>>81592663 (OP)you have to learn how to forgive those who have harmed you in the past
this does not mean to allow them back in your life, but simply to forgive them in order to let go of the pain they have inflicted
I know it feels good to hate those who have harmed you, but if you want to stop seeing the world in an adversarial lens forgiveness is the answer
you can't see the forest for the trees
if you are focused on the pain people have inflicted on you in the past