>19
>Never worked a job
>Majoring in psychology in college
>Never had a girlfriend, only ever gone on two dates, never had a first kiss
>Have a car and license but still prefer to drive with my dad at my side
>Don't go anywhere without my parents
>Spend free time in my room listening to music

>>81700990 (OP)
you're fucking 19 nigga you just stepped outta kindergarten your whole fucking life is ahead of you why are you dumbass zoomers so fucking depressed yeezus

>>81701002
said by a 25 year old probably

>>81701002
I just feel like im far behind compared to my peers

>>81701008
fuck you mean far behind nigga the race just started

>>81700990 (OP)
>>Don't go anywhere without my parents
why?

>>81701041
No particular reason, just habit I guess, plus I don't go out much anyway and I don't really hang out with friends too often

>>81700990 (OP)
>19
>Have a car and license
Not a loser

>>81700990 (OP)
You sound just like me anon. Except the only dating ive done is online, which isnt even dating, and im not even in college. Ur doing better than me

>>81700990 (OP)
Don't worry all men are losers

>>81700990 (OP)
>19
Leave here and never return

>>81700990 (OP)
>19, psych major, drivers license, no social experience
Kid, im 25, ive been through some shit and I will drop a shitton of advice that may or may not impact your life in a harsh way. Its not going to feel good knowing this but at least its a set of actionable information grounded in truth and reality. You will not like it initially until it sets in and becomes something you live with. This wont be your happy-go-lucky set of platitudes and empty promises. In fact, you will occasionally lose sleep over the things I can tell you but you have something I now wish I had...you have time on your side. Ive effectively invested 6 years into proving this hard set of facts.


But, for ethics sake, I wont just start dropping information unless you agree to it. Way too many people have blamed me for what this set of advice did to them once their delusions were shattered. Ive seen my friends change right infront of me. The truth is the truth whether you like it or not, its the only useful thing that you can act on with meaningful impact on your life.

OP, do you want me to tell you everything I know? Some of it is good, some of it is bad but it all depends on your perspective. You cant unlearn this btw

Go study abroad or something. Get out of your comfort zone as much as possible. And yeah, you're fucking 19, dude. You've got plenty of time to figure your shit out. There's no race. You're not behind anyone. Worrying about it isn't gonna do you any favors.
For what it's worth, when I was 19 I was a depressed loser on this shithole and doing nothing with my life. Now I'm 31, married, great career, nice home in a big city, etc. Haven't posted on here in like 7 years, but I'm bored waiting for my haircut.

>>81700990 (OP)
dont reject morons, try to push yourself to speak even when rocks may fall upon you, focus on acquiring girl friends or go clubbing to get acquainted with the opposite sex.

>>81701625
I choose yes, not op btw

>>81701625
>3 fucking paragraphs of buildup
WHAT IS IT

>>81701008
I've had people of my high school class die of brain tumors and getting killed in Iraq. It can be a lot worse.

>>81701630
Not op, but when did you start get the ball rolling? To end up where you are now?

>>81701625
This is op, yes

>>81701747
>>81701769
bare with me, im switching to my PC, this will be a shitload of typing. Grab some coffee in the mean time

>>81701883
Use pastebin or some shit

>>81701883
I already drank coffee today.

>>81701923
>>81701896
>>81701875
>>81701769
>>81701747
Alright, let me give you a little bit of a background on myself for clarity. This will give you an insight as to how and where these conclusions were drawn and to preemptively avoid the back and forth that comes with accusations of lack of experience. Lets get this out of the way first:
>25yo
>6'0 tall
>200 lbs now, used to be 175 (5% bodyfat) lean and in better shape than 99% of the population will ever be
>135-144 IQ range
>relatively physically fit but not as I used to be
>changed 18 jobs between the ages of 19 and 25
>met about a thousand people
>went through several friend groups
>slept with only 3 women
>worked physically and mentally taxing jobs
>met people who are neurotypical as well as neurodivergent, had friend groups consisting of both
>had my own place and a car
>had a job that pays 2.5x the average salary

Now that we've got that out of the way, MOST OF YOUR PROBLEMS in life will stem from none other than other people. Every single negative emotion that isnt health related is tied directly to other people. Now people are not exactly that dumb that they dont know what they are doing. When someone takes an indirect jab at you and feigns ignorance or insults you, they KNOW exactly what they are doing. Do not forgive them since they are fully aware of what they do and what they say. This includes friends, coworkers, strangers and family members. The proof of all of this that im about to share with you has already been cemented in your life, you just need to look back hard enough. Your life and social patterns are cemented by the time you leave high school. Which means that if people werent naturally drawn to you in high school (this includes girls), they will not be drawn to you in adulthood. Especially since youre less youthful and virile and if at the peak of your youth and virility, people avoid you, then dont expect it to get better for some odds reason.

