Thread for discussions about self harm and mutual support

nyaturday :3

Hello
>How are you doing today?
>Any plans for today?
>When was the last time you hurt yourself?
>Why did you hurt yourself?
>Is there anything bothering you right now?

Here's a bunch of helpful links

> long list of self harm alternatives (thank you muddy):
https://imgur.io/a/7Q2zgw7

>a first aid post cuting:
https://www.lifesigns.org.uk/first-aid-for-self-injury-and-self-harm/

>a wound care guide:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CsvJs8qNCVkHWHKekMSmCn6qn0GBEcgnq9fIqlA6Uv0/mobilebasic

> bpd workbook:
https://d-pdf.com/book/1781/read

> bpd Information Book (anon said it's exceptionally good)
https://annas-archive.org/md5/e678a1e6375e512f483a04e8291c9183

> bdbt (dialectical behavioral therapy)
workbook is intended for BPD but can work for anyone:
https://cursosdepsicologia.com.ar/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/THEDIA1.pdf

Please don't post any drastic images and if you have to, spoiler them

This shit belongs on discord, fuck off to discord

>>81566228
Why the fuck are you mad at other people who just need a little help in their lives? No wonder your useless ass is browsing r9k. Shitpost elsewhere.

since I fixed my sleep schedule I basically just talk to you all and my one friend.

>>81566181 (OP)
>nyaturday :3
nothing better then caturday ^^
how are you doing cat?

Hiii cat
Hiiii gator

>How are you doing today?
Doing pretty well. Having you guys to vent occasionally to and talk with makes it better.

>Any plans for today?
Trying to stick to my re-established routines as much as I can. It's hard not to fall back into my old bad habits, but I believe I can stick through with it this time.

hey cutters. do you think over-eating is self harm, in your opinion? I heard this the other week but idk

Femboyanon here. I think that this is the year. I see no reason to continue this charade. Everyone in my family is getting married, moving out etc while im stuck in my dead-end job still looking for my own whom i will never find, and quite frankly, being me is humiliating. I don't wanna live long enough for people to start pitying me. Don't get me wrong. I have my moments, I'm not depressed but I just don't see my place in this world anymore.

>>81566228
nah
I see no point in doing that, I like that anyone can find and post in this thread(people like you too)

>>81566348
Hey ali
what's up?
I went to a store today and bought snacks and a little cake to celebrate caturday :3
>fixed my sleep
good job :D
>basically just talk to you all and my one friend.
and if your sleep schedule was not fixed what else you'd be doing?

>>81566551
hey hey ^^
>Doing pretty well
that's good to hear
>talk with makes it better
glad you've found us then :>
>Trying to stick to my re-established routines as much as I can.
what kind of routines you havem
>It's hard not to fall back
I'm sure but it sounds like you're doing a good job so far

>>81566574
Hello
>do you think over-eating is self harm
hm I guess it could be, it's definitely harmful but I feel it probably depends on the intention of the person doing it, if they are doing it to get worse/unwell in some way or are they trying to satisfy their unhealthily big appetite
If it's the former I think it's self harm
It also begs the question, what is self harm?
like if you're going to a dentist to get a tooth pulled, is it self harm? if you're willfully letting someone damage you I guess some might see it in that way
But I don't think it is if you're doing it because some external circumstance (like a tooth infection) forced you to do it and you're doing it with the goal of getting better
What do you think anon?

>>81566574
Imo, it kinda is. But you'll have to take it reallly far, for it to be actually dangerous.

It also depends on how physically active you are and what type of food you're eating.
If you're only shoveling sugar into yourself and rotting in bed all day, then that is clearly unhealthy. If you're having a somewhat balanced diet and try to be active even just a little bit, then that's already a whole different story. But it's a bit hard to judge your specific situation without knowing more infos.

>>81566639
Heyo
It's not great ur unwell but I can't say I don't get why you feel that way, life os pretty shitty
>don't see my place in this world anymore.
you probably have none like most of us, but it doesn't mean you can't carve out your own little spot
what kind of stuff do you enjoy in life? if not much, do you think you have the strength and health to try some new things?

>>81566181 (OP)
>Any plans for today?
I changed my oil today and did my homework for the summer semester.
>>81566716
hi cat
>bought snacks a
oh what did you get?
>>81566348
hi gator
> I basically just talk to you all and my one friend.
well at least you made time for them.

