If you finally went out with a girl, and she actually liked you, would you tell her you're a virgin after a couple of meet-ups, or keep silent until the sex happens?

>>81568316 (OP)
That's a very difficult dilemma to answer. On one hand, properly managing expectations is actually the key to people having a good experience. For example, having an okay sloppy burger at a fast food place would be considered good, but if they serve you that same burger at a high-class expensive restaurant, you'd be pissed. This applies to having sex with people as well. If the woman knows that you're a virgin ahead of time, it should be a better experience for both of you. Having sex for the first time would also probably be pretty stressful for you, so having your lack of experience be known and perhaps having the girl help accommodate you would help mitigate that stress. However, there are two issues. One massive one, and one less severe. Let's start with the massive issue: male virginity is generally seen as repulsive by women. So what that you want to manage expectations, when the woman wants to never see you again after you tell her that. Obviously not ideal. The smaller issue comes from male-bro praxis, and it's that you shouldn't tell a woman how many other women you've slept with, regardless of whether you're a virgin or not.

So in the end, I'm not sure. I'd really like to let the girl know, because trying to play an experienced guy during sex would probably be too stressful for me, and could end up failing spectacularly. But I'm also aware, that by telling her I'd be shooting myself in the foot, and I might not have many more shots at romance or sex left in my life.

>>81568316 (OP)
>If you finally went out with a girl, and she actually liked you, would you tell her you're a virgin after a couple of meet-ups, or keep silent until the sex happens?
Girls don't typically ask this.
Don't tell people that you're a virgin unprompted. It is cringe.

>>81568316 (OP)
I didn't tell my only gf ever that I was still a virgin at 29. We dated for 2 years and had a ridiculous amount of sex. She never suspected I was a virgin, we broke up and she still doesn't know. I'm taking the secret to the grave

>>81568316 (OP)
Of all the pictures of amazon females, why did this one become a meme?

>>81568316 (OP)
No because Im not a virgin. If I still was Id tell her when I knew we were going to do it

I don't think I could have sex with a woman as a virgin guy under the pretext of being sexually experienced. I'm too neurotic, I'd be too stressed out. But as a guy you're not allowed to have uncomfortable taboo feelings like that, or share them with women you want to be intimate with. Because they find it gross, and they only want a specific version of a man that is in line with the archetypal hegemonic masculinity. So as a guy past a certain age, you just can't talk about it. So I most likely wouldn't, unless I felt a particularly strong sense of security with a woman (which would almost definitely be mistaken and end up making me shoot myself in the foot).

So I'm not a virgin but I've never been in a relationship. One time a few years ago I went on a couple of dates with a woman. Things were going well, we really got along, and on the third or fourth date we slept together. The next morning she said something like "where do you see this relationship going?" and I replied "honestly, I have no idea. I've never been in a relationship before. I know that sounds odd, especially given my age, but it's true. I'm happy where we are, and I'm looking forward to seeing how this develops." She broke up with me because she thought I only wanted to have a casual relationship because I said "I'm happy where we are", and I guess she's looking to get married. It was very disappointing. On the other hand, it's apparently possible for a guy who's pushing forty to engage in casual sex, so that's fine I guess.

>>81568316 (OP)
I told my first gf that I was a virgin because she admitted to being a pedophile and liked it. She also liked that my dick was small. French-Canadian women are crazy.

>>81568316 (OP)
She would know I am virgin before we meet as I would never entertain a non virgin with the notions of romance.

>>81568316 (OP)
If i got in that position I would have a drink before and excuse my clumsiness on being drunk

>>81569293
high IQ move and you can even accuse of them of rape if they get uppity

>>81568316 (OP)
Show weakness to women and the darkest pit of hell is open to swallow you whole

There's no need to tell her. If you weren't a virgin, would you just tell her you've had sex before? There's literally no reason to do that unpromted unless you're insecure about your virginity.

>>81569397
No? If you've never programmed a website, then it's probably a good idea to tell your work superior who wants you to do it. They might offer you some guidance, patience, and understanding, without assuming that you'll just do it off the bat. Of course with respect to sex and women, they already want you to be a complete package, so they'd just tell you to fuck off if you tell them you're a virgin, but it's completely understandable why a guy would want to communicate that, even if it's a bad idea.

