>>81598429 (OP)this shit is always stupid, it's just desperate attempts to shame men into putting up with the most hideous shit and not being allowed to have feelings
its not the kids fault, but the guy doesn't have to endure those feelings and make it worse by being around the kid either. he is the product of the woman he loved and dedicated his life to and someone else, he is a creation of betrayal of the worst possible magnitude, and his existence is a constant reminder of that especially if the guy just found out and is having to deal with that most miserable experience that exists, he cannot be expected to prioritise anyone else over those brand new awful feelings and just put up with it
the woman is at fault, the other guy is at fault, in a just society they would be whipped in the fucking public square at bare minimum
trying to blame anyone else is just retardation, and the kid is quite literally too young to understand even if you were to explain it to him