Every single man I've met that has emotionally invested in one has gotten wrecked because of it.

Why is this the case? This is recurring pattern that I can't ignore or justify anymore

>>81767514 (OP)
Women evolved to "Thank you, next!"

>>81767514 (OP)
If they are the one who initiated the relationship then chances are that they are also the one who cares more. It makes sense that they would be the only one between the two to be actually devastated when things don't work out because she didn't take it as seriously as he did.

>>81767770
How do you properly deal with this, as a man?

>>81767782
But it goes beyond this. I've seen it time and time again. Most women, at some point the relationship, bail and emotionally it's as if they turned off a switch

>>81767800
>Most women, at some point the relationship, bail and emotionally it's as if they turned off a switch
It's certainly happened to me before too. No idea how or why but one day she was just done with me for seemingly no reason. I didn't know what I did wrong and I still don't even after all these years. I can only assume it was based on some kind of misunderstanding that I didn't bother to question at the time because the thought didn't occur to me.

>>81767800
the best thing you can do is just be independent as possible i guess, like even if your gf or whatever tries to do some tradwoman stuff for you, just handle it yourself.
i've always cooked, cleaned, taken care of myself no matter how sick i was even if i was coughing up blood and managed my own finances etc.
you just gotta be a fortress basically, obviously if you're emotionally uninvested while doing these things it'll break things down and if you deny them the chance to help you at times it will fuck shit up too just don't rely on them, women are nice but unreliable

>>81767514 (OP)
women get ran through by chads and over repeated dicking from countless chads they are numb to emotional investment and see relationships as a fleeting game where the winner is the one who gains the most at the expense of the man with the least investment
men on the otherhand are conditioned by society to bear the burden of performance, bring the bread, pay for literally everything, bend over backwards and play into their dumb fucking games, take all the blame even when its not theirs to bear, because men are controlled by their dicks and its harder for a guy to fuck a woman he really wants to fuck than it is for a woman to fuck a guy she really wants to fuck

>>81767841
>>81767892
But how do you cope with these realities without falling into bitterness and despair? How do you, as a man, still have a healthy relationship with a woman, have kids with her, etc... Knowing they are like this? Is it not possible? Am I too far gone?

Is this the way its meant to be? Isolation due to irreconcilable differences? As a guy, I feel profoundly alone guys. It's breaking me down. Granted, I don't speak from a very emotionally sober place... I just dumped like a week ago after 4 years of relationship.

>>81767926
yeah kinda goes back to being a fortress.
you're probably missing the small little things she did for you, the sex, the oxcytosin on demand etc.
not really much you can do except feel bitterness and despair.
sometimes in life you gotta be sad, you have to hang your head in defeat there isn't always a way out in life.
i've never had a real relationship or sex, sometimes when i wake up i just kind squirm...wishing i had someone to hold, i've never had an orgasm i didn't feel ashamed by.
but i've seen other people in relationships and they just got fucked up by it and right back to loneliness and isolation.
if you can't tolerate the loneliness or isolation i can't tell you anything man life is hard bro
sorry anon have you tried hook ups and meaningless sex in anycase?

>>81767926
oh i forgot this etc

>>81767990
>you're probably missing the small little things she did for you, the sex, the oxcytosin on demand etc.
But that was mutual anon. And during sex I was the one in charge of everything and exerting the most effort

>sorry anon have you tried hook ups and meaningless sex in anycase?
That just leaves you in a worse place and possibly with STDs

>i've never had a real relationship or sex, sometimes when i wake up i just kind squirm...wishing i had someone to hold, i've never had an orgasm i didn't feel ashamed by.
You're not any less of a man because of this and you are worthy of love.

>>81768098
seems like the usual, you have to take charge of sex and stuff and perform.
i don't wanna be a bastard but maybe thats the best thing for you right now? you can tell me to fuck off this is rather insensitive.
as for hook ups, i mean wrap your dick and stuff y'know? don't fuck dirty girls......etc i used to denounce it in the past not because i felt some moral aversion to it but because it doesn't excite me at all.
i feel i would be more ashamed of myself than when i use my hand lol but after i saw some people look even more happier and energetic from it i figured its got to help something and maybe i was wrong? you've already been hurt man you never know....
i never really felt like anyone, not even just a man not even a human, i'm okay with it now it's whatever not like something will change in my life to where i change my mind.
i just stay healthy and try and help people if they are cool. hope these help soothe your mind a little
>my blood is black

>>81768217
>don't fuck dirty girls
At this point I think most are, anon. You can try escorts, which get testes and probably are more clean, just have the expectation that it will be for sex and not emotional connection. I know that won't fix all issues but at least you will get your rocks off and be able to think more clearly

>>81768477
i mean yeah y'know i guess you're right
but i meant more like girls with lower chance of an std i don't even know what that would look like desu.
maybe a fwb that seems a little more good for some people.
i've known some fwb who do their thing and stay 'professional about it" i don't think i could fuck my friends though....
i've only had one real chance with a girl, she was known for having a really big roster. i really wanted to but i thought damn....im so much of a dog the only time i'm desired is to wait in line to be used as a dildo in vaguely human form.
i guess you could just get a prozzy and put her in doggy...do your thing and disassociate later.
or risk it with women again.....

>>81768578
>but i meant more like girls with lower chance of an std i don't even know what that would look like desu.
Look for ones that at least don't look promiscuous or always look for male validation. Those are the biggest indicators of ran-through women with more chance for STDs. Basically, low-impulse control behavior.

>fwb
Forget about it. That shit doesn't work out well and feelings always surface

>>81767514 (OP)
Women, troons, homosexual bottoms. All the same in this regard. Submissive people do not care about others, they just want to be validated.

>>81768630
i figured it doesn't thats why i never involved my self but *some*(all normies lol) people like it, thats why suggested it. some anons on here like it too if their posts can be taken seriously.
i even access that lifestyle anyway so whatever sent my own way i guess. good luck anon i hope you can get over your gf and stuff 4 years is along time to be attached

>>81768820
>but *some*(all normies lol) people like it, thats why suggested it. some anons on here like it too if their posts can be taken seriously.
They are just broken people.

Wish you the best too, anon