>>81566716
Hiiiii cat!!!

>what kind of routines you havem
Trying to get back into a more healthier lifestyle. My depression got worse and for a few months already I've stopped working out, eating healthy, having a sleep schedule, yadda yadda. I want to get my shit back together, but it's hard to get motivated and I don't feel like it makes me happy. But I'll still try to stick to it even if it feels pointless right now.

>>81566639
Please don't get discouraged by other people around you achieving what you haven't just yet. It doesn't matter if you're young / old, don't feel smart, strong or whatever. Your life's not over yet and I'm sure you'll find more opportunities to change what makes you unhappy if you give it enough time.

Maybe try to re-educate and get into a different profession? From your post I'll assume you're still living with your parents. I'm sure they would support you if you'd try to turn your life around. Maybe you'll find a good school that teaches you more about what you're interested in? I'm sure you'll find something if you start looking.

>>81566551
hey anon.
>Having you guys to vent occasionally to and talk with makes it better
venting is good to be able to do, and you can always do it ^^. and talking is perfect.
>not to fall back into my old bad habits
yea it truly is, mainly when there's some sort of enjoyment form them

>>81566574
I think it's all about the person and intentions.

>>81566639
hey femboyanon.
I think there's always a reason to keep going, I get what your coming from tho, life does suck.

>>81566716
>what's up?
nothing really. waiting to play with my friend if he wants to play.
>store today and bought snacks and a little cake to celebrate caturday :3
Ooo nice!! that's the best way to celebrate such a amazing day :3
>sleep schedule was not fixed what else you'd be doing?
still talking to you all, but probably talk to some of my other friends more that are mainly available when it's super late for me.

>>81567034
hey cynic.
>did my homework for the summer semester.
good job, definitely best to get that over with.
>well at least you made time for them.
yea.

>>81567034
Hiya cynic
>changed my oil today and did my homework for the summer semester.
good job :>
and homework for the whole semester!!?? :o
so how are you going to spend the rest of the day?
>what did you get?
some schoko bons and fruit mousee

>>81567089
>depression got worse and for a few months already I've stopped
ooh I see, best to luck then, getting started and getting used to new habits again is the hardest part
>But I'll still try to stick to it even if it feels pointless right now.
good
if you don't you'll probably regret it in the future
after all it's easier to keep doing what you're doing to stay healthy than to start completely all over again and having to fight to get back to your old shape

>>81567130
>waiting to play with my friend if he wants to play.
hope so, and you guys have fun :D
you're gonna play roblox?
>best way to celebrate
agreed
>other friends more that are mainly available when it's super late for me.
ooh I see
hm maybe before you sleep you could write like a longer text about you day and your thoughts to your friends from a different timezone and they could reply when you're asleep with also a longer texy and you could reply later when ur awake
like a letter or something?
I used to do that with someone and it'd worked pretty well

>>81567381
>so how are you going to spend the rest of the day?
don't know. I've just been playing mario.
>schoko bons and fruit mousee
never had them before. How are they?
>>81567130
> definitely best to get that over with.
i'm glad it's done. It's just the lab half that was available.

>>81567381
>hope so, and you guys have fun :D
he planned to, but he hasn't brought it up so I doubt he does sadly. we do always have fun ^^
>you're gonna play roblox?
we we're planning to play Minecraft! but we definitely may play Roblox as well.
>write like a longer text about you day and your thoughts
that is actually super smart. that definitely should be able to work thanks I'll definitely start doing that, much better then just not talking to my friends :/.
>used to do that with someone and it'd worked pretty well
does seem like it would work great.

>>81567548
>just the lab half that was available
oh lab stuff sounds ultra confusing.

>>81567548
>know. I've just been playing mario.
what mario??
you could also watch a movie btw
>How are they?
very tasty!!
too tasty in fact D;

>>81567815
>he planned to, but he hasn't brought it up
did you ask?
>Minecraft
that sounds nice
man it been a while since I played minecraft
do you also play mc on your own?
>thanks
np :3
>better then just not talking
yep and also you don't have to reply quickly, you can take your time and think abt things

>>81566181 (OP)
>How are you doing today?
Not great
>Any plans for today?
No, especially not anymore
>When was the last time you hurt yourself?
Just now, more bruises and cuts to my head
>Why did you hurt yourself?
Pissed off at myself
>Is there anything bothering you right now?
Yes, but I honestly can't explain it
Otherwise, I had a medical appointment for something unrelated scheduled for Monday, I'll have to cancel that now, can't show up with two black eyes or they'll ask questions...

