Did you come from a bad family or good? I know some guys that came from good homes and still ended up fucked up. My family provided for me but didn't care for me.

>>81577471 (OP)
this is the internet why does that matter?

>>81577540
I can't have a discussion with my fellow man?

>>81577552
please answer my question before i answer yours

>>81577568
It's just because I want to discuss my pain with other people. If you don't like it you don't have to say anything, anon.

>>81577471 (OP)
Stable family but neurotic, anxious unstable mom and mostly absent pushover dad. No extended family, moved constantly, never really made friends, completely unsocialized. Made life hell when the social hierarchy was shaking out, and I was completely unprepared

>>81577471 (OP)
>know some guys that came from good homes and still ended up fucked
No you don't.

>>81577729
I know a mexican dude with a caring mother and siblings that genuinely cared for him and he left them behind to shack up with some abusive chick. Others just got into drugs too hard, and they had money and somewhat stable Conditions

>>81577471 (OP)
I had a fucked up childhood and my mom was abusive but now that I'm an adult it's completely okay and we're chill with each other, I don't hate her for it anymore, she had her own issues that stemmed from my grandparents

>>81577471 (OP)
>Did you come from a bad family or good
Good intentions sometimes bad execution. Basically tiger parenting but in eastern euro rather east asian form

Materially and physically pretty good but wasn't allowed privacy, boundaries, failure, agency or opinions.

>>81577867
Drugs and sex will fuck up normies who can't say no to a good time. Being all fucked up with no self-destructive habits to speak of, is a very different story

grew up listening to parents scream and fight every day. dad was a violent alcoholic that liked to break shit and mom was a retarded pushover. we lived in a dilapidated hoarder house full of dogs and cats. there was a hole in the roof and racoons lived in the attic. I do not like life and I value my solitude

>>81577471 (OP)
Raised by an abusive single mother, I don't have any self-destructive coping mechanisms like a lot of people I know that were raised in similar environments. The schitzoid personality type does fit me pretty well, so....

>>81577471 (OP)
i was raised by a single mom who didn't work and dated lowlifes

>>81578271
Yeah but we also have no motivation to seek life, it's the flip side of self-destruction. I wish I had some real desires.

>>81578271
Both sides of my family are schizoid weirdos, but smart. If it wasn't for the "but smart" part they'd probably all be in prison. If you're obnoxious, crazy, and/or a malignant narcissist you can get away with it if you make enough money.

Even my own deranged extended family doesn't like me, but they're sociopaths who break down crying/destroy a car in anger so perhaps that's a good thing.

I learned pretty early on that what I identified as normal was completely fucking bonkers to the average person. I coped by withdrawing and learning to lie about every detail of my life. Just the peace of not being around my family anymore is like a dopamine release to me. People are like "aren't you lonely?" and it's hard to explain to them the sheer joy and relaxation of no longer being harassed by schizoid narcissists who can't let anyone else experience happiness.

>>81578351
>schizoid narcissists
This is word salad, they're completely different in expression.

>>81577471 (OP)
I had very supportive and loving parents. Definitely helped me academically. Didn't help me at all with pussy. They were overprotective and taught me to be super dubious of other people (meanwhile some of my classmates had dads that took them to brothels). Both me (23M) and my older sister (24F) are kissless virgins. Neither of us ever had a date.

>>81577471 (OP)
My family were bigshots in some tinpot dictatorship their type's corruption ran into the ground. They immigrated to America but for the most part didn't assimilate and are continuing to play the same games that cost them their country and (relative) wealth.

>>81578393
My parents were obsessed with the notion that I would immediately drop out of school to mope around at home upon a breakup, because apparently that's what a family's friend's son did. Later on, I found out that nearly every other asian family knew this person, because their kids of my generation were told the same shit.

>>81577471 (OP)
My parents got divorced at an early age. My mom met a paranoid schizophrenic man who got her addicted to meth. She had most custody of me and used my dad's child support for drugs n shit. I had clothes, food, went to a decent school and ended up doing well for myself for the most part. But I am not socialized very well or just not attractive I guess. I can't really tell people about my childhood, because they are normgroids who usually had good childhoods and to them fucking around acting like retards is the most fun thing to them. Also, I think not being a foid kept me safe. If I had been a girl, I think the situation would have been very, very, very different.

>>81578419
>tinpot dictatorship their type's corruption ran into the ground
Americans learned a few lessons from them, obviously

>>81578476
Guess it's no surprise America would turn out corrupt after absorbing all the elites of the corrupt client states we propped up during the 20th centuries.

>>81577471 (OP)
My parents didn't teach me the most basic of shit. I'm talking about brushing your teeth, taking a shower, washing your face, socializing, etc. They failed me so goddamn hard it's unreal.

>>81578476
Guess it's no surprise America would turn out corrupt after absorbing all the elites of the corrupt client states we propped up during the 20th century.

>>81578387
You're right, the narcissistic ones (mother's side) are probably closer to BPD than schizotypal. They're nuts is the gist of it.

My home life sucked and my relationship with my parents improves with distance

>>81578622
This is true for most people. You get to avoid all the bullshit and only have to see them a couple of times a year.

>>81577471 (OP)
Those guys you know didn't really come from a good family their narcissistic parents just care about what other people think so they put on a facade. Nobody fucked up actually had a good family or they wouldn't be who they are. Having a mcmansion, a job and a bmw doesn't make you a good parent.

>>81578612
Breh please look up what "schizoid" actually stands for. You're so confused it hurts to read

>>81578338
I wasn't always like this, I had friends, a social life, long-term relationships, but life has a way of grinding you down, and if you always had schitzoid tendencies...

>>81577471 (OP)
i come from probably the best family you can imagine. im not fucked up, just hollow inside. i dont know how i got so lucky but still feel so incomplete.