Part 1/10

>>81700990 (OP)
>Majoring in psychology in college
God be with you, anon. i sense a prosperous future behind the counter of a mcdonalds cash register in store for you

>>81700990 (OP)
>19
Nope not yet but you're definitely sliding towards loserdom

>>81702205
Part 2/10

CORE MOTIVATOR #1 (Women and companionship)

I will address this first since whether you're willing to admit this to yourself or not, the subconscious motivator for every step you take is the need for attention from the opposite sex. This will be killed almost instantly by the time im done with these 10 posts.

Women are not what you think they are. Not even close. They are barely human. The only similarity to humanity they have is purely physical appearance. Let me explain how deep this goes. Evolution did its part, they are too weak to carry themselves let alone any internalized values or personality. Its all a mask they put on with only one real goal and thats genetic collection and proliferation (this includes hookups that do not result in pregnancy thanks to DNA methylation and microchimerism). As soon as they get their first rush of sex hormones around the age of 9-10, thats when their similarity to humanity diverges. They begin to look for fullfilment and they dont know how to achieve that so they rely on the only strategy they have the brain capacity to employ: Monkey see, Monkey do. They look at the adult women around them and how they behave. From the smallest micro-expressions to body posture to tone of voice to hand gestures and speech patterns. Then they begin to emulate it all to the best of their ability. Outliers are extremely rare unless social isolation occurs. Everything they say and do post puberty is simply for the sake of maximizing access to food, shelter, group safety and sex. They have no worldview, they just parrot whatever they think is the social norm. Social media naturally is used to program them.

Do you have any idea how little it means to be attractive to a woman? Do you realize that it is proof of absolutely nothing of value besides facial appearance? Do you realize that 95% of what makes you who you are, a woman will never come into contact with it since they biologically lack that capacity? cont....

Part 3/10

Niggers tongue my anus

>>81702303
At what age do I officially become a loser and what can I do to avoid it

>>81702341
Part 3/10

...the whole "natural selection" and "evolution" doesnt play a single role in womens partner selection. In spite of what youve been told. They select for cultural archetypes, not character, not wealth. They are 100%, fully and completely programmable flesh monkeys. Our ancestors knew this and shaped the world accordingly. There is no personality difference between a girl thats a 4/10 and one that is a 10/10. None whatsoever. Avoid unattractive women at all cost, trust me on this one. Do not compromise with partnership and do not do a single thing out of desperation. If you are alone or if you have a slightly negative view of women, its because they WANT YOU TO FEEL THAT WAY. This is the simplest way of putting it. They will not allow that which they want to hate them or dislike them. IF they want you, even the shy ones, they will do EVERYTHING in their power to have you. Speaking to you and interacting with you is the very first thing they do. Your dynamic with them is something you should SERIOUSLY consider when making career or major life choices. Do NOT compromise and be prepared to live with the fact that you will never feel genuine love...ever. Shape your life accordingly and learn to hate back. This will protect your self-respect. Self-respect metabolizes into spite and willpower. This is why a lot of what you see around you directly targets your sense of self and your self-respect. From the heinous amounts of infidelity to raw deals in every step of you waking life.
If you werent the object of female attention in a period of your life when you were passively most surrounded by them, then you will not be a subject to their attraction later in life.
DO NOT mistake a desperate womans attention for REAL attraction
THEY DO NOT deviate from patterns of behavior

If they didnt want you when they were young, wired on sex hormones and constantly horny while in their teens. They WILL NOT find you attractive when they are in their 20s.

cont...

>>81700990 (OP)
You have to be at least 24 to be eligible for loser status.

