People with 0 friends, how do you do it?

And I don't mean like not very many friends I mean actually 0 people whatsoever. How do you become so unlikeable that not one person would consider you a friend?

I think I'd kms

>>81613176 (OP)
>I think I'd kms
I want to almost every day, its fucking rough.

For me, I was never popular, but I had a few friends, gradually got more involved with introverted activities. I was too awkward to say no when people wanted to go out and so I just didnt respond. Eventually drove them all away.

I regret it so much and Im so fucking lonely but I also understand I caused it

>>81613176 (OP)
By inaction. It's not that people are hostile to you you just never make enough effort to build any serious bond

i find it hard to believe there are many people with actually 0 positive relations, even if its not a 'best friend' surley people have at least one person theyre friendly with, even if its a colleague???

i agree though its fucking sad

I'm not "unlikable". I just can't go out of my way to make friends. It has to come naturally. I've had on three entirely separate occasions someone tell me I'm they're "favorite" user of a site/forum. I just take it and think "cool but why?", y'know. I can't make an effort to become acquaintances either. I don't know how to talk to people. But on the rare times I do come out my shell, I do fine. I think.

Anyways, yeah it gets depressing as fuck sometimes. It's not "I feel alone sometimes" anymore. It's "I feel alone all the time".

>>81613176 (OP)
I don't seek them out. It's like Patrick Bateman having a friend. I'm not even there in the first place.

I dont feel like I need friends personally, not that I would ever be hostile or rude to people, but Im content in having none.

I live the NEET lifestyle so I dont and cant afford to socialise, and I wouldnt want to anyway. I have a cool setup with games and movies, I like what I like and friends dont fit into that

>>81613176 (OP)
After a while you get used to it and you start hating society for excluding you.

>>81613268
>I live the NEET lifestyle so I dont and cant afford to socialise
i would actually end my own life if that was me, NEETs are fucking weird
>>81613241
i do get that it has to come naturally, its why i personally cant use dating apps (different concept but still) because i have to have that natural connection without looking, but i think its worth having friends because i couldnt imagine life without them

It's so fucked up, man. I truly do envy you guys being able to so casually join a Discord server and _just_ talk to people. I'm more of a forum guy. I remember I "friended" someone here on Discord, a service I haven't used much since 2019. We talked a bit and then they just called me boring for not speaking much. It was very surprising to me. I didn't realize people wanted instant full fledged conversations. And the friends I did have before going dark were more assertive to me than I was with them. They dm'd first. They messaged first.

>>81613282
>start hating society for excluding you
you cant blame society if you activley excluded yourself, some people just get so into the idea of being alone that they are their biggest enemy

I had a group of friends and fell out with one of them and the group took their side.

Looking back I think we were both at fault

I am a neet, I spend my days playing singleplayer computer games, gardening, cycling and learning about history. Even when I meet someone, there is never a bond, I can talk about specific subjects but once we leave, we never look back, noone ever reaches out to me or says that they have fun talking to me. I don't know why that is, I'm too poor to get therapy

Most people who are like this are special cases, the average internet and 4chan user has a life outside of it.

Its the NEETs that have this problem, because theyre ashamed of their status, as they should be. Because imagine you make a friend and you have to accomodate everything for them, because they cant afford a simple coffee or they only want to meet at weird times because they stay up due to 0 responsibilities.

Theyre ashamed of themselves and they hide from the world because of it

>>81613176 (OP)
>How do you become so unlikeable that not one person would consider you a friend?
I refused to fuck em, it's that easy.

>>81613357
>Most people who are like this are special cases, the average internet and 4chan user has a life outside of it.
True.
>Its the NEETs that have this problem
Often so.
>because theyre ashamed of their status
*VERY LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER*

>>81613357
>Its the NEETs that have this problem
i fucking hate NEETs and Im glad they have no friends, i have never met more sweaty, trampy people in my life

>>81613409
>and Im glad they have no friends
Why?

>>81613176 (OP)
>how do you do it?
I dont, I hate it so fucking much, I just want someone to talk to even if its just about something random. But Im the kind of autistic where Im like one notch away from being a full on retard in a care home and I make people feel uncomfortable

I read a lot and play games sometimes talk to chat gbt

thats what i do to cope

>>81613176 (OP)
i got friends but tbf i dont really like them too much.
i got 0 REAL FRIENDS, only people to meet up with and i swear that shit is fucking my mental health, im not suicidal but sometimes i get suicidal thought, and theyre becoming almost a daily thing.

talking to people online helps, even if you dont have any irl friends, having someone on the net to talk about things that you like or did its always beneficial.
>>81613212
thats fucked up, i used to do the same thing when i was way younger and had more friends.
>>81613282
when did you get used to it? ive been pretty lonely for the past year and a half i would say and shits just getting worse

>>81613499
>having someone on the net to talk about things that you like or did its always beneficial.
Oh yeah I agree totally, even internet friends would classify

If you think your friends are fucking with your mental health, theyre not good friends!

