>>81523034 (OP)Well, no. It works to invalidate their struggles. You doing well implies that height doesn't matter. It's like saying: "I know a rich black guy and he does really well and has lots of connections. Why do black people seethe when I tell them this? I'm just trying to encourage them"
You are implicitly victim-blaming by implying their problems are all just a personal failing.
Think of it like going to someone who has been bullied all their life and saying: "oh, it's alright. People don't hate you. Look! I have friends and I'm just like you!"
It is so that you can feel more comfortable dismissing incels and justifying your contempt of them.