Have you ever taken the phrase dont stick your dick in a crazy seriously?

I got back with my ex and I started feigning erectile dysfunction because she said she wouldn't have an abortion.
This went on for months. But it was driving her crazy and she started asking for an open relationship because of the lack of sex.
This is when I broke up with her.

But I noticed this was mind fucking her hard. In reality I was gauging if she was mentally stable enough to stay with and risk having kids with. Because she showed extreme mental instability the first time around and I believed her excuses. But I felt I had to be really sure.

But I had to really commit to this bit. Even when she tried to suck my dick I had to decline. Because she would get suspicious why I'm hard for blowjobs and not sex. But she was getting insecure and asking what was wrong and told me to get on pills. But I never got around to it.

I felt since I was gauging her mental stability she felt like I was keeping her at an arms length. But I didnt realize this made her want me more.

Now I ask myself did she just make mistakes. Did I drive her even more crazy than she was?
Did I save myself from a lifetime of trouble?
I've had too many friends that stuck their dick in crazies and now have kids. Even though they're no longer with them.
One of them has an autistic kid and he got full custody, cause his ex didnt want the kid and left the state.

Is it justified to ask for an open relationship because of lack of sex? That was the deal breaker for me

>>81721566 (OP)
You might have some severe mental issues yourself that you should deal with. Holy shit

>>81721566 (OP)
You know shes not worth it, this should be obvious, move on.
>>81721773
This came from nowhere and means nothing

>>81721796
said she wanted kits after 2 weeks and broke up when I refused, admitted she wanted to take her life and couldnt get over it. Is it normal to cry for hours after only dating 2 weeks. She regret it but I didn't want her back.
Mainly cause I didn't believe she truly loved me.
I just felt like she just needed to achieve her life goals through me ASAP.
But her claiming she never got over it (i took her back 4 years later) makes me believe I must have been special to her but why?
She said it was because she lost her virginity to me and never dated anyone else.

What's strange is she's 0 or 100. When I contacted her after 4 years of ghosting. She didn't want to ease back into it. She was immediately talking about fully getting back together.
She constantly reminds me of me ignoring her while she has a meltdown and ghosted her and how much it hurt her.

But I think it would crush her even more if I told her I was avoiding sex because I didn't want to impregnate her.

But she did nothing to show me she was mentally stable enough for sex. Maybe in the back of her mind she knew this is exactly what I was doing. And I guess it fucks with women to be denied sex, because they're usually the ones that do it.

But now she's having an even greater melt down. Where she cut of all her childhood best friends. Her entire support network and neither her or her friends are telling me what's going on.
I feel responsible and guilty for the state she's in.
But maybe this is proof she was never stable.
She just completely went into hiding for a year.

Maybe having a kid with someone like this would have been a disaster.
But I tell myself, if I had sex with her, would it have fixed this? Or is it a deeper issue and I have no influence on her meltdowns and internal issues.

She always said she'd be able to escape her perpetual sadness if she could just not live with her parents anymore. But now she's in her 30s and still lives at home, no kids, it must have hit her hard.

>>81721566 (OP)
im tired of sexhavers gtfo

>>81722395
The story is about me being a volcel and inadvertently making a girl a femcel while being in a relationship with her.

That is because i didn't want to impregnate someone that seemed mentally unstable and wouldnt have an abortion.

It's not about sex

>>81721796
If you wanna worship mentally ill men like a lil faggot go for it

>>81722436
>making a girl a femcel
No you didn't dipshit

>>81722447
explain. The story is about me dating someone for nearly a year but not having sex with them, the girl wanting sex and not getting it. This leading her to claim she wanted an open relationship to force my hand.
Rather she claimed it was a test when I broke up with her. And she was still upset about me ghosting her for 4 years. That is she was asking about the open relationship for several reasons. To see if I cared if I would lose her. She admitted this herself.
Her plan backfired.
Unless of course you're claiming she had someone in mind or was having sex with someone else. That is also a possibility.
>>81722438
Does my caution make me mentally ill? Was I wrong for doing what I did?

>>81722438
You forgot to take ur schizo meds, it might do you some good to take them as prescribed.
>>81722370
I'm not interested in reading all that, you're not responsible for her and it sounds like she needs medical help (that you can't give) so just remove yourself from the situation