>>81701630
>just study abroad or travel or something
Im not rich

>>81700990 (OP)
I'm 19. I never had a job and I don't want to learn how to drive cuz afraid I might kill someone. I dated two girls before. My life is normal and yet I still want to kill myself due to the fact that I don't think I can get a job.

>>81702481
Part 4/10

To summarize: Girls will have the highest likelyhood of being attracted to you while they are bombarded with sex hormones. IF they werent then but suddenly they are now, its because of the following reasons (given you havent changed looks-wise since high school)
>desperation
>opportunism
>the girl is surrounded by low-tier female friends and a guy like you might just give her a small boost of status in the friend group
>narcissistic ego boost fishing (BEWARE OF THIS ONE)
No exceptions, it all boils down to those 4 motivators. If you spontaneously see an increase in female attention, yet they pretend to have boundries. WALK AWAY IMMEDIATELY. Do not even think about or question in. You will be dodging a bullet 100% of the time. This will happen in your early to mid twenties. As for avoiding ugly girls, they are thee most desperate for attention and are therefore easily lost. A 6/10 will cheat on you in a heartbeat, they ALL suffer from FOMO. Ironically, the more mid she is, the higher the chances of infidelity. Remember, they are just self-programming monkeys with no REAL sentience or free will. Asking them for accountability is oppressive and unrealistic in the sense that its asking a fish to fly a plane. They cant do it and THEY KNOW IT.

If they disrespect you casually, drop them INSTANTLY. This ranges from describing you as a "good guy" (disrespectful once you learn how they treat men who they think are "good") all the way to a woman calling you a "kid" while youre clearly in your adolescence. The same laws apply to you as they do for adults. DO NOT LET THEM patronize you. Not even jokingly. They always mean it. Humor requires sapience that they just biologically arent built to handle.

Once you realize that you dont need them, they need you while you just need something to live and die for, things will align themselves in your favor and you wont spend time and energy on a pointless spiritual war against your beliefs.

cont...

>>81702550
Get out of your comfort zone. You don't have to have or spend any money to do that. Traveling/studying abroad is just an easy way to throw yourself into the deep end of it.
>>81701782
At 19 I started pushing myself to break out of my comfort zone. It took multiple attempts to get the ball rolling. Sometimes it stopped, sometimes it rolled backwards. Sometimes I fell back into that pit of despair. But I eventually started pushing again. It's not about when or how. This isn't some "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" bullshit. You will stumble. You will fall. You will feel hopeless. But as long as you keep trying, no matter how long it takes to get back up, you'll eventually get some momentum.

>>81702604
Part 5/10

YOU & OTHER PEOPLE

What most people dont realize is the fact that they truly arent the real architects of their own lives in the sense that they believe. Survival is collaboration, not competition. Every single person around you that you might hold in high esteem, every single person that claims they are "responsible" doesnt know the first thing about responsibility. Here are the key things that will shape your life that you have NO CONTROL OVER:
>the personalities of people around you
There is more of "other people" in your life than there is of "You". Those that give you platitudes such as "You reap what you sow" are just people whos Egos are so inflated that the only way they can take credit for other peoples kindness towards themselves and turn it into a merited and controlled occurrence that they willed into existence is by BLAMING YOU, for your lifes short comings. You will hear this one a lot. The reason for this is because the human Ego is just a set of fears and defense mechanisms. The only way the Ego survives is by claiming responsibility for things it is not even remotely responsible for.
The number of friends you have, the girls that find you attractive, the things people say about you... these things are GENIUNELY out of your control and you rely on their ability to identify right from wrong and truth from lies. Most people are truly uninterested in their own opinions since they care little for whether they are right or wrong in the sense that the information they bring forward might not be true. So DO NOT care what people think since they themselves couldnt be bothered with their own worldviews. If they were, they wouldnt let other people shape it to such an extent. (This might seem ironic in this context, but bare with me).

DONT FALL FOR THE CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT MEME
They will not notice. Do not be tricked by manipulation in this manner. People will manipulate you by expressing doubt in your character.
cont...