>>81568316 (OP)
>dont tell her
>fuck her
>if she seems disappointed just say its been a while

I have rehearsed an entire backstory including two prior girlfriends that explains why I am still a "virgin"
>1st girlfriend wanted to wait until marriage but we broke up so kever had sex
>2nd girlfriend had a really tight pussy so i never actually got it in past the tip she would always say to stop since it hurt her and we only tried that a few times
That covers 5 years of time so i can be a virgin but still seem normal

>>81570066
inventing 2gf's is crazy they always ask questions and get presistent if you don't answer

If you're like 16 it wouldn't be too much of a problem fessing up but if you're a male and older than 20 you really should just lie by omission and pretend you know what you're doing.
>b-b-b-but I'm nervous
pop a viagra
>b-b-b-but women have a sixth sense for lying
no they don't lol, come up with a story like other anons itt

>>81568649
>She never suspected I was a virgin
What lies/avoidance did you use? Seems hard to avoid.

>>81570293
>inventing 2gf's is crazy
I remember a greentext here about a no-gf anon's mother and another female sitting down to invent a deep history past girlfriend for anon so he could use that story.

>>81569626
This all makes sense, and would be the obvious way in a perfect world, but...
>>81569341
Yes, scared of this and preselection failure klaxons

>>81571455
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>>81570386
>if you're a male and older than 20 you really should just lie by omission
39 khhv here. My promising oneitis is 23 with some experience, and from our interactions expects me to be better than good.

>>81568913
>I've never been in a relationship before
This is more likely what drove her off than the other things. Something must be wrong with you (and me, see above) is what her mind says.

>>81570066
>i never actually got it in past the tip
Yeah, but what's the believable size for this since she'll find out. (I'm 7.5x5.5".)


So looking for advice on this, yeah. What has worked, what hasn't, the mindset I need, etc.

>>81568706
Because unlike most actual Amazonian and Amazonian-adjacent females, she's fairly attractive to Western eyes. Also, she's a chan mascot.

>>81568989
>She also liked that my dick was small. French-Canadian women are crazy.

.>Wee wee-wee?
>Oui Oui!

>>81568316 (OP)
Certainly not after a couple meet-ups, but before sex she deserves to know except she doesn't because she'll use it against you.

>>81568316 (OP)
>If you finally went out with a girl
If...

>>81569626
Anon, its sex. Not building a website or fixing a car
Men have been doing this for millennia with no guidance at all.
Unironically, do not think about it. Just let your instincts take over, THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE THERE FOR.

>>81572541
What about all the jokes about men not finding the clit? (I wouldn't know, never had sex.)
And maybe is she knows youre a virgin you'll get a free do-over in hopes of improvement?

>>81568316 (OP)
>If you finally went out with a gir
Not happening and there is no reason to entertain such a retarded hypothetical. The reason 40 years olds chads like myself keep our virginity in tact is because we don't value sex, females, relationships and don't really have any such goals in life in the first place. It's really that simple. We're volcels. And there is absolutely no reason to all of a sudden change our entire personality just to entertain some irrelevant human with a date or to entertain such a hypothetical.
I'm a man. I might have ever needed a female just for procreation and nothing else. Other than it'd be: shut the fuck up, female, I do know better.

>>81572554
If men cannot find the clit and you are indeed a male, it is already assumed you do not know where the clit is/have a hard time finding it.
If you really, absolutely, must know where the clit is you are on the internet right now. Nothing is stopping you from straight up googling "where is the clit" and looking for spread vaginas for examples.
Again, it really is a matter of not thinking about it. If she finds you attractive, her body will subconsciously prepare her, just as your's will get YOU ready.

>>81572611
I'm just asking if there's something behind those jokes. Obviously I would assume men see it, but maybe women mean they don't do anything, the right thing, enough of the right thing, etc. Or do they have nothing else to be critical about?
I see more of that complaint than premature ejaculation, size, or other stuff I think would be easier targets, even for cringe like pic related.