>>81567953
I'm sorry that things have gotten to that point Anon :(

Please try not to judge yourself so harshly. All we can do is try our best. That doesn't work out all of the time. Everyone makes mistakes, but that's okay. The important thing is that we at least try.

Also,
Have a goood night everyone!!!! See y'all tomorrow!!!!! :3

>>81567953
Hi anon
>Not great
sorry to hear that
can you do something to distract yourself form that?
something that not sh
>honestly can't explain it
why? is it embarrassing?
>unrelated scheduled for Monday, I'll have to cancel that
how long does it take for a blackeye to heal?

>>81568098
>Have a goood night everyone!!!! See y'all
goodnigghhtt :>

>>81567934
>did you ask?
I always just get scared of asking and bothering him. earlier i did already ask if he wanted to play later. we did play btw after he said, only was for a hour tho :(
>since I played minecraft
it's a awesome game! and perfect for friends.
>do you also play mc on your own?
I don't really. I usually feel lonely playing games by myself.
>don't have to reply quickly, you can take your time and think abt things
yea true, no reason to reply quick if there gonna reply only when there awake.

>>81568872
>>81568872
>always just get scared of asking and bothering him.
that's okay but also remember that if he always has to be the one to ask them he'll worry he's bothering you
>only was for a hour tho :(
better them nothing
>perfect for friends.
yeah
>lonely playing games by myself.
I guess
I kinda want to play some alpha and make a cool world like this but I'm not really creative enough
https://youtu.be/_OmZ6w9tYO8?si=-wXGO1fi_w6RQa8y

>>81568098
>>81568207
Thanks, yeah I can watch YT videos or a movie. I was hoping to go see the new MI movie this weekend, or the 28 years later one, but that's not happening now.
>>honestly can't explain it
>why? is it embarrassing?
No, I can't explain it. There's something I keep doing even though I know it's not necessary or helpful, I don't want to do it, and it's probably making things worse. But I just can't stop myself, and I get so frustrated and angry over it.
>how long does it take for a blackeye to heal?
Based on past experience, up to a week. The one from Thursday turned black yesterday and will probably be there for a couple more days. The hits today were worse, so I have no idea.

>>81567815
>oh lab stuff sounds ultra confusing.
I just had gpt do all the busy work.
>planning to play Minecraft!
oh fun. It's been a long time since I mined and crafted.
>>81567934
>what mario??
Odyssey
>you could also watch a movie btw
been watching fallout too.

>>81568967
>he always has to be the one to ask them he'll worry he's bothering you
oh yea true, that would basically be a awful loop. I'll make sure I ask him tomorrow then.
>better them nothing
true.
>play some alpha and make a cool world like this but I'm not really creative enough
it is very cool. and I'm not creative at all either, I'd say best thing to do is just build whatever and either It will look good or at least unique.

>>81569284
>just had gpt do all the busy work
very smart then lol, best way to do homework stuff I'd imagine.
>been a long time since I mined and crafted.
it's a fun one, always good to do some good mining.

going to sleep
goodnight c:

>>81569093
>MI
what's that?
>28 years
have you seen other movies from the series?
maybe you could watch that ?
>don't want to do it, and it's probably making things worse
if you don't want to do it and still do it
that really doesn't sound healthy
maybe you have some sort of disorder like ocd?
>The hits today were worse, so I have no idea.
:<
you really should stop hitting your head anon, one day you're going to accidentally seriously damage your eye or something or get a big concussion

>>81569284
forgot mi name
Also going to bed in an hour
>>81569321
goodnight cat

>>81569321
The new Mission Impossible movie. I've been rewatching them all and today I was going to watch the most recent one, and then tomorrow go see the new one at the theater. And yeah, I was going to rewatch 28 Days and 28 Weeks as well, maybe I'll do that tomorrow afternoon.
>maybe you have some sort of disorder like ocd?
Possibly, maybe even likely. Not sure what to do about it though. Im tempted to show up to my appointment on Monday and when they ask why my face is so fucked up, just tell them I did it to myself... I don't want to get sent to a hold though

goodnight y'all. I gotta sleep and be sad