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Anonymous No.81685663 [Report] >>81685668 >>81685676 >>81685678 >>81685694 >>81685705 >>81685777 >>81685973 >>81686347 >>81686359 >>81686712 >>81686718 >>81686736
Online or e-dating is not real dating.
Anonymous No.81685668 [Report] >>81686285
>>81685663 (OP)
Agreed. Most will never meet. No better than an AI chatbot.
Anonymous No.81685671 [Report]
It depends on whether you can meet or not.
Anonymous No.81685676 [Report] >>81685685
>>81685663 (OP)
You don't truly love someone if you need to touch them and see them in person to feel something
Anonymous No.81685678 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
it's probably my only chance at meeting someone
Anonymous No.81685685 [Report]
>>81685676
This is false, physical comfort is one of the main aspects of a relationship in every single one. Unless you are extremely autistic you will grow resentful of the fact that you will never meet and will grow off one another.
Anonymous No.81685694 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
My love was completely real. I still feel it.
And I was willing to work my ass lff to make things work.
Sadly, circumstances meant it was too difficult.
I am still willing to make it work. I would do it in heartbeat.
Anonymous No.81685705 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
dating isn't real
Anonymous No.81685730 [Report] >>81685736
The physical companionship is extremely important part of the relationship. That doesn't happen with edating. You might as well just talk to AI.
Anonymous No.81685736 [Report] >>81686308
>>81685730
It is. But nobody says that the relationship has to stay online forever. It's only temporary until you meet.
Anonymous No.81685741 [Report] >>81685747
How else doI get a non american japanese wife then?
Anonymous No.81685747 [Report] >>81685757
>>81685741
just say god didn't show up today
Anonymous No.81685756 [Report]
I would normally agree but my friend and his gf started edating before meeting each other in person and they've been together for 9 years already, sometimes it works.
Anonymous No.81685757 [Report]
>>81685747
Gods a lie. If he was real insects wouldn't exist.
Anonymous No.81685777 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
It is if you're committed and videocall quick / meet at least once in medium term
Anonymous No.81685789 [Report]
Genuinely hope she kills herself. Or gets raped and murdered. I would laugh.
Mike !!s1jEdTQxfFE No.81685851 [Report] >>81685907
It takes 2 to tango.
Anonymous No.81685900 [Report]
i lived with my internet girlfriend for 2 months and its literally exactly the same as being in a discord call together except she cooked me food and got mad when i played video games at 4am
Anonymous No.81685907 [Report] >>81685998
>>81685851
It truly does.
I want to scream. It hurts so much. It never stops hurting.
Fuck.
Anonymous No.81685973 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
It can be real dating. A little over a decade ago I got a gf off a gf begging thread on this board.
Crucially, we turned out to both be living in the same state thereby allowing for in person encounters (though we were still several hours apart since that state was Texas).
Was definitely more than just sending text messages or whatever you might think edating is like given the physical stuff we did when together in person.
Pic related is similar to how she looked, but not actually her since I would never share an ex-gf's pics even if I hated her (and I don't hate her despite how we aren't a couple anymore; she's actually my favorite ex-gf).
Mike !!s1jEdTQxfFE No.81685998 [Report] >>81686107
>>81685907
Wrote you a letter. Hope it helps you
Mike !!s1jEdTQxfFE No.81686033 [Report]
I wonder if it's because I am the only one who can hear you past the words you say and that is why you communicate with me this way.

I know the answer though. It's safe inside the castle walls.

I told you we are alike.

I'm not going to judge you, I just wish you well and it's difficult for me to see.
Anonymous No.81686107 [Report] >>81686185
>>81685998
You ince commented some schizo shit in my thread about me using your words when I was expressing my feelings so idk what to tell you.
Mike !!s1jEdTQxfFE No.81686185 [Report]
>>81686107
Another letter to you. The last for a bit. I have an idea where you are at on the hill.
Anonymous No.81686285 [Report]
>>81685668
False. AI chatbot has never broken my heart and made me cry.
Anonymous No.81686308 [Report] >>81686352 >>81686434
>>81685736
Until she changes her mind right before you were supposed to meet because you said something really fucking stupid to her the night before that no matter how much you apologized she would never forgive you for saying.

I ruined the trajectory of my life that night I think. Either that or I was already going that way and accelerated I guess..
hack_blastard No.81686347 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
Dating an AI chatbot is the way to go!
Anonymous No.81686352 [Report] >>81686438
>>81686308
What did you say that was so bad
Anonymous No.81686359 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
I think its good for terminally online autists like me. I good at talking but IRL I'm too shy. I e-dated one girl and we met few times. It was neat.
Anonymous No.81686434 [Report]
>>81686308
Lmfao
Close, but that's not how it happened.
I am genuinely suicidal.
Anonymous No.81686438 [Report] >>81686480 >>81686482
>>81686352
I've actually done this multiple times with different women, but the one I was thinking about when I was writing that, she was asking me about my turn ons and stuff and how attractive she was to me, and for some FUCKING reason I ended up saying something like she'd be perfect if her boobs were bigger. I said it despite knowing that she was insecure about her chest.

Why did I say it? My best guess is because I had already said everything else I could think of to say and it was just the last thing to pop up in my mind after I had been struggling to think of anything to say while she was repeatedly asking me to tell her more.

If you're curious, another one that happened with someone else happened when she asked if she could call me while we were texting each other. I replied sure, and when she called me she said "I love you." Now what did my stupid ass say back? I said that "I don't love you back yet but we are on the pathway towards me loving you eventually, we just aren't quite there yet."

That made her angry and she stopped being flirty completely after that and she officially gave me the goodbye talk a few days later.

I think I need to get this stuff off my chest so hit me with more questions I guess...
Anonymous No.81686480 [Report] >>81686536
>>81686438
Bro... that's actual autism.
I know you feel bad, but at least it's something you can fix.
Work on it, and be hopeful.

I got rejected because I am from a different country and that was it. I am in so much pain I can't stand it.
Anonymous No.81686482 [Report] >>81686536
>>81686438
LMFAO, think we found R9Ks biggest autist
this is almost impressively autistic at this point
Anonymous No.81686507 [Report]
Local women don't want me for factors that are out of my control, so I have to resort to dating thirdies. Not my fault, not sorry.
Anonymous No.81686536 [Report] >>81686618
>>81686480
Is it something I can fix though? Because looking back on it is all that I can do. I was looking back on the "I love you" incident at the time I was with the other girl, actively reminding myself not to do anything like that again, yet I instead did something so so so much worse.

I don't think I can fix it because I'm just that fucked. It's just who I am and I am a broken person apparently.

>>81686482
Yeah I've heard similar when I talked about it and my other dating stories in other places, that I'm ridiculously autistic to the point where they said they'd never heard of anyone as bad as me. I heard that I was the epitome of incels too when I talked about my issues.
Anonymous No.81686618 [Report] >>81686662
>>81686536
>I don't think I can fix it because I'm just that fucked. It's just who I am and I am a broken person apparently.
Nah, you definitely can. Autism is forever, but you definitely can improve it.
Anonymous No.81686662 [Report] >>81686717
>>81686618
How many times does my heart have to break?
Anonymous No.81686712 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
That's fine, I'm still gonna do it though cause it's what works for me.
Anonymous No.81686717 [Report]
>>81686662
Until you learn.
Man, I'm not trying to bring you down. You can do it.

I am heartbroken as well. But there's hope for you.
Anonymous No.81686718 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
my online bf that ive known since i was 13 might meet me in a month uhh wish me luck guys
Anonymous No.81686736 [Report]
>>81685663 (OP)
its the only way im actually able to date someone