Anonymous
6/19/2025, 9:55:35 PM No.81545173
How do I stop being so damn nervous when around other people??? I just can't do this
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Anonymous
6/19/2025, 9:57:48 PM No.81545185
Just drink one beer any time youre around people
Anonymous
6/19/2025, 9:59:17 PM No.81545206
>>81545173 (OP)
what makes you feel nervous? like, you fear being judged? looking autistic? not knowing what to say? getting too close to people?
what makes you feel nervous? like, you fear being judged? looking autistic? not knowing what to say? getting too close to people?
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Anonymous
6/19/2025, 10:01:25 PM No.81545224
>>81545173 (OP)
Nobody is better than you. Nobody is focused on anybody more than themselves.
Nobody is better than you. Nobody is focused on anybody more than themselves.
Anonymous
6/19/2025, 10:02:28 PM No.81545234
>>81545206
I feel like I'm the ugliest most disgusting person in the world. It feels like everyone is staring and judging me. I stutter a ton and run out of things to say when someone does talk to me, I have horrible social skills. I just want to die
I feel like I'm the ugliest most disgusting person in the world. It feels like everyone is staring and judging me. I stutter a ton and run out of things to say when someone does talk to me, I have horrible social skills. I just want to die
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Anonymous
6/19/2025, 10:04:14 PM No.81545246
>>81545173 (OP)
You need to deal with whichever part of your child abuse that caused this. Or just stay drunk
You need to deal with whichever part of your child abuse that caused this. Or just stay drunk
Anonymous
6/19/2025, 10:04:28 PM No.81545249
>think my lack of confidence and anxiety is due to having a shit body
>get into very good shape
>now anxious because I notice people do look at me
aaaargh
>get into very good shape
>now anxious because I notice people do look at me
aaaargh
Anonymous
6/19/2025, 10:05:03 PM No.81545254
I can make small talk with other men but when Im in a position to casually chat with a girl I lock up and just want to run away
I avoid eye contact and give curt one word replies and then leave or I avoid them entirely im so fucked I cant help this though im so fucking scared of women
I avoid eye contact and give curt one word replies and then leave or I avoid them entirely im so fucked I cant help this though im so fucking scared of women
Anonymous
6/19/2025, 10:10:19 PM No.81545311
>>81545234
Just prep yourself a bit, it will get rid of the stutter and allow you to have fallback material if there's nothing to talk about
Just prep yourself a bit, it will get rid of the stutter and allow you to have fallback material if there's nothing to talk about
Anonymous
6/19/2025, 10:10:28 PM No.81545314
>>81545234
nooo anon you are not ugly :(
nooo anon you are not ugly :(
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 12:01:53 AM No.81546317
You do it regardless.
You have to feel the fear anxiety and what not, and act nonetheless, and every single time you do it it gets weaker.
If you try to live life by avoiding situations that generate negative emotions, the more you'll be a slave to the negative emotions. Each time you give in ("I'm scared so I wont do it" "I'm socially anxious so I won't talk" "I'm gonna get rejected so I won't try") the stronger it gets, the stronger it gets the more things you avoid.
Acknowledge the nervousness, and do it anyways
You have to feel the fear anxiety and what not, and act nonetheless, and every single time you do it it gets weaker.
If you try to live life by avoiding situations that generate negative emotions, the more you'll be a slave to the negative emotions. Each time you give in ("I'm scared so I wont do it" "I'm socially anxious so I won't talk" "I'm gonna get rejected so I won't try") the stronger it gets, the stronger it gets the more things you avoid.
Acknowledge the nervousness, and do it anyways
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 12:05:36 AM No.81546352
>>81545173 (OP)
Unironically, being nervous isn't as big of a deal as you think. Just keep practicing. Also, and I know that this suggestion isn't popular around here, maybe try therapy and/or anti-anxiety meds. Just try not to become completely dependent on them.
Unironically, being nervous isn't as big of a deal as you think. Just keep practicing. Also, and I know that this suggestion isn't popular around here, maybe try therapy and/or anti-anxiety meds. Just try not to become completely dependent on them.
Anonymous
6/20/2025, 1:12:57 AM No.81547080