Every time I try to put myself out there to get a woman, I get rejected for my looks, my personality, get made fun of for thinking I would be even be worth a woman's time, or mostly just ignored. I'm 28 and just can't get anything. It's like my instinct to just isolate myself was always right, other people seem to have more confidence in me than I do in myself. Walk a mile in my shoes fuckers.

You may have destructive cognitive schema. If so, this sits at the core of all your problems probably.

Do you have money or stable income? It helps a lot. Especially with 3rd world people

>>81518520
Yes I do, but apparently that's not good enough.

>>81518553
You'll never be good enough for yourself if you dont address your negative core beliefs. You will just keep finding evidence to support them.

>>81518570
I'm getting rejected by other people, not myself.

>>81518513 (OP)
what kind of girls do you go for?

>>81518619
Not overweight is my main criteria. I have kind of a thing for the hottest chicks imaginable, but I'd settle for less obviously. It's like those less quality girls don't want me either, so idk what to do.

>>81518513 (OP)
I believe you, women are out of the cards for now, why not just get a small cohort of friends to get your validation from?

>>81518636
That's kind of what I had before the pandemic. Now I just have one good friend who lives across the country.

>>81518513 (OP)
Look like there only one thing you can do and that is rape

>>81518656
Well time to rebuild your network, it's a tough process but it has to be done

Or you can just do this
>>81518662

>>81518662
Is there an instruction manual? I am not familiar with this.

>>81518591
No you're getting rejected by other people as a consequence of you rejecting yourself. And you're making yourself more likely to be rejected by others by believing you are a person that should be rejected. And you are letting yourself be greatly affected by the rejection of others as a consequence of innate belief.
You're beliefs WILL become your reality. Why do you think they teach us that we need expensive slop in order to be happy? Because they know it will be true because we'll believe it.

>>81518681
I'm not approaching women in a self sabotaging way like in my teens though. I am putting my current best self out there and women are just flat out rejecting that. Yeah, I want this 18 model tier babe in my dms to manifest into a serious relationship with lots of sex, but is it likely at this point? No, but I will try ok, I will at least fucking try!

>>81518681
That is slightly retarded, he is getting rejected, now it's making him sad, the human mind gets affected by this sort of thing. How is that him rejecting himself if he is putting forth the effort to approach?

Unless this is another one of those just world fallacy things

>>81518700
Are you not meeting people in real life or through social circles?

>>81518716
Only work, but it's a fucking minefield figuring out who would report me to HR or not.

>>81518707
nobody gets anything, you have to put in the work by first realizing what your worth, flaws and all, then accepting your worth and having a decent amount of self love while being humble

NTA but how do I rebuild my network and find new friends?
I don't even know where all the women are they've never been interested in me.

I am doomed to die alone

>>81518984
Ok, respectfully this just sounds like Just world fallacy

>>81519018
Sometimes they fall out the sky, sometimes you have to put yourself in groups that meet regularly

>>81518513 (OP)
I dont know how you look or how tall are you but i would recommend in your situation to be a dangerous person try to carry a weapon train box or something and idk drink alcohol or whatever that make you feel dangerous and that will boost your confidence and star acting like world owes you something

>>81519031
i am so tired of everything
maybe i'll fix my sleep and diet first

>>81519069
That is better than nothing at all anon

>>81519079
I've started speaking to a therapist and started a combat sport and painting as well to cope with my situation. Don't know how well it'll go but I will probably kill myself later.

>>81519100
You know what is funny? I did the exact same thing and am back to neeting and rotting, do me a favor and don't fall back down like me. Someone has to make it.

>>81519113
how did you go back to neetrotting?

>>81519018
>doomed to die alone
Everyone dies alone.

>>81519120
Everything started to feel hollow again and I stopped gradually. I'm sure you are familiar with the empty feeling. But I'm sure you will do a better job than me. Learn to kick ass and take names.

>>81519174
anon...no...you must...

>>81518632
>but I'd settle for less obviously
They pick up on this and know you're a cunt

>>81519113
It's very difficult to keep up high effort without positive reinforcement. That's why self-improvement is such a longshot.