Am I the Asshole?
>husband has guitar
>he dug it out of a dumpster when he was in high school and repaired it himsrlf
>it is super rough looking. But he loves it
>i take it without him knowing and take it to a pro to fix it. Costs me $200
>I give it back to him, he says thank you but seems really sad.
>he hasn't touched it since.
>I thought I was being nice. Guess I can't do anything right fml

>>81592157 (OP)
no you did the right thing

>>81592166
I don't know what his problem is. Fucking ungrateful.

>>81592157 (OP)
I have 3 guitars and would've been happy if someone did that for me.
Your husband is probably autistic about his guitar, kinda weird in my opinion
Maybe the guitar repair guy screwed something up? But i think your husband would've told you if that was the case,
Post an image of the guitar
Not the asshole

>>81592157 (OP)
there is no karma on this site, you can stop making shit up

>>81592157 (OP)
Maybe you should talk to him about it instead of blogposting on the incel board

>>81592157 (OP)
yes you could've just asked him first

>>81592157 (OP)
no but you should have asked him first before changing his things

>>81592157 (OP)
you're dumb, that was the identity of the guitar, you changed it without permission
>Guess I can't do anything right fml
and of course you're the victim here

>>81592157 (OP)
first of all
no ur not the asshole, ungrateful ass husband, you did something very nice and he is being a childish cunt for no reason i literally dont understand what the problem could be

second, who is that in the picture and how the hell do you get hair like that i wanna have hair like that what the fk do you do to get bangs like that

thats fucked up whats wrong with you

>>81592307
So true sister, better yet she should give away the guitar and replaced it with a pink one that says "love laugh love," if he doesn't like that he's childish and insecure

>>81592157 (OP)
>I'm going to intervene without your knowledge
Why are women like this?

>>81592183
OP will post it to Reddit for the karma, don't worry about that.

>>81592157 (OP)
You are the asshole, to steal a Leddit term. Men are protective of their guitars and he probably left it in that state of disrepair on purpose. It could be a nostalgia thing or he simply liked the aesthetic of it. Some musicians purposely keep beat up looking guitars because they look cool. You should have asked him.

>>81592157 (OP)
>am I the asshole
What is this? Fucking reddit? Retard hour rn.

>>81592157 (OP)
it was THE guitar for him OP, or his object of obsession. I'd honestly feel the same way if someone fixed up my car or my bass without my consent, I'd rather have the joy of doing both myself.

He were probably attached to the way it looked prior cause it represented something to him. You changing altered it. He'll get over it eventually and the way it looks now will represent something new.

Women are equal parts stupid and evil. I was the victim of something similar.

>>81592157 (OP)
you weren't being nice. You didn't accidentally fuck up while trying to do something nice. You saw something good in his life (a guitar), that had nothing to do with you. Out of jealousy, you decided to make your mark on that object. You couldn't just let him have one good thing that didn't involve you.

It was a bad thing to do, but your relationship is still salvageable. Let him have prized possessions that weren't gifts from you. Let him have hobbies that you don't participate in. Let him hang out with his friends without you.

t. the best man at a wedding of a now divorced men.

>>81592157 (OP)
>I'm a vulnerable narcissist and my overt narcissist husband don't appreciate me
>Whaaaaaaaaaa
Shut. The. Fuck. Up. You. Stupid. Fucking. Bitch.

>>81592157 (OP)
Post pics of your asshole and then we can tell you

>>81593032
very good post
>man finds thing
>man fixes thing with his own hands and labor of love
>woman pays $200 to other man to fix it MORE and BETTER
>man loses the project he worked on
>man's restoration of the item has been completely undermined
It's like taking a car he worked on to the "pimp my ride" people... Like obviously he's not happy because it was his thing he worked on and now some other guy has touched it and you PAIDd the other guy to touch it... You basically raped him, cucked him out of his personal touch on the guitar, and some other man has had his grubby hands on something he loves...while you simultaneously told him that the way he did it wasn't good enough, so you got another guy to do it... Terrible.

>>81593104
It cannot be said any better lmao. Especially about a random guy he doesn't know having his hands on the guitar.

