>>81512965One of my sisters identifies as autistic, the other was never diagnosed. She was diagnosed as autistic back when women couldn't simply go "tee hee yes I'm married with 20 friends and a highly social job but sometimes I feel burnt out, I'm the same as some retard who bangs his head against the wall until it bleeds right :3"
The other sister, secretly, without ever telling her this directly, is embarassed by her and never wants to see her again. It's not that she made a mistake, since she's autistic and thinks she can't do any better, it's that her sister believes she can't do any better either, so why not just cut her out? I've never told my autistic sister what her other sister really thinks of her, and to me, it seems like she's naive to what her family really thinks of her. She's not totally naive, but I don't think she sees the extent. She tells people not to use the word "retard" around her, which means she thinks of herself that way, and others know she sees herself that way.
Whenever I've expressed my beliefs about autism, autistics and especially autistic women get angry. Mostly because for women, being diagnosed as autistic is less harmful and more beneficial, since unlike with men it doesn't render most people who get diagnosed unable to date, get married, or have children. They're furious that they are not seen as le victims.
Also to be clear, I don't see men as le victims, I see men as victimizing themselves, and causing their own problems through their own folly, by buying into their autistic identity and helping legitimise the view that they're autistic in the eyes of others, and ultimately hurting themselves while blaming their problem on their brain being defective or societal ableism. I see both men and women as victimizing, I'm just pointing out that women are less irrational in victimising themselves, although I ultimately don't see women victimising themselves as good either it's simply not as destructive as men doing so.