect with anyone else I have met, not really. I miss my bro all the time.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 9:48:59 AM No.81498095
>>81495892 (OP)
No. And I don't mean I haven't had a "true" friend, a "ride-or-die" friend, that I was betrayed, or that I haven't had a friend since school -- I simply never ever made one. I'm vol (or so I tell myself), and have had a girl, but I'd agree. I have empathy, but I can't connect at all. To others (including my own family) I'm only a stranger to be humored for formality's sake, and to me, they might as well be figments of my imagination, I invest so little in them. At this point, I don't think it's at all possible for me to connect with someone unless it was literally forced upon me. At this point, isolation is a core part of my person, it's simply who I am now.
No. And I don't mean I haven't had a "true" friend, a "ride-or-die" friend, that I was betrayed, or that I haven't had a friend since school -- I simply never ever made one. I'm vol (or so I tell myself), and have had a girl, but I'd agree. I have empathy, but I can't connect at all. To others (including my own family) I'm only a stranger to be humored for formality's sake, and to me, they might as well be figments of my imagination, I invest so little in them. At this point, I don't think it's at all possible for me to connect with someone unless it was literally forced upon me. At this point, isolation is a core part of my person, it's simply who I am now.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 11:00:52 AM No.81498364
>>81495892 (OP)
i have not had any offline friends since school 15 years ago. I have only had one online friend that I could connect to, but even that consisted of only 1-2 moments where we shared some feelings where I knew he felt about me the same I felt about him, and we have since drifted apart. Everything else was superficial, non 1 on 1 interaction in 1-2 gaming communities that kept me going. I have since isolated myself from them.
I tried to find someone for the first time via 4chan a couple of weeks back, they were happy to talk about themselves and I learned a lot about them and their life by asking questions, to the point where they might be one of the people on the planet I know the most about other than my family. But they never once showed any interest in getting to know me back so I had to stop it before going insane. I found the opposite of what I'm looking for.
i have not had any offline friends since school 15 years ago. I have only had one online friend that I could connect to, but even that consisted of only 1-2 moments where we shared some feelings where I knew he felt about me the same I felt about him, and we have since drifted apart. Everything else was superficial, non 1 on 1 interaction in 1-2 gaming communities that kept me going. I have since isolated myself from them.
I tried to find someone for the first time via 4chan a couple of weeks back, they were happy to talk about themselves and I learned a lot about them and their life by asking questions, to the point where they might be one of the people on the planet I know the most about other than my family. But they never once showed any interest in getting to know me back so I had to stop it before going insane. I found the opposite of what I'm looking for.