>>81593262
She probably fucked the guy that fixed the guitar also

Should have asked him. If he wanted a professional to have repaired it he would have done so long ago. Part of the appeal of it was that he nutured the guitar after it was thrown away.

>>81592157 (OP)
i wouldn't say you're the asshole, but you did fuck up and you should make more effort to understand why you fucked up before you are the asshole. Taking the attitude of
>I thought I was being nice. Guess I can't do anything right
is a manipulation tactic designed to position you as the victim in this situation. I'm sure you do things right or he wouldn't have married you, but that is beside the point, and you should reflect on what you did wrong instead of directing the conversation in a way to make you feel better or recover face.

>>81592341
dont call me sister if you are going to be a rude jerk like that
ohh uhh you dont understand guitars because you are a girl uhhhh guuuh
she literally just had it fixed up like a polish or clean up
Imagine im your wife and i take your car to a carwash and have it washed. Thats literally all she did
Is that the same as if i sold your car and instead brought home some pink pussywagon?
no its fucking not!!!

>>81592157 (OP)
>i take it without him knowing and take it to a pro to fix it. Costs me $200
What did "fix it" mean? Guitarcels often like their guitar to look beat to shit because it lets them larp as touring musicians.

>>81593571
the source of his pride was that it was a piece of junk that he found and restored with his own efforts. If you take it, have a professional do work over all of the marks of his effort, you destroy what makes it valuable to him. He doesn't care about the work a stranger did to a piece of junk, he's proud of the work he did to it.

>>81593607
OP here
>what did fix it mean?
I had the guy strip it and rebuild it from the ground up.
It used to have superficial damage all over it, it had marks from where my husband had fixed it, he had hand-painted all those dots on the neck. I dunno.
You could tell it came from a dumpster. Now it looks brand new and sounds brand new.
>>81593104
That's not fair. It was ugly af.
He grew up poor so that's why he got it out of the dumpster in the first place.
I thought he'd say
>wow you took the thing I had to DIG THROUGH RUBBISH FOR, the thing THAT LOOKED LIKE RUBBISH, and you made it look and sound brand new. Thank you sweetie, you have given me the brand new guitar I never had.

>>81593613
im so confused you guys are always like i wish femcels were nice to me and then when we do something nice for you its bad
like why would he want a ruined guitar that barely works compared to a nice polished new looking one that she spent 200 bucks to get fixed?
It looks nice and its clean and working perfectly and stuff he can still tweak it to his own like put stickers on it or paint it with stuff or idk i would probably add some glitter on mine if i had one but i play a miku otamatone and i put some glitter on it so it looks nice in the light

But the thing is i understand how OP feels because i was in the same sitaution when i was 19. I had a boyfriend who was 22 and he bought this wreck car from the scrapyard and was like "im gonna fix this baby up" and spend so much time working on it in front of his house and it still wasnt even starting and he was like "oh i will have to find some spare parts for the engine and it will work youll see"
So then when he had mandatory military stuff i took the car to my uncle who has a car mechanic company garrage thing and i was like could you fix this thing up, and he is like sure thing princess ill even give you a big discount". The car was there for like 5 months and it costed me almost a grand and my uncle said that was more than 60% off. Car looked amazing and like polished body and all the damage buffed out and engine fixed up like i had it towed there but drove it out of there
And then when my boyfriend came back home 3 months later for christmas i was like surprise christmas gift ur car is all fixed no need to work on it anymore do you love it? and he instead got super mad and broke up with me and then sold it... fucking men. At least he was man enough to own up and he paid me back like half of what i spent to fix the car up when he sold it but like you broke my heart you asshole

>>81594146
you could have just gotten him a nice new guitar instead of destroying his old one. and yes you destroyed it. its value wasn't how it looked it was the work he put into it to make it what it was. it's like if he painted something and framed it up on his wall, and you took it down and paid a better artist to paint on top of it. yeah, it might be a better painting, but you ruined his painting to produce it.

>>81592204
>>81592207
This.

Why post this shit here?
On the microscopic chance this isn't fake and gay, nothing will be accomplished posting it here or anywhere else online.
Go talk to the dude directly and actively listen to what he has to say without getting defensive about it.