>>81700990 (OP)
anon, you're still young. comparing yourself to your peers will only send you into a doomspiral. it is far from too late- go get involved somehow. you'll meet friends, and life will get better, you just have to push yourself to it. not browsing r9k all the time would probably help, too

>>81702761
PART 7/10

PEOPLE ARE BLIND TO CAUSE AND EFFECT ONCE THEY ARE PART OF THE EQUATION

The world around you is blind. You WILL be accused of wrongdoing and you WILL be accused of right-doing even if you arent the perpetrator. You do not have to lie to women for them to like you. If they find you attractive they will lie to themselves. This goes for all people in general. Its called the "Halo effect". These self projected lies shape the world around us.

Do not go down the path of grinding and hustling for money, status, cars and houses with the belief that people will genuinely see value in you as anything other than a piggybank. If you are appreciated by the people around you, it will not be influenced by money and social status.

Do not let people impose their false image of you onto you. Many will do this INTENTIONALLY to gain control over you as you struggle to try and prove them wrong. This is textbook manipulation used primarily by women and feminine men. Some people around you will genuinely STEAL parts of your character and claim it as their own. The way you talk, the way you walk, the way you conduct yourself. It can all be stolen, believe it or not. This is something you should look out for in your immediate circles.

If your immediate social circle has a mixture of men and women and the men arent exactly chads, in most cases, it will be every man for himself. Dont expect them to set you up with a girl from their own limited selection. You will be slandered, your personality will be usurped and stolen. People will accuse you of imitation for simply being yourself.

It isn't really over until you're in your 30's. And even then it's a "okay, maybe you should start actually thinking about the immediate future" thing.

>>81702874
where's the sixth part gramps

>>81702874
Part 8/10
LEARN HOW TO TRULY HATE

This will keep both you and your sanity alive through thick and thin. This will be the cornerstone of your mental resistance. If you are currently alone, struggling socially and feel isolated and are truly saddened by that fact. Its because other people want you to be in this state. I repeat, if you are isolated its because the people around you want you to be in this state. Youd have a girlfriend if a girl thought positively about you (their opinions arent grounded in reality, they always lie to themselves about assholes and bums and paint them as beneficial. If they can do that for the useless bums they fuck and not you its because they refuse to do so)
Same goes for any friends you might make. Do not let your time and energy be stolen from you. Do not fall for the belief that you need to build yourself up socially just to be accepted and appreciated. If you do, the women that claim to love you will only lie to you for your resources and the friends around you will seek you out for your position and nothing more.

LEARN TO HATE AND YOU WILL BE JUST FINE
Sadly, most people genuinely do not have a soul. They are just a biomass that does not think beyond their animalistic needs. They will hollow out any abstract principle they can in order to use it for social gains and good-boy points. The only people that will truly stick around you and treat you properly are the ones that seek out the truth in everything. The ones who do not let their own Egos speak. The ones who are fully capable of admitting when they are wrong. The only positive trait you will ever need to find in people is self-awareness. Without it, you are not a human being. The great majority of people do not have self-awareness and are stuck in high school tier social dynamics. They stroke their egos by discreetly fucking you over. Learn to be alone, the wrong company will cost you everything including self-respect and sanity.

>>81702944
>>81702992
Part 9/10

DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF
Your worldview is your only tool for survival. It is the source of everything and the blueprint for the rest of your life. Do not build it out of smoke and mirrors. Build it out of granite. The most dangerous form of lying to yourself is wishful thinking and fantasy (this includes sexual fantasies). If you are prone to any form of fantasy, even sexual ones that arent 100% realistic, then you are lying to yourself and gaslighting your subconscious mind. The circus that will create later in life will be in the form of feelings of missing out on things you were never even slated for. AVOID fantasy as much as you could. If the reality you live in can not provide for you and what you want, then do not vandalize your mind with mental bandages for the wounds this would will create. If the world wants you to be isolated, sad, alone and miserable: DO NOT USE COPING MECHANISMS, do not rationalize the cruelty of this world and the people in it. Its like letting people shit in your mouth and pretending it tastes sweet or pretending that it would taste better if you just chewed more. If they want you to be broken, break and let them have the person they wanted. Throw their malice back at them with creativity and style. They dont owe you kindness and you dont owe them self-restraint and self-control. Do not bottle anything up but dont be impulsive. You are being shaped into a cog in the machine. Do not compromise with their evil and pettiness. You live in a world where nobody owes you anything. Which means that everything you get, every word and gesture from people, even in passing, is entirely personal. It is what they believe you deserve. Do not fall for the "be the better man" bullshit. This will turn you into a punching bag for the world. DO NOT BE THE BETTER MAN.