You sound decently cool anon, so if its worth anything Im sure youll make actual good friends

I just consume mass amounts of escapism. Films, music, video games, books... It gets old after a while, and you have some bad days, but you eventually get through them.

>>81613176 (OP)
I like freedommaxing, it do be feeling good

>>81613176 (OP)
I have no friends irl but alot of online friends.
I went through phases where i didn't really have both.
I just watched YouTube all day long basically. Jerking loads also. Just distraction.
If you still have your mom or something itd doable for some time if you have no other problems like bad health etc..

I'm not awkward or shy. It's just that I rarely have something to say that isn't factual information and it's so tiresome to feign interest when talking to other people.

People say they don't like me because I'm dull, boring, too nice and I don't find flirting and teasing fun

>>81613430
>even if its just about something random.
Like what? just curious

>>81613176 (OP)
it isn't on purpose i just hardcore suck i guess

>>81613176 (OP)
I want to die everyday I do not connect with people at all even online friends just throw me away like trash fuck you Adrijus

>>81613176 (OP)
yeah uh where do you meet ppl?
I was homeschooled

>>81613176 (OP)
>how do you do it?
Literally the only person I could call my "friend" is my mother as I can mostly talk to her about anything. I'm very lucky she doesn't hate me yet for pretty much loitering in her home, doing nothing productive besides community college work. I can tell she's getting agitated, however, since she will often get drunk and tell me to get a job (I've been trying!!!!).
>How do you become so unlikeable that not one person would consider you a friend?
I subconsciously started pushing my friends away through middle school and had zero friends by the time I hit junior year of high school. I never maintained any relationships with anyone so they just fell apart (cousins and outside family included). Basically, I always had the opportunity to make and keep friends but I could not be bothered.
>I think I'd kms
Some days it is very hard. There are so many multiplayer games I want to play but I have nobody to play them with. I do have a desire for friendship, yet, it always ends in countless amounts of ghosting and blocking. Just AvPD things, I suppose.

>>81613288
Fellow forum grandpa, you can just join a discord server too, most don't expect you to say or contribute much of anything, you can just lurk.
It's mostly when people post personal adverts or you add them directly that they expect you to court them or catch their interest.

>>81613176 (OP)
There's nothing special to it. I'm just a generally unlikeable person.
https://litter.catbox.moe/lhmno76yewqrnf5m.jpg

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>>81615765
weird sadistic demoralization post dont listen to em

>>81613176 (OP)
It's not like you'll just die after being isolated for long enough. But I might have brain damage after all these years

>>81615794
Idgi. How is as anon's testimony demoralization? You're either a friendhaver or you're not, so who is demoralizing who? A friendhaver is not gonna get blackpilled and lose all friends from reading these posts. That makes 0 sense.

>>81615794
It's not demoralisation if it's just reality.

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>>81615955
well it was directed outwards it didn't seem like they were talkinb about themselves

I have a female friend I have known two months and sleep with but I think you are talking about a different kind of friendship. I think there must be something wrong with me because I am not capable of maintaining friendships

I have been blessed with getting to know very many kind loving people and spending time with them, but once they are no longer my coworkers, soldiers or fellow students I see everyday I do a really piss poor job of keeping up with people. Text go unread and unanswered, I feel anxiety and apprehension about picking up phone calls and plan on calling them back later which never comes, or when I do spend time with them it feels like a tremendous chore between driving out of my way to see them and dedicating hours to being with them when I would probably rather be doing something else with the free time.

I love the people who were kind and accepting enough of me to be my friend but I think I am better off without friends and wish everyone would forget about me.

>>81613176 (OP)
I had "friends" (more like acquaintances, thinking about it retrospectively) and they "liked" me, because I was the funny, racist, antisemitic chud but skipping half a year in uni, having 0 social media presence outside of 4chinz and being a dick in general didn't help my case.

I just work (desk job) and go home, my hobbies are vidya, anime, working on my car (r32 skyline). I don't drink, do drugs, party, anything. Literally work and home, sometimes drive my car around with no destination. I have no chance to talk to people. My city isn't made for introverts, its for retirees, the average age is 64.
I think I'm somewhat good looking, full head of hair, I take care of my skin, work out, etc. I only interact with other humans on 4chan and they don't really seem to stick around so I talk to one for a month maybe and they ghost. I don't even have a single online friend.

>>81617122
What videogames do you play? Maybe we could be friends

>>81613176 (OP)
I'm autistic.
I genuinely do not know and ask myself that question every day. I imitate what everyone else does. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I spent a long time isolated from other people and I think at this point I'm just too far divorced from contemporary culture. I have different values and different ideas of morality than most people. I never seem to be on the same page as anyone else and I don't understand what page they're on or why they would want to be.