>>81592157 (OP)
>Take thing without asking
>"Guess I can't do anything right fml"

You have a childs mentality. Grow up and stop touching things that aren't yours.

>>81594167
you're missing the point. the quality of the object is irrelevant. it means nothing. if you want us to have a nice thing, get a new thing for us. The value of the object is the pride we have in our work. I can understand that you might not have understood that before it is explained to you, but I'm honestly a little frustrated that you can't understand it after it's explained. Not only are you erasing the thing we're proud of by having a professional do it over, but you're also messaging that our work isn't good enough, that the time and care we put into something was a waste and unworthy.

>>81594146
>That's not fair. It was ugly af.
exactly!!! why do men love things that are shit and act like they arent i dont understand it

He grew up poor, he could never afford a good guitar so he had to settle for trash
Now you wanted to be a good wife so you took his trash and turned it into treasure.
You basically gave the guy who had to settle an upgrade and he is somehow hating on it? Its so unfair how unappreciating guys can be but then if you DONT do these things the will be like "omg femcels are never nice to us they are all bitches"

>>81594169
>destroyed it
What?
I don't umderstand, it is perfrctly fine, sitting untouched.
He used to play it daily.
I thought he loved it.
Now he won't even look at it.
Now I see its some sort of control freak shit.
He stopped loving it BECAUSE I helped.

>>81594215
no way you all are this retarded.

>>81594220
he stopped loving it because you ruined it.

>>81592157 (OP)
Fuck off, yourea stupid bitch with a cuck husband

>>81592157 (OP)
>Am I the Asshole?
Yes.
Why didn't you just fucking ask?
You wanted to LE SURPRISE him? How gay.

>>81592177
>I don't know what his problem is. Fucking ungrateful.
You fucked with this prized possession that he had since high school. He enjoyed his guitar the way it was.
Even if he was complaining about it to you, some people just like having little things to complain about to others.
Imagine doing something that has a net negative on their life and expecting them to be "grateful" for it.

>>81594230
How did I ruin it!!!??? Its better than it was!

>>81594204
>that the time and care we put into something was a waste
but the work was a waste he spent like 7 months working on it and it wouldnt even start yet and he did a paintjob and painted racing strips on it that werent even. And he always talked about hunting for spare parts or how "oh this other car guy gave me a cool advice on how to fix a brake pad" or something so he was clearly struggling with it. My uncle had it in the shop for half that time while also working on other cars and running a bussiness and he was able to make the car look brand new. My ex-bf would have wasted like another 2-3 years working on it and it probably wouldnt even look as good as it did when i had it fixed up for him
Now instead of having to waste 3 years working on a wreck he could enjoy cruising in a brand new looking car. Its not like its his fault that he isnt a profesional and i never blamed him for not being a profesional mechanic i just knew my uncle could do it better and faster and also probably cheaper. And now my ex could have been the cool guy of the friend group. He was always talking to his friends about his wreck and they will hang out later and work on it together or how "when its done we are gonna go there and there with it" and then when it was done he just sold it like wtf you talked about this car nonstop with ur friends so just go enjoy it with ur friends now that it actually works

>>81594266
How are you this stupid?!

>>81594220
every act of creation is an act of destruction. Creating a marble statue is destroying the smooth slab of raw marble. Painting a canvas is destroying the virgin paint and canvas. Turning his trash guitar into something you think is nice is destroying the sentimental value of the object he salvaged from a time when life was hard for him, that he took care and effort to turn into something he was proud of, for what it was. His shitty guitar was worth more to him than the piece of garbage you saw, because it represented a memory, where he came from, and the effort he put into his life to transform it into something better. like i said >>81594204
you're telling him that his effort amounted to trash.

I mean, you don't have to agree with it, but you should understand that this is why he's upset, and no matter how good the guitar ended up, you destroyed something that was more important to him than a guitar. If you stubbornly refuse to see that, you are the asshole in the situation. If you can take accountability for what you did, take the position of someone who messed up instead of the position of the victim of your husbands response, then you can be not the asshole.

OP's husband is going to file for a divorce and OP deserves it.

