"Non-conformity"? Is that it? Is that the "positive"? It's a net negative. I'd much rather be neurotypical and not have to go through all this loneliness and suffering, knowing I'll never truly connect with another person in my entire life. Having pride over autism is such an obvious cope, unless you're some kind of schizoid-adjacent type but most autists aren't. Most of us want connection but will never get it. The thing people live for, friends and family, that's the one thing that just had to be so massively impacted by this shitty fucking disorder.
>but STEM and shit
Most autists aren't high IQ though, and even in the corporate environment having shit social skills is a massive detriment. Statistically, most autists are unemployed and the few that work are mostly found in shit like retail and other low-skill jobs. Even autists with high IQ are statistically underemployed. But let's say you did luck out with high IQ and somehow managed to climb the corporate ladder despite all the odds. What then? Have lots of money so you can distract yourself from your loneliness? Might be better than nothing, but it's still pretty fucking bad. It's no wonder we're massively overrepresented in suicides.

>>81732083 (OP)
how to tell if you're autistic? is it the whole theory of mind thing? how did (you) first learn you were autistic and how?
ruv you OP :3 dun be sad

>>81732083 (OP)
Non conformity is good if you have the intelligence for it, but then if you're very intelligent, you might already have that trait. Still, there are ways you can benefit from it. I don't engage in harmful behaviour and I make smart purchases in general.

>>81732083 (OP)
>"Non-conformity"? Is that it? Is that the "positive"? It's a net negative. I'd much rather be neurotypical and not have to go through all this loneliness and suffering, knowing I'll never truly connect with another person in my entire life
its about finding silver linings in a complex fate

>>81732193
But our entire evolution has been shaped by the fact we're social animals, both on the inside and outside. We're not even just social animals, we're arguably THE most social animal. For example, even other great apes don't have a white sclera on their eyes, something we do because it communicates so much non-verbally. And who struggles with non-verbal communication? Autists notoriously. Human language is also what separates us the most from all other animals on earth, and what people typically have developmental delays and difficulties with it? Autists again. There's also things like "theory of mind" (the ability to understand people think differently than you). It's something some scientists argue is what made us so intelligent compared to the other great apes and the reason we developed such complex communication. Struggling with it, that is a literal diagnostic criteria for autism. I have a hard time seeing any kind of silver linings with autism, having your brain work against you to this degree just seems way too depressing.

>>81732175
Any benefit is massively outweighed by the costs. It's like winning 10 dollars but having 100k in debt. And this is assuming you have "high functioning" autism, since the vast majority of autists are considered literally mentally retarded and too disabled to be independent.

>>81732083 (OP)
>>81732435
Should you be angry at yourself for being the way you are or should you be angry at a society that arbitrarily excludes you?

>>81732653
I mean I'm not angry at myself, I'm just acknowledging the way I am. Sure, there's something to be said about people being cruel against those who don't fit in and treating disabled people inhumanely for no good reason. But I don't think it's fully "arbitrary" either, a society naturally forms around the majority which are neurotypicals and I can't blame someone who literally perceives the world differently from me for not understanding me and finding me off-putting. And most people just happen to be like that, it's no one's fault. I'm not denying there's lots of sadistic people who do fit in, so I'm not saying not fitting in is some moral failing, but most neurotypicals aren't really like that. It's simply just a fact that socializing makes humans happy and being autistic makes that extremely difficult.

>>81732083 (OP)
Agreed. My life would have been so much better had I been NT.
Instead I'm practically a schizoid, but craves sex that I will never get from a willing woman.