The amount of insults, injustice, pettiness ive endured over the years. All guided by the principle of being morally better and mature.
cont...

>>81701006
NTA but I'm 33 and he's right.

>>81702481
Oh please, two thirds of the girls that went to school with me were not dating before college.

>>81703115
PART 10/10

The sum of pettiness, injustice, insults and disgrace ive suffered would, in a meritocratic world, give me a title of nobility in other peoples eyes. But thats far from the case. So do not fall for the idea of being a better person. Its used for control and making you more compliant. Its not used to shape you into an equal with others. You were not born with emotions just to amputate them. Be angry, be sad, be happy and let this world have it. If this species cant get their shit together and stop vandalizing and consuming everything around them for short-term and shallow pleasure, then they do not deserve you in your best light. Keep your virtue to yourself. Give some people the benefit of your kindness, the second they stop noticing or acknowledging your positive aspects, withhold those virtues immediately and without negotiation. Do not bargain and compromise for things that are even slightly less than what you want.
For example:
If you meet a girl but shes not quite treating you the way you want but its still somehow acceptable or she doesnt quite look EXACTLY the way you want but shes "good enough". WALK AWAY IMMEDIATELY. Either you get EXACTLY what you want or you reject it all entirely. Do not let desperation masking itself as "realistic" outcomes fool you into selling yourself and your wishes and dreams.

Be authentic to yourself, do not play along for social points. You are paying dowry to normie schizophrenics with your time and energy.

>>81702677
Thats my age. Thanks man. And congrats

>>81702205
Read all your posts. Not OP just a lurker - you put it into a proper explanation, thank you. I always knew people are what cause people problems, and being social creatures is the worst thing you could be for an intelligent species that can have an ego. I really hate life, anon. Knew these things years ago but I lacked your aptitude to put it all concisely. Well done and I hope more people can gain an understanding and fuck off from each other desu.

>>81702944
PART 6/10
Missed a spot...

CAREER, IDENTITY, LIFE PATH

Dont let your mask of fears tell you what you should be doing. Do not let the social expectations of those around you tell you who and what you should be. They are blind to who you are and what you are like, if they cant see you now, they wont be able to see you when youve turned into something. They are blind, out of their own volition. They give themselves authority to decide who you are, what you are capable of and they imburse that self appointed authority with conviction.

The only life you will ever have is not worth selling for a currency that diminishes in value with each passing day. It is not worth the opinions of others because those same opinions can be easily shaped with the preconceived notions that those same people pull out of their ass. Why slave away a third of the day, a third of your life just to shape something that can be shaped by a single thought? Do not rationalize the actions of others towards you. Do not ask: "Why are they like this, why is this happening to me", force an answer out of them when you can or impose your worldview onto others. Its what everyone else is doing. This world is irrational. People will stand in front of a human being. A person that is a project, 19 years of sculpting by life, a project still in the making and not only will they not look at it and observe it, instead they will pull the first impression they get out of their ass and create an entire assessment based solely off of that. So do not let yourself be a dancing chimp for a bunch of NPCs. Explain yourself to no one. Just make sure you act only on that which is true. If the people around you want you to fail and die alone, it will happen no matter what you do. So just let go and enjoy the only life you will ever have. Trust me, the hamster wheel most people are on has razor blades. Do not fall for the FOMO inducing NPC delusions and you will truly be free.

>>81700990 (OP)
say that at 38 and I would feel a little bad for you. Stfu zoomer

>>81703349
Finished reading all, cant thank you enough. Will be putting this to use. Need a mentor like you

>>81701008
At least you arent a 25 year old neet, but if you want to give up so badly i would love to switch places..

>>81703427
You must understand that everything ive outlined here is based off of the unchangeable facts of our life. You can only adapt to this, you cant escape it. Trying to fight back and escap through rationalizations and coping mechanisms will only do more damage.

I can talk to you and voice chat with you if you want to. I'm a foid I just have 4chan trolls who claim im a man.