>>81594268
>the work was a waste
you don't support your husband and your marriage will fail. i'm calling it now. if your husband is proud of something and you call it garbage you are a shit wife. marrying you was his mistake. you could have bought him a new one, you didn't have to destroy his work.

>>81594220
>Now I see its some sort of control freak shit.
>He stopped loving it BECAUSE I helped.
The irony of this statement.
You decided that you knew better than him about what he wants his prized possession to look like, and then you took his choice to keep it that way from him.
I'd tell you to kill yourself if it weren't for him. Stupid bitch.

>>81594296
i dont have a husband im 23 and no i couldnt have bought my boyfriend a new car when i was 19 because i was 19 in this dogshit economy even the grand i spent on getting the car fixed up was almost all of the cash i had at the time and i was happy to spend it on my exboyfriend to make him happy and instead i got a spit in the face shows how much you guys value when your women do something nice thoughtful and wholehearted for you!!!

>>81594167
Jesus christ, women are so fucking retarded.

My girlfriend had this ugly mutt dog. While she was sick in the hospital I drove out of town and left him on the side of the road. I wanted to surprise her with a purebred cat. She was upset for some reason and didn't even say thank you.

>>81594321
are you aware you are dumb or do you think everyone else is dumb?

>>81592157 (OP)
picrel energy

>>81594327
That is so not the same thing

>>81592157 (OP)
Yes, you're an asshole. You didn't do it for him, you did it for yourself.
>it is super rough looking. But he loves it
In classic self-absorbed fashion, you projected what (you) would want to do rather than what he did.
>>81592278
This.

>>81594321
if you can't see why he wouldn't think what you did was nice then you are selfish. General rule: don't work on your man's project for him, doing the project himself means more than the project being done or done well. If you want to be nice to your man, take him out to get him a nice pair of work boots, or make him a nice dinner with flower petals going into the bedroom. Sorry you made a mistake because you didn't understand the opposite gender and blew up your relationship. Don't worry, men do the same kind of thing. You aren't going to learn your lesson if you can't understand what i'm saying.

Also, I thought you were OP. If OP believes her husband's DIY guitar restoration was garbage, then her marriage isn't going to last.

>>81594268
>but the work was a waste he spent like 7 months working on it and it wouldnt even start yet and he did a paintjob and painted racing strips on it that werent even.
>instead of having to waste 3 years working on a wreck
You fucking idiot.
It's not about the destination. It's about the journey. Guys just like to tinker on things with their hands. It helps us focus in on something and reduce overall stress, even if that "something" can get overwhelming from time to time.
I have so many unfinished projects that I jump between that I could probably fill up a novel talking about them.
That's okay. I don't want someone else taking over for me.

>when it was done he just sold it like wtf you talked about this car nonstop with ur friends so just go enjoy it with ur friends now that it actually works
That was just idle talk, obviously. You are putting way too much stock in the destination.

>>81594345
it's pretty much the same thing. That dog was ugly, and now she has a beautiful cat. Why doesn't she appreciate the nice thing he did for her? Women are so ungrateful!

>>81594332
im not dumb for wanting to do something nice for my bf!!!

>>81594327
and wtf is with this that is not the same thing like OP having a piece of shit guitar fixed at all!! this is animal abuse its her baby. So when you get sick and she brings home a new boyfriend and is like "look babe its you but better" when you get back from the hospital would you say thank you?
men are unreal sometimes

>>81594335
and how is this a bad thing that bar looks fabulous!!! And it still has such a manly feel to it despite being made my a woman like the open brick wall and the dart board that is so guys how is this a bad thing he can hang out with his friends there and stuff

>>81594322
Good morning I hate women so much it's unreal
Love from The Falklands

>>81594373
>haha surprise I got you circumsized while you were asleep last night
>you liked it better before? well I think it looks better now!
>why are you mad? I did something nice for you

>>81594397
kek based
so much niggery in this thread

>>81594373
>something nice for my bf!!!
You didn't do something nice for him, you did something nice for you.
>that bar looks fabulous
>he can hang out with his friends there and stuff
You're mentally ill.

>>81594373
>for wanting to do something nice for my bf!!!
What you did was not nice, though.
It was cruel at worse and thoughtless at best.

