Thread 81712142

No matter how hard I try, how outgoing or interested in other people I try to be, I somehow always manage to end up as "that weird quiet guy" wherever I am. It was like this during school growing up and it's like it now in my work life. It's like people will only engage with me out of politeness then completely ignore me if there is literally anyone else they could be talking to.
I'm sick of feeling like an outsider everywhere I go

>>81712142 (OP)
>weird quiet guy
either double down and own it
or
change, for better or worse

>>81712142 (OP) Same here. But I'm like this by choice. I genuinely hate interacting with other people. Especially people at work. They always talk about pointless mind numbing shit I don't care about like their cat or their kid, or some item at the store they bought on sale.

I literally just can't stand being around people and having random pointless social interactions just to get others to like me. I just show up at work, do what I have to do, and then leave. Most people are NPC's who are incapable of anything slightly intellectual. They're basically just hairless animals.

>>81712142 (OP)
>that weird quiet guy
Why not just embrace it? Instead of trying to be something I am not I just stay quiet and talk whenever I feel like it. It is much more authentic, and I think my coworkers grasped that since they seem more relaxed around me now compared to before.

You're giving up too quickly before the ice is broken

>>81712142 (OP)
This.
I agree with the other posters, my life was better when I just kept my head up and acted like I was better than people

>>81712142 (OP)
it your language, it comes off as "icky". for example, i know nothing about you but let's analysis each word
>no matter how hard i try
already sets the stage for unrequested emotional labor, readers are unlikely to want to engage
like if your post were thought out, it wouldn't fit this board anymore and would be good material for >>>/adv/ ergo someone who is likely to improve instead of being someone who is venting and doomed to repeat the cycle because the language you should colors the thoughts, there's no opening at all in your post or image for redirection to something positive

Every manipulative backstabbing vain ambitious self involved rank climber I've ever worked with was obessed with "us being friends".

By contrast, head down, get work done & mind my own shit people are a reliable, stable & relieving to work with.

It's dishonest to suggest you're at work for something other than to pay your bills.

>worked together for 5 years
>on good terms, friendly, even a bit flirty
>sometimes we talk about others behind their backs
>she laughs at my jokes, I laugh at hers
>new guy starts, chatty type
>suddenly I get a cold shoulder, like I'm inconvenient
>by the end of the first month they've exchanged social media
>something we still haven't done even after 5 years
fuck em

>>81712142 (OP)
Just weirdmaxx

>>81712142 (OP)
I'm all of this but I don't have a car

>>81712197
>They always talk about pointless mind numbing shit I don't care about like their cat or their kid, or some item at the store they bought on sale.
That is the thing that upsets me the most, women in the office talk the most pointless shit all the time and then they are all late with the stuffs they have to deliver.

Last week, all the women in the office went to vacation and the office was so nice and quite, it was great