Discord tag is chickn333

I have a boyfriend so I cant be your gf.

>>81703606
>chickn
OP THIS IS A TRANNY, DO NOT ENGAGE, I REPEAT, DO NOT ENGAGE!

>>81702677
>you dont need money to travel or study abroad
>you dont need money to do somthing which costs tens of thousands of dollars

>>81703606
The fuck? Foids advertising voice messaging WHILE they have a bf. Id hope to GOD its a tranny

>>81703619
OP here, I know, plus im not stupid enough to share socials with anyone on this cess pool

I read ALL of that no sarcasm

>>81703540
Ofc. I need to save this

>>81703349
Gonna make a screencap brb

>>81706235
>>81702205
>>81702341
>>81702481
>>81702604
>>81702761
>>81702874
>>81702992
Capped for posterity. Thanks, Anon.

>>81700990 (OP)
You're barely legal. Are you a twink? Asking for a gay friend.

>>81706278
/pol/ retardation.

>>81706278
I appreciate it anon, just keep in mind how unfair things get. Keep in mind that all preconceived notions are just illusions of the mind. All paradoxes reconcile themselves when you refuse to entertain the lies of those around you as well as wishful projections of your Ego. This world is a circus tent and truth is a razor blade that cuts through the canopy and reveals a myriad of possibilities. Let people indulge in their lies and false beliefs. You get informational supremacy simply by adhering to objective truths no matter how rough they seem. Its the wisdom behind letting people underestimate you. Whenever someone assumes youre dumb or incompetent, dont dissuade them. They just gave you a "Get out of Jail" card, so use it.

>>81700990 (OP)
>1...
Stopped reading there, they should ban you on sight.

>>81700990 (OP)
You don't get your real loser pass until you're 26. You can still turn your life on its head in your early 20s. But after 25 your mistakes catch up.

>>81701006
I'm not that anon either but I'm 38 and he's right. 19 means you were in high school a year ago with a little backpack and cubby and were around girls who were relatively new to managing their menstruation. You were probably riding a bicycle like 4 years ago. Your first jerk off session was probably 6 years ago. You weren't born yesterday but pretty close to that.

>>81706278
>Everything you do is for sex subconsciously
That's so retarded.

I skimmed through it and literally none of it spoke to me at all. Complete retardation and the guy that wrote this clearly has a huge persecution complex.

>>81707192
>none of it spoke to me
It stops speaking to you once youve been through a few things. This is just a piece of the puzzle.
>Everything you do is for sex subconsciously
Ive stated clearly that this gets nullified the second you make the realizations ive made that are the very ground work for that set of posts. A lot of these "clicks" happen spontaneously after some time and its a completely natural part of mental maturation.
>the guy that wrote this clearly has a huge persecution complex
The world around you can react very negatively and very positively based off of things you have little to no control or knowledge of. This simply the acknowledgement of the clear boundary that dictates where your influence ends and the environmental influence begins. Its a clear touch on the separation between You and the world. This is the absolute prerequisite to becoming a "responsible" person. You cant be a responsible person if you arent even aware of what you are responsible for (cause and effect wise). Ive been persecuted unjustly and ive been rewarded unjustly. This set of posts highlights negative persecution because thats what often creates obstacles in life. Positive "persecution" is something you dont even have to address or understand to receive benefits from so it has no baring on the subject. You need not act on serendipitous outcomes, just enjoy them.

>none of it spoke to me at all
The world doesnt revolve around YOUR notion of it. As far as im concerned, you might just have your head so far up your ass that you cant separate your projections and delusions from reality. Information enters either through your narrow lense or it doesnt register at all.
>skimmed through it
explains your entire post, id call you a complete infantile retard if you were to actually read my set of posts, analyze it and still hold the same position or see it as useless. This alone gives you the benefit of doubt.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_k_Z0-DYw0_cGPvZm6icNUGbefRT4wktdY

>>81700990 (OP)
You are still very young. You have plenty of time to get your shit together. But for god's sake get off this website and never come back. I've been coming here for 19 years and there's nothing of value to be found. TRUST ME

>>81700990 (OP)
you're okay but I'd change majors as soon as possible, even STEM workers are having issues with getting a job, you're wasting your time studying humanities