>rest of thus post
Nevermind, nigger. I can't even suspend my disbelief anymore.
Less exclamation points next time, please.

>>81594373
oh lord you really are dumb and selfish. Your suffering is your own fault. You are no victim here. kys

>>81594354
OP here. I didn't think his restoration was garbage. He didn't try to restore it. He fixed it so it could be played. That was it. And I loved that he loved to play it.
But it had all this "battle damage" from when it was broken. Superficial stuff.
I thought i'd fix that so now it is still the same guitar but it isn't scarred to shit.
Bella would love it if Edward got her shitty red truck fixed up.

>>81594368
But the cat is not the dog. A better example eould be
>he got her dog washed for her

>>81594406
how was spending most of my money on fixing up his car something nice for me??
>You're mentally ill.
mhmm thanks its called having a taste. And what is mentally ill about saying he can hang out with his friends in the literal pub that he has at his house? That literally makes everything easier
Instead of having to go to a pub out there with his friends he can be at a pub with his friends in his own house. No drunk driving home either so safety???? maybe???
And his wife doesnt have to worry "omg i wonder where my husband is i hope he is okay" when she can just go down to the basement to say hi to him and the other guys and check up if everything is okay rather than getting a call at 2 in the morning from some barkeep because "maam your husband is drunk and passed out come get him"
Yeah im mentally ill beacuse i think something a woman did for her man looks cool
you know i really see a lot of PATTERN here. Man do thing = good. Woman do thing? = Bad!!!!!

but at least i learned a lesson over the years that doing nice things for guys is not a good idea so if my current boyfriend buys a wrecked car or something no way in hell am i helping!
Hell i already help him by making him party lees with his friends so he doesnt get drunk or injured so i guess i should instead encourage him to go out there and ruin his life?? is that what men want?

>>81594447
You destroyed what it was by fixing what you saw was wrong with it, and also what it meant to him. You didn't try to understand why he loved something that looked so scuffed, you just saw something to fix. You thought he loved it despite its flaws, but he loved it because of its flaws. Like I've been saying, you just gotta take the L on this one, gotta reflect on it and understand why you're in the wrong, because your marriage won't succeed if you can't ask your husband for forgiveness out of pride.

>>81592157 (OP)
>couple doesn't communicate and they both end up suffering
many such cases!

>>81594486
So what?
Do i just go at it with sandpaper and knices now?
>here babe its all fucked up again ur welcome

>>81594496
I think you fix your relationship and involve your husband in the process instead of guessing what will make it better and acting on your own like you did to fuck up his guitar.

>>81594447
>But it had all this "battle damage"
Did you ever stop to consider he liked that?
>I thought i'd fix that so now it is still the same guitar
It isn't.
>>81594466
>how was spending most of my money on fixing up his car something nice for me
If you actually wanted to do something nice for him, you would have giving him the money. You did it for yourself - you wanted him to be grateful to you so you'd feel good about yourself. You're so self-absorbed you can't even see past the action and your own feelings.
>what is mentally ill about saying he can hang out with his friends in the literal pub that he has at his house
Men don't need a pub to hang out. That's a woman thing. A group of men will be happier sitting on the floor than on those uncomfortable stools. Since we already established you can't see past your own self, it's impossible for you to get it. It's like trying to explain to a blind person what sunset looks like.
>i think something a woman did for her man looks cool
The man was happy with his couch and "gym". The woman did it for herself and herself only.
>Woman do thing? = Bad!!!!!
There are plenty of examples of women doing nice, caring, loving things for their men. Again, you are mentally ill. Seek therapy please.

>>81594496
It's not about it being fucked up and liking it better that way, as a guitarist. you took something with immense sentimental value and destroyed it. getting rid of the superficial damage wrecked years of memories of constantly playing that guitar
guitarists sometimes pay hundreds of dollars extra for fake damage on new guitars
you probably knew exactly what you were doing and just wanted to hurt him

>>81594591
>you probably knew exactly what you were doing and just wanted to hurt him
I was writing "You're giving her too much credit, she's just dumb and egocentric" but then I read her replies and maybe you're onto something.

