How do you even get in a relationship. It feels like that just happens naturally in life to most people. I cant even picture myself in a relationship and I rarely talk to girls in my life. It feels pathetic to get into online dating...

>>81682845 (OP)
In my experience, most people just gravitate towards each other without putting in any effort. If you have to actually "try" to find a gf, you're already fucked.

>>81682845 (OP)
same
I can't imagine connecting with someone on such a level

>>81682855
It's 100% effort and as soon as I slip, it's the beginning of the end.
>there is an idea of /myself/, some kind of abstraction, but there is no real me, only an entity, something illusory, and though I can hide my cold gaze and you can shake my hand and feel flesh gripping yours and maybe you can even sense our lifestyles are probably comparable: I simply am not there.

>>81682855
Thats why I have never "tried" because I assume that if it will happen then it should be natural in my life. But Im also not in an environment where that would be possible I think.
>>81682870
I cant even relate to people I think are my friends. I just hope to have a girl to be with, I dont think connection is possible

>>81682845 (OP)
>Talk with girl for decent amount of time
>Ermm i love you omg me too
This is how it happens
Every time i put a modicum of effort or try to chase them i get cucked

>>81682920
I have a friend that tries to push me into finding a girl. It hurts my soul when he describes how easy it would be. He is someone that girls and people in general can instantly talk to

>>81683008
Try doing it online, im unlikeable as well just got lucky twice in highshool otherwise most of the girls i've met were through internet
Messaging strangers is less tense than irl conversation with romantic intent if you dont want to be straigtforward with women