Is love a Feeling or a Choice? Lets say 5-10 months in you lost that feelin would you tell the other person to go kick rocks? Or would you still keep choosing the same person?

>>81720248 (OP)
I wouldn't enter a relationship with a person if it was solely dependent on feelings in the first place.

A relationship, and furthermore marriage, is meant to provide STABILITY. Since two people hold up better than one in the long run, if both people try. I'd rather be married to someone that I'll tolerate 360 days out of the year, than someone I could only love 100 days out of the year.

If the person I'm with is still cool, isn't a cheater, won't abuse my money and time and energy, I'm keeping her. Feelings could reignite if they were there, and anyway, we got stability. I'm not going to ruin a good thing. If she's just a leech on my finances, or doesn't even provide any value to my life outside of the activities that require a feeling or attraction, then yes, she can go kick rocks.

>>81720270
That's the thing with men is that if they commit men are ride and die type shit meanwhile when women "lost feelings" they'll usually tell you to go kick rocks because to them that is "settling" and they think the grass is always greener on the other side. That's why when they say they love you they mean i love you for now.

It's much closer to being a feeling than a choice. It can be a choice in edge cases like if the feelings are very close to being there anyway, but typically romantic feelings just either are there or aren't there. Passion declines over time but doesn't have to become platonic. You still have more sexual and romantic feelings towards your partner than you do towards others, and they still make you feel happy and safe and satisfied in a way that nobody else does.

But yeah, can't relate to the thing people say about it being a choice. You either like someone romantically or you don't. If the idea of being someone doesn't make you feel blissfully happy and like being with them will make everything in the world feel right, then don't be with them.

>>81720279
Yep. I'm just a 'I'll commit if you're worth committing to' type of person. And the conditions to be worth committing to are higher than the initial conditions to qualify being with in the first place.

>>81720248 (OP)
Love is when the husband goons while his wife is thoroughly bred by the bull

>>81720285
wtf is wrong with you.

>>81720248 (OP)
it's a choice. it's ALWAYS a choice.

The anon in the first reply has some good point. Also we seriously need to purge the degeneracy of this modern rotten society and have essentially a 50's traditional society again. People need to couple together not only just for themselves but for the greater good of the society, to marry people of their own same race and raise children for contributing to the society and keeping it healthy. Need more white people

>>81720248 (OP)
It's a compulsion and the feelings that follow from it.

>>81720343
First reply anon here; thanks for the support. Also I do fully agree with you; marriage, relationships, and in general binding situations like that should be for the betterment of a society.

I get why you'd want to have people couple within the same race, but I don't hate race mixing either.

Create stable households, so that children have multiple parental figures to look up to. Ones with separate but complementary roles, so that the children have easily-identifiable role-models to look up to for their problems. Stop shunning mothers for being mothers, and stop not believing in the abilities of a father.

Personally, I hope society relearns these lessons in the short few years I intend to look into becoming a father myself... though I highly doubt that.

>>81720380
Also apologies if I didn't articulate this well. I'm heading to bed soon and tired as fuck honestly. Goodnight all by the way; saying this a few minutes in advance.

Usage dictates meaning, and the word love has been diluted to the point it's meaningless. Could be lust, could be infatuation, maybe it just describes how someone finds tacos enjoyable to eat. All are examples of love.
Love should be a choice, and carry an implication of being duty bound to give due benevolence to each other. Kind of hard to expect anyone to think similarly considering they will take vows before God saying till death do us part and immediately run to the courthouse a few years later because she had a dream about him tying his shoes lol icky.

It's a little bit of both. Of course, you can't choose who you fall in love with. There has to be some level of inherent care for the other person, an attraction. But at the same time, you can't just listen to your gut instinct at a first glance every single time. Not everything is going to be perfect, and if you turn tail at the first minor annoyance or imperfection you perceive, then you'll never be happy. That's where the choice comes into play. Trying to understand the perspective of the other person, trying to understand your emotions and why they might have faded or turned into something different and not just instantly thinking something is wrong. That doesn't mean you have to accept the other person is just shitty and you should just live with it, but rather analyzing the reasons behind the emotions you have and whether your emotional response is right or if it's just a problem with you not giving a different perspective a chance.

>>81720248 (OP)
At this point, I purely want a sex partner who wants to have lots of sex with me.
Love is not a consideration. Betrayal is inevitable. I just want to finally get 'my turn' before I turn fucking 40 soon.