>>81594591
No I wanted to surprise him.
Why do you assume I hate him?

>>81594532
thank god my current boyfriend doesnt think like this because i swear i would have to start working on becoming a lesbian
>Men don't need a pub to hang out
well if thats true then its weird how many of you go there then. Last week i went to a pub because my dad asked me to bring him his wallet because he forgot it at home and surprise, full of guys. Including my dad drinking and hanging out with 3 of his buddies. I guess i should have told them to sit on the floor outside on the street because they are being idiots according to this one guy online
>The man was happy with his couch and "gym".
He literally says "always trust your wife" so clearly he likes and appreciates the pub. Nice to see at least some men can be thankful when a girl decides to fix or improve something for them
>If you actually wanted to do something nice for him, you would have giving him the money
Do you hate everything romantic or is it all guys who do?
Option A: a beautiful romantic gesture where his girlfriend secretly fixes up his piece of shit junk car into a fully working ride (profesional work that would cost almost 3K without her being able to get an awesome discount btw)
Option B: "hey babe here is 900 bucks just cuz i feel like randomly giving you this sum of money or something dont care"

>>81594618
OP here,
Guys do need spaces away from women though. There should be gender exclusive spaces for men and women.
What I did with the guitar aside, men should have a space where we aren't allowed in nor allowed to change it.
Guys need their own spaces.

>>81594640
Hey. First of all i really dont understand the guitar issue. You turned a barely working piece of junk into a nice guitar. Its still the same guitar he played all those times except not shit now

Second of all i completly agree with you. Guys need their own space. But its not like we have infinite power over them
If he wanted the gym gaming basement thing to stay the way it is he could have just told his wife. Its not like he was on his knees crying "PLEEEEASE STOOOOP" powerless while he watched his wife powerlift those couch seats out of there and bring in a table and paint the room. But its like thats what the men here in this thread imply happened

>>81594640
Every time men try to form a men's only space, there are some men's wives who will nag their way in, until it becomes a gender neutral space.

>>81594661
Honestly I think you should become a lesbian and leave men alone.

>>81594615
your persistent denial that you did anything wrong is the most obvious giveaway. maybe you're just a selfish ignorant bitch. either way i hope he replaces you like you did his guitar

>>81594618
>i would have to start working on becoming a lesbian
>same sex attraction is a choice
Nice to see the mask is off.
>well if thats true then its weird how many of you go there then
Not many actually.
>and surprise, full of guys
All of them are there to get away from women. Go ahead, ask your dad and promise him secrecy. He'll admit to it.
>He literally says "always trust your wife" so clearly he likes and appreciates the pub
What he appreciate is the upvotes in gayddit and being able to show to his wife that he posted it so he can get some. It's pure virtue signalling for profit. Hopefully it worked for him.
> a beautiful romantic gesture where his girlfriend secretly fixes up his piece of shit junk car
That's not a romantic gesture. Again, you're mentally ill and delusional.
>Option B: "hey babe here is 900 bucks
Option C: After he showers from fixing his car you're waiting on him with a light but delicious dinner (no salad trash), then give him a massage and then make love and let him fall asleep right after. Guaranteed gratitude for a thousand years.
>>81594661
>If he wanted the gym gaming basement thing to stay the way it is he could have just told his wife
You're right, but that's not how relationships work in practice. Men want to make their girlfriends happy, even if it means sacrificing their own, like OP's man burying his feelings of his now lost guitar to spare his wife's.

>>81594738
>Nice to see the mask is off.
the become lesbian was a joke implying that im fed up with how childish some men act. of course a man wouldnt understand a joke unless its Nword or something involving videogames references
>Go ahead, ask your dad and promise him secrecy. He'll admit to it.
you want me to ask my dad if he goes to the pub to meet his friends just to get away from my mom? that is such a vile thing to do
And ill have you know my parents marriage is good and strong i talk to my mom all the time and she says things are good especially since she made dad stop talking to my uncle who was always such a toxic person so i for one am also glad for it
>That's not a romantic gesture
ok so describe me whats a romantic gesture to you? Bringing you a 12 pack of beer? or buying you an xbox with Halo pre-installed?
>lost guitar
but its not lost its still there except now it actually works properly and stuff... why do you guys like broken things so much

>>81594807
>sexual preference being malleable is a joke
I agree.
>that is such a vile thing to do
You only think that because you project your own rotten heart. Just because he needs time to recharge so he can be happier at home doesn't meant he's doing anything wrong. I'm sure your mom appreciates her alone time too. You, a narcissist clear wouldn't get it, since you only see the world from the lens of "me, myself, and I".
>describe me whats a romantic gesture to you?
I did, you just didn't read.
>its not lost its still there except now it actually works properly
Classic narcissist.

