Has anyone managed to get out of legitimate inceldom/forever alone life?
>29
>KHV
>apparently somewhat attractive
>short
>struggle with weight but it's improving
>have been on multiple dates but never manage to get to the next date

I fear that I'm simply too kind. I'm not like some "nice guy" where I get angry when someone rejects me. I kinda did once, but it was because she got me to open up and spill a lot of shit I keep private just to reject me in a really demeaning and disrespectful way but that's not important. Most of the time I just don't even bother trying. I'm too scared of being seen as a loser. I'd prefer that everyone thinks I'm just really nice and respectful than get rejected and be known as the guy that makes passes at everyone. I rarely ever interact with women anymore at all. I do at work, but they're all older and spoken for.
There was one woman at my office that I thought that maybe I'd try something with but she was really inconsistent in how she treated me so I just cut her off. It made me too nervous around her.
I grew up in a christian house and my mother used shame as a tool frequently. I'm genuinely just terrified of being honest about how I feel. The idea of letting someone know that I'm interested in them makes me freeze. My brain just associates that kind of action with shame and disgust. How do I get over this? I just want to be normal. I feel like if I could figure out how to get my brain to stop getting in the way I would be fine.

>>81500975 (OP)
I can't give you much advice to get confidence as that is something you need to find in yourself, but most women today only care about one thing so if you don't start undressing them with your eyes, casually flirting about how hard you're going to screw them after the date or lying about how many women you've been with; She will lose interest in you. I'm not surprised you never got a second date.

>>81500975 (OP)
Mental illness and/or trauma is going to stick with you unfortunately, and dating doesn't get easier. What you can do is get more disciplined and try to live with some dignity and pride. Live and die like someone you respect and not compromise yourself for anything. Which is insanely difficult. Even normies go off the rails badly in midlife. Don't think it gets easier. You try your best and have to be proud even if you fail. Life is crazy yeah?

I got out of being a femcel recently. He's openly affectionate with me and coming to meet me and my parents in south California. Hes in the bay.