what mental illness is it when you idealize and passively obsess over someone you were only talking to for not even long but idealize a vision of what you think they could be for you in your mind and then drive yourself crazy with it and genuinely make yourself lovesick and parasocially heartbroken over someone you were never even in a relationship with?

what is this condition called?

>>81527569 (OP)
Idk but i have it minus the lovesick portions. Mainly it was just motivation and catharsis, im 1000% comfortable alone as my daydreams keep me satisfied

unemployment
get a job

>>81527670
a job won't fix shit i have a full time
>>81527635
daydreams are nice but they are like a razor slowly slicing at my spine knowing that theres no possibility of that happening.

>>81527569 (OP)
The meme answer is BPD. It's probably possible to get hit with limerence if you're just very isolated

>>81527774
Vulnerable narcissists are wrongly being labeled as bpd

>>81527569 (OP)
It can be a symptom of narcissism. Narcissists are often about image and narrative, they have an idea of the perfect 'other', someone who makes life the way they envision it in dreams. The other is pretty and fun and enjoys all the same things.
No one can ever live up to an ideal so if you ever start dating someone then any deviations from perfection will be magnified and you'll hate them. If that ends up badly affecting your life then it becomes a disorder, but narcissism is a necessary part of a functioning psyche cos it protects you from ego harm. Healthy narcissism is thinking "well, I'm better than them so I can ignore their criticisms" when someone insults you. Unhealthy narcissism is when you hate yourself so much that the only way to protect your ego is to rank everyone below you (even if it's only on a single trait like weirdness, looks or talent at drawing). The best relationships come from people who are happy by themselves, the other person is then just a bonus to their life.

>>81527938
I've been in a similar place to OP, and I probably am. Vulnerable narcissism can look exactly like BPD

>>81527959
>exactly like
Not quite.

>>81527967
>Not quite.
eggsplain

>>81527569 (OP)
Does it happen often or is this a first time thing? How old are you? (you can be general if you want a specific age isn't necessary so late teens, early twenties, late twenties, early thirties, etc)

>>81527959
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>>81527774
Slow down there anons all he said was that he gets love struck with someone doesn't know all that well.

>>81527974
Bpds feel very deeply. Npds do not feel emotions at all and will shame other ppl for it. The real question tho is what is the root childhood cause of the narcissists shame?

>>81527993
happens often, late twenties (its over)
>>81527959
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>>81527938
i like to think that im not a narcissist
>"A vulnerable narcissist describes someone who is hypersensitive to rejection and extremely self-conscious. They tend to be insecure, as well. They become angry or offended when not put on a pedestal. A person with vulnerable narcissism is highly sensitive to criticism. People with vulnerable narcissism often lack empathy. If they do show empathy it is used to build their own self-importance."
sounds like my dad lowkey

>>81528026
Narcissists experience extremely deep suffering, but they generally only feel for themselves.

>what is the root childhood cause of the narcissists shame?
Extreme feelings of inadequacy in early childhood, that a developing mind simply can't handle. It develops lifelong coping mechanisms that will destroy their ability to experience love and joy. If you replace the fear of abandonment with fear of rejection, you go from BPD to NPD

>>81528086
I strongly disagree. Narcissists don't know what the word no means and come off extremely spoiled.

I don't wanna keep parroting the N word diagnosis because it's OFFENSIVE but honestly it makes sense if you just don't care about other humans as human people and how they feel or what they're thinking and just see them as objects of desire or things for you to have to the point you're so upset you're making yourself sick over not having said thing... also, most adults don't fucking have bizarre tantrums ("drive themselves crazy") when they don't get what they want

>>81528110
You never experienced npd rage?

>>81528086
BRING THE KITTY BACK WHY IS IT GONE FOREVER HOW DID YOU DO THAT

>>81528130
>You never experienced npd rage?
from my abusive ex yes im not npd also why are you even saying that it makes absolutely no sense at all in reference to my post unless you think that was my second post and I'm someone else (it was my first post in the thread)

>>81528055
Do you ever "keep tabs" on the people that you fall in love with? Do you try to observe them from afar? Do you make plans to tell them how you feel but then not follow through when the time comes? Are the people you fall in love with aware of how you feel about them? What causes you to move on from one person to the next?

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>>81528156
Can you tell me about your experience nonny. I wanna know if your ex is like me

>>81528187
she's a cuckquean and a vulnerable narcissist and has day to week long crashouts where she drinks and cuts and attention whores on discord while claiming shed "in her femcel arc" then snaps back to trying to "be a good girl" and trying to make up for how wretched she is but the cycles are fundamentally unavoidable and incurable

>>81527569 (OP)
You have a normal crush. That doesn't mean it isn't destructive, look at the U.S and Israel, for example.

>>81528211
She's definitely not like me (moid). Comorbid BPD sounds like. I have Elliot Rodger brain where I'm a victim and everyone is a demon persecuting me everyday forever. I'm extremely prideful and wracked with shame

>>81528238
that's definitely vulnerable narcissism and you should kill yourself

>>81528286
Bee nice. Just because I lack a soul doesn't mean I have no feelings.

>>81527569 (OP)
being a faggot
won't read the rest of your post
kys.

>>81527569 (OP)
Some form of an attachment disorder. Consider getting therapy. I'm not an armchair psychologist, but I've been in the mental health system to know a thing or two.

My diagnosis is scitzoeffective disorder and I'm on the spectrum. Very fun.

>>81527670
says the failed troon on disability

>>81528300
it's precisely because you have feelings that I'm saying such things, knowing how evil you are makes me want to hurt you because of my strong sense of justice

so please kill yourself!

>>81527569 (OP)
I have this one as well. I think it's called normalfaggotry.

Being a womanitis

>>81527569 (OP)
BPD, NPD, Mental Retardation, Autism, SPD (schizoid), AVPD...etc.

>>81527993
I don't think OP is a narcissist, but they asked for an armchair diagnosis of a symptom that's textbook NPD behaviour. Narcissism is a healthy part of a functioning psyche, everyone has it but very few people have a disordered version. Asking for help (and listening) is a massive sign that they don't have NPD but clearly something is wrong because their relationship with this person is largely imaginary and they feel uncomfortable. The important thing is they find the root cause of the unhealthy behaviour and address it. I don't know any other causes for this type of idealization and obsession so the info might be useful. Could be plenty of other explanations, but this is the one I know about.