Part of me suspects that the average person is just so terrified of rejection by the tribe that that actually informs the vast majority of their behaviour, a lot of it is performative fitting in. And I've just kinda lost the ability to fear that. I feel sad about it but I don't fear it in my interactions with others. As a result I think not going out of my way to conform out of fear like others do could be the problem.

>>81613176 (OP)
I've gotten used to being alone. I was never a social guy but society today sucks anyway.

>>81617236
I'm (probably) quite autistic.
Most of my time is spent playing FFXI (on a 75cap private server), turtlewow, lately I've been getting back into BTD6 as well.

>>81613176 (OP)
the only real friend i had was my ex

>>81617303
I only know BTD6 of those lol, I used to play BTD2 when I was like 10 with my bestfriend. But if you wanna be friend lmk :p

>>81613176 (OP)
By having regular sexual intercourse with your mother, sister, and grandmother.

>>81613176 (OP)
its not that im unlikable, i just don't write people back until months or years later
pic related, i messaged a friend from 2007-ish and then ignored them

>>81617329
Sure, you can add me on discord, my tag is me56709

>>81613176 (OP)
I don't think I'm unlikeable since people still do seem to like me when they get to know me.
I just don't really care. Why do people need friends so bad?
For what purpose?

>>81613176 (OP)
my emotions rule me and that doesn't sit well with people. i can be the most xyz positive thing one day, but then actively avoid you with a scowl on my face the next, if not later in the day. that scares people or makes them uncomfortable at the very least. i try not to involve other people with my shit anymore, and i'm not interesting, charming, or attractive enough anymore to get others to bite my bait, so dying alone is my only option right now. it does suck but it's what's deserved until i figure myself out

>>81613176 (OP)
>irl friends
This is easy to avoid, people invite you out to something and you just turn them down with whatever excuse
>online friends
I have literally One who I have known since like 2005 off world of warcraft, otherwise I don't bother. In some discord servers for hobby topics but while I'm active in there, I don't really talk to anybody in particular one on one.
>girlfriend
I always have at least one of these on, which is necessary for fucking but I'd rather not be around them otherwise.

In conclusion: I have no friends. I don't like being around people and only do it for work or sex, people like me but I maintain a kind of "respectful distance" with everyone so nothing ever escalates into a "friendship" where we see each other outside of work or as second-hand acquaintances or whatever. It's really more work this way, if I just went with the flow as they say and do whatever people wanted of me I'd probably have a ton of friends (and be utterly miserable due to committing to a life of people-pleasing)

>>81613564
I've been going through a string of bad days. No escapist media is cutting it lately. I blame the Israel vs Iran situation turning into a nothing burger.

>>81617407
Sent, my discord is .birbir

>>81613176 (OP)
I just don't have anything to share with people. Half of the time I just lay in bed and browse. The only game I play is a hyper-niche mod of an already autistic niche singleplayer only game. I generally don't like the type of games that lend well to socializing, so gaming with others is out. I grew out of anime years ago, and dislike watching most series and movies, so I can't really watch anything with other people either. I don't have any interesting hobbies or anything to interest people with either, my daily life is very uninteresting. My personality is avoidant too, and I honestly consider myself above having any opinion or even talking about most meaningless pedestrian small talk stuff. It just feels meaningless and like a waste of time. So in short I think there is just nothing to build a rapport with anymore, be it IRL or online.

>>81613176 (OP)
I had one friend from here but then they block me. Then I made another and they ghosted me. Now I have zero again.

>>81617485
Oops, forgot to put my name

>>81617493
We could be friends anon

>>81613176 (OP)
if you're not giving me free money or letting me fuck and your name isn't mom, dad or little brother then idrc about you

>>81617505
age
sex
bra size

>>81613176 (OP)
I'm a NEET so I don't keep friends, people here are really unsociable anyway. No one wants to hear from me and I don't want to explain my circumstances.

>>81613176 (OP)
I havent had a friend since 2013. being a shut in neet will do that. although i wouldnt have anyway because i'm unlikeable

>>81613176 (OP)
By being ugly and autistic
Nobody approaches me and I don't approach them

>>81616341
Do you feel like most people are boring? I feel like I'm just action oriented or autistic, I can't stand it when people muck about and hog other people's time.
You gonna take hours of my time to have chat and say nothing of interest? I don't care about things that are trendy either, are you into that shit because it's trendy or because it appeals to you specifically?

>>81616341
You are very based, my friend, and I am the same way. There's nothing wrong with you, not everyone is built for the "friends" lifestyle. You get women, you treat people decently, you can maintain your career or whatever. Not everyone needs to be proactively sociable all the time.

>>81613176 (OP)
The last friend I had was mentally ill and remarkably unpleasant to be around. I'll take being alone over being the emotional slave to a BPDemon 1000%.

Youre assuming I bother reaching out in first place, retard. idgaf about others. Id kms if I was as needy as you

>>81613176 (OP)
I usually just hang around public places like libraries, parks, and malls, even if I don't talk to anyone sometimes just being around other people