>>81569626
But what if you have a pretty good idea your boss will fire you when you tell them. Isn't it better to see if you can fake it until you make them cum. I mean, until you make it?

>>81568627
>Girls don't typically ask this.
I guess. But they typically ask stuff about your past relationships, comparison to exes. Stuff I would have to answer with "Uh, I dunno" or bullshit through.

>>81568609
>male-bro praxis, and it's that you shouldn't tell a woman how many other women you've slept with, regardless of whether you're a virgin or not.
Please enlighten on the male-bro praxis and this particularly

>>81572541
The "proven instinct" logic follows for impregnating, but offers little reassurance about getting dumped or jailed after.

>>81568316 (OP)
I sperged out and said it before the first date happened, and her mood, from being kinky and mischievous, became much more neutral and detatched.
Dont do it unless you know she's potentially a compatible partner, or she's virgin herself, i totally killed the mood, she went from saying things like "id want to lick your face" to just flat and casual stuff

>>81573522
I would hope I could get over the awkwardness and be able to tell her in private

>>81568609
you don't tell women anything, bro. Unless she says she's a virgin first it's a no-win scenario. If she questions your actions you just have to say "It's been a long time" that's it.

In life you need to learn to stfu to get what you want.

>>81568316 (OP)
If she asked sure. I'm open about this cause I don't feel ashamed of still being a virgin.
If that's a deal breaker for her then too bad I guess.

>>81568316 (OP)
Id lie through my fucking teeth. I already have a whole plan about how I'll say "I had sex a couple times in college but it's been a while" and other lies

>>81568316 (OP)
I'd say don't tell them about your sexual history. After a couple of relationships, you'll come to realize that this idea that you have to be an open book with the girl you like/love is complete nonsense.
This won't make sense to you right now, but once have been through a couple of relationships, you'll understand.

>>81573976
This.
And even if you have had plenty of sexual partners, you might think that she'll think you are a catch or something, but nothing good will come out of it.
Leaving them wondering is the best thing you can do.

>>81568316 (OP)
Probably tell her far too soon and ruin everything

>>81568316 (OP)
If she asks...
1) politely excuse yourself
2) find nearby slut (should not be difficult)
3) have sex
4) return with a truthful answer and the stench of slut to indicate preselected success.

Embrace honesty in your dealings with foids, anon.

>>81568913
> I've never been in a relationship
>Things were going well, we really got along, and on the third or fourth date we slept together
What the fuck do you think a relationship even is

>>81568316 (OP)
I wouldn't date a girl if she wasn't a virgin. She should expect me to be one as well.

>>81568316 (OP)
Just do it in a funny way, IDK why you people think talking to a woman has to be strategic and business-like. Just slip in the fact you're a virgin in a joke or something.

"Hey are those two seagulls in the table next to us fucking? I mean I wouldn't know, I'm a virgin." etc.

And women don't mind virginity unless they are nymphos who want to have sex everyday, for most relationships sex takes 20% while communication takes 80%.

>>81568706
>>81571599
I think it's because she's part white.

>>81574937
Here's another good one. Not sure what tribe though.

>>81568316 (OP)
i would tell like her 0.5 seconds before undressing her. so we are at this point too late to back out of it, but she can still be gentle and teach me the ropes.

>>81574947
See. She's popular because she looks part white.

>>81574831
>"Hey are those two seagulls in the table next to us fucking? I mean I wouldn't know, I'm a virgin." etc.
nigga...

>>81568316 (OP)
on the last day of school for the year i found a usb drive on the school cafeterias tables? i took it home because it was literally the last busses leaving, and checked it when i got home to see if there was like, a name, or number or some sort of identification. it had two folders? one was just this family going through a forest on some sorta hike. pretty normal.

the second folder? same forestry path, area, but now its just the two girls, sisters i think, and they strip and start covering themselves in mud and shit in the water? fucking weird.

i didnt return it because....the only way i could of figured out who they were was to look at the pictures, and uh....kind awkward. "heres your weird sister lesbian home amatuer softcore porn back"?