I doubt this will work but if by some miracle the girl I met last summer sees this:

I still want to talk to you. Please message me, there's really nothing to be worried about. It's very hard to communicate if you keep ghosting me after messaging me. I'm confident that if we could just have a conversation things would get better. I want to know how I can best support you.

If you don't want to talk to me, all you have to do is tell me.

>>81716945 (OP)
she used you for attention, if she actually cared you wouldn't be on here

>>81717017
I don't think that's the case. She has pretty serious anxiety and even though she's ghosted me multiple times she always eventually messaged me. I imagine she's currently ghosting me because I didn't reply immediately when she last messaged me and she's probably unable to open messages now. I can understand what that's like since I also deal with anxiety. I've, for example, been unable to check my grades or open my uni email for months in the past.

That being said, if she told me she that didn't want to talk to me I'd obviously respect that even though I really like her.

>>81717121
Emails about stressful things are not the same as a text from someone you actually like. Be real with me is this the first girl you met like this? Alot of them will tell you cute excuses to keep you interested and feeding them attention when they're extremely bored but really they simply do not care.

Someone who likes you would reach out to you.

>>81717174
Her anxiety is pretty bad. She hasn't interacted with anybody other than her family irl for years for example. I can believe that this is anxiety related based on what I know about her life and my own experiences with anxiety.

>>81717174
>>81717239
>Be real with me is this the first girl you met like this?
Yes but I also don't interact with many people online. Most of the people I know I know irl.

>>81717239
what do you even mean you can understand, you never ghosted somebody like this. Go ask your friends who are girls what they think if you really want to be set straight

>>81717322
Girls want to be cute and small, and want attention for it. You know how you lie sometimes to seem more masculine than you are? it's like that but 10x worse because they never get called out for it, and it's so normalized they don't even think about it.

>>81717410
My anxiety issues are mostly school related but I can understand how anxiety could cause someone to behave this way. You message someone after ghosting them for a while but they don't respond immediately. Waiting for a response is stressful so you log out or close messages. You don't know how that person responded. Maybe they're angry. You try to open messages. You can't. As time goes on you become more and more anxious. Maybe the person wasn't angry initially but after ghosting for so long they might now be angry. You keep avoiding checking messages.

What usually helps me is finding out some other way that everything is ok.

Based on everything I know about her this is the most likely explanation for her behaviour. I'm trying to reach out to her to let her know that everything is ok.

Of course, it's possible she doesn't want to talk to me. If that's the case, I'd want her to at least tell me.

>>81717536
yeah no she's gonna tell you because that would be admitting she was lying the whole time and she isn't as small and precious as she wanted to make you think. She doesn't care if it hurts you, she just wants to walk away as if it never happened and forget about it

"It was a mistake"
is all you will ever get. She doesn't think you're angry with her.

>>81716945 (OP)
i know who ur talking abt and shes an underage troon lol

>>81717557
hey since we're talking about troons how can I reach out to puppynon? I've been meaning to

>>81717572
sorry i dunno who that is

>>81717549
I can see where you're coming from but I think if you knew her and had experience with anxiety disorders you could see why what I'm saying makes sense.

>>81717557
>>81717572
>>81717613
I think you're thinking of someone else. I know for a fact that she's a biological female and not underage.

>>81717121
>She has pretty serious anxiety and even though she's ghosted me multiple times
>He actually buys this bullshit
Kek get bpdemon'd
>>81717536
>You try to open messages. You can't. As time goes on you become more and more anxious
More like bpdemon got pissed that you didn't come crawling back immediately so she's punishing you again.

>>81717645
>i know for a fact
so youve slept with her and investigated her parts to make sure she was afab? otherwise...no way to know

>>81717645
you told me it was your first time talking with a girl online like this. It's almost literally all of them. Whenever I get in tight with a girl on this board and she's obsessed with me I make her give me her password and her dm history is full of people like you. Trust me she doesn't like you, she's just bored.

>>81716945 (OP)
dog even if she does have anxiety why do you put up with someone who hasn't put in the work to make themselves stable enough to have a friendship or relationship with? you can't fix her, stop trying to be captain save a ho. if someone really cared they would put in the effort to maintain a connection with you instead of doing this stupid shit. that's if she isn't doing it on purpose

>>81717651
She really doesn't act like someone with BPD. Her behaviour is very typical for someone with an anxiety disorder and possibly avoidant personality disorder.

>>81717657
I meant that I've VCed her and she sent me pics of herself.

>>81717679
I'm pretty skeptical. I can see why you'd say that but this is very typical behaviour for someone with an anxiety disorder and a possible avoidant personality disorder.

>>81717687
Her having an anxiety disorder isn't necessarily a con for me. It can be hard to deal with but it also means that she actually understands how I feel. Everyone else I know understands what anxiety is like conceptually but they don't really get it.

>>81717901
What do you mean conceptually? I have anxiety myself. I wouldn't even do this shit to someone I care about. I'm not speaking out of my ass.

>>81717915
I mean that everyone else I know only understands what anxiety is like in theory but they've never experienced it themselves.

>>81717901
Avoidant personality disorder is a bitch to deal with. My best friend has anxiety and depression and he regularly ghosts me or blocks me over stupid things. I love him a lot but I can't deal with it anymore. Good luck brother it's really hard to deal with and all you can do is support them and hope they'll wanna change for the better some day.

>>81717928
It's definitely very hard to deal with. I regret not talking to her more about what to do when situations like this occur.

>>81717945
I'm mixed about it. On the hand these behaviors suck a lot and it feels like being taken advantage of and in a way it kinda is. On the other when you form a connection with someone you really wanna make it with. For avoidant people they are scared of being hurt or being close to someone because it'll hurt them or they're not really sure how to do that. All you can do is give them time and space and not put a lot of pressure on them. In my case if your person is in a good mood you might be able to get advice on what to do when they feel like pulling away but usually in the end whatever drives them to pull away from you is stronger than any rationality and common sense and whatever they will tell you doesn't mean anything. It's all out the window. My best friend says to leave him be and give him space and we'd always be able to be friends and work through anything but evidently that's not the case as I've been blocked for several months now. Personally I wouldn't get too attached. But I guess it's too late by now huh?