You're clearly beyond help, so no point of further indulging your quest for attention. I wish good luck to any man becomes cursed to be around you.

>>81594220
It's not about the object you goober. It's about the personal effort and time he put into restoring it.

Men have PRIDE in work they did themselves, even if it looks like shit. When you overwrite that work with someone else's work, you diminish the value they put into it. It doesnt matter if the other person did a better job and it looks better now. What matters is that you essentially said "that thing you are proud of looks like shit" and that hurts. You should understand that.

My best friends wife is busted so I'm gonna kidnap her and give her a boob job and some nice lip injections
Wish me luck bros

>>81594266
get theseuspilled

I remember not wanting my blanket to be washed when I was a child. There is something destructive and an undoing of some intangible essence intrinsic to objects, especially objects one spends a lot of time with, when they are subjected to harsh treatment or intentional changing done to it by another.
I call it the baby bird effect. To this day I lose my shit if something of mine is moved or molested. Autists have a stronger affinity for spirits, souls, whatever you want to call it. Many neurotypicals are oblivious to their immediate surroundings, as well as the deeper world that requires a certain level of sensitivity and understanding.

>>81592157 (OP)
That guitar's stories had a story, and you rewrote them.

Nice thought, but next time ask before messing with a man's sacred items. God bless.

>>81596600
Autocorrect, stories->scars

>>81592157 (OP)
It had sentimental value attached to his fixings you retard, and getting it fixed by a professional stripped it of that. Now it's just like any other top condition guitar of its model.

>>81592157 (OP)
>>81594466
>>81594146
>>81594215
i appreciate the effort in baitposting. shit thread but good thread

>>81592157 (OP)
>Am I the Assh-
Yes
Didn't read but yes, you are

>>81594146
I'm glad this is bait. There's probably foids this narcissistic out there but I hope nobody actually dates them.

>>81594167
>stickers on it
Finally some good ragebait

>>81592207
This. You ruined the memory. The tune up might have only been readjusting to the ruined tone. Why do anything without his permission?

>>81597628
Real foid would have just tossed it back in the dumpster and told him to give up playing because he isn't any good at it.

>>81592157 (OP)
Yeah, you ruined his project
>He was never going to do it
True, but you ruined his project
Don't worry, it's minor. He will find some other crap to try and repair eventually

>>81594146
I understand the sentiment and your heart was in the right place but you should really ask before doing these sorts of things. You have to think of it this way: you did what you thought would be good but you didn't really make sure if he thought it would be good. Even if the guitar is old and ugly it's clearly something he valued and didn't want to replace even if he has to means to do so at this point. Maybe it has a lot of sentimental value to him. Everyone likes different things if he likes ugly guitars then let him be happy with his ugly guitars.

>>81592157 (OP)
>Am I the Asshole
let's use you as an analogy
>husband has wife
>dug her out of some bar she was drinking at and fixxed her up to be a decent person
>she's fat and looks busted but he loves her
>one day her sister drugs her and brings her to a beauty clinic while she's out
>liposuction, nose job, implants
>brings her back to husband
>hasn't touched her since

if he wanted his guitar to be new and shiny he would have spent the 200 bucks himself, he had more than enough time for that.

Pic related is the guitar of a millionaire music legend who can afford any guitar on the planet

>>81594204
>The value of the object is the pride we have in our work.
I legitmately don't understand why women don't get this. It's about the journey, not the destination.

>>81592157 (OP)
>Am I the Asshole?
You're redditor. So kind of, yeah.
You don't touch other people's stuff without asking. And especiallyyou don't change them.