you guys, life isn't hard. You just need to learn how to develop better coping skills! harming yourself or taking drugs is not a healthy coping skill.

imagine spending your entire life coping

>>81773649 (OP)
idk drugs is a crutch but also I like drugs. I like all the different feelings. It's like real feelings almost. Weed is so good that I just like weed. But I use it as a crutch. But you know come into the kitch and try to stay straightedge

I have the most powerful and unbeatable coping mechanism, maladaptive daydreaming. And by that, I mean the only way to stop me from doing is to give me a lobotomy.

>>81773659
sounds like a good life
>b- but...
cope

>>81773649 (OP)
Drugs and alch is awesome though

>>81773649 (OP)
>harming yourself or taking drugs is not a healthy coping skill
I'm not doing any of this why do I still feel like shit

>>81773649 (OP)
Shut-a your-a face-a up-a

>>81773659
>you see, it's better not to co-ACK!

>>81773649 (OP)
I'll have a hotdog with onions and mustard and ketchup and relish. And I want potato salad on the sife and a diet coke.

>>81773649 (OP)
>life isn't hard
It is actually very hard for some types, the game is severely rigged in favor of certain people and 4chan is full of the people it is rigged against

>>81776275
I'll I'll I'll be be be damned damned damned you you you are are are right right right

>>81773649 (OP)
Just because life isn't hard for you doesn't mean life isn't hard for others. For me I don''t want to remember my life because I cause myself and those around me more pain then when I'm not sober.. There are certain things that I can't forgive myself for that anyone in my personal life can help me through. Better to try to forget it than constantly bring myself and others around me down

nigga it's just a hotdog, i used to be just like you.

>>81776369
Let me guess your a cynical POS as a reaction to situations you are (or were) trapped in and/or cause of nihilism.
Your only way out is philosophy to spiritual to religion pipeline.

>>81776407
Holy projection. You need help anon.

>>81776369
Examples
>At 18 childhood friend died and I never got a chance to say goodbye because the night before he passed I had a chance to call knowing the situation but didn't
>since then have 7 others pass and Im 24 currently
Explain how even with that small bit of my life how that's easy and that you can forgive yourself for that. I've been in therapy. I've tried self-help and all the other bullshit. Including drugs none of it works but drugs allow a temporary relief which is way better than hating myself and taking it out on others

>>81776407
Nope hate nihilism and spiritualism.. Just stuck in self-hating cycle.

>>81773649 (OP)
>you guys, life isn't hard
Are you sure?

>>81776504
>self-hating cycle.
Why

>>81776549
Because I couldn't be there enough for those that passed.. My grandfather killed himself and then I didn't take the time to call my friend when he was dying of cancer.. I couldn't reach out to those that I loved because of my own laziness and being unsure of what to do. I can''t forgive myself for not being able to talk to those I hold dear to me.

>>81776604
>>81776549
Can you forgive yourself knowing that your friend that you've known since middle school was dying and you didn't even reach out to know that you're there for them? That's where I'm at 7 years later

>>81776604
>I couldn't reach out to those that I loved
first step is changing this language, you absolutely couldve but didnt. The correct way to say this sentence would be
>I DIDN'T reach out to those that I (pretended) I loved

>>81773649 (OP)
Is jerking off whenever you feel especially depressed (higher than background depression levels) good coping skills or not

>>81776766
I know I didn't reach out to them because I chose not too. Congrats you really got me there smart ass.Go on what would the next step be? You're pathetic at least come up with something more original

>>81776604
Tong-len meditation is what worked for me.
I killed a guy by accident and it ate me up for a long time.
Anyways tong-len is visualizing everyone (or a specific person's) negative karma/luck/etc coming into you (as black smoke) and you transmuting it into positive karma/luck/etc (white light) and sending it back to them.
Ever seen the greenmile? Yeah that's where they got the idea from.
Anyways I don't feel regret anymore.

>>81776806
be a better friend and the next time it happens reach out, you seem very selfish, even your friends' deaths are about you and how sad it makes you and the guilt surrounding it, you you you

>>81776821
yeah that sounds right
A guy's wife died two years ago and he was grieving hard. He was asked if he would switch places with her and he said of course not, I would not put her through the pain I'm going through. So it's kinda like that

>>81776834
Is there a selfish aspect to it? Yes. Part of it is that I wish I didn't do that so I don't blame me. That doesn't mean that I don't think I should've been a better friend for him.. He didn't deserve the way that I was.. I made that mistake and I wish I could've been a better friend because he deserved one. You don't know anything about me or who I am currently as a person.. I was responding to OP about my personal experiences.

>>81776859
Well you gonna do the meditation or not? I hate wasting my time on people who don't wanna get better.

>>81776821
I wish I could believe in that or visualize others in my life in that way but it feels like I'd be distancing those around me or disassociating those I care about too much. None of them were negative karma to me. I think if anything they were good luck because of the happieness they brought me in life.. I think there might be a disconnect between accidentally killing a guy and losing someone you care about..

>>81776915
I'm probably not going to. So you should stop wasting your time on 4chan.

>>81776954
>>81776975
Fair enough lol. Bye.

>>81776369
>There are certain things that I can't forgive myself for that anyone in my personal life can help me through.
So you are going to repeat the cycle and make those people suffer for your weaknesses instead.

>>81777035
How would I repeat that cycle for those around me other than killing myself which I don't plan on doing? None of this is repeated through me. I'm still here, I'm still there for others.. Unless I die, I can't repeat that same situation and even then that would take decades.

>>81777070
>Bawww I'm so SAD
>Fuck you I won't do anything to get better

>>81777143
You fuckin failed.

>>81777143
Suggestion to get better then? All I've heard on this thread is
>why do you blame yourself (I explained why)
>No it's you didn't reach out to him (I know and said that)
>you seem selfish it's all about you, you, you (I acknowledge that part of it is about me but more that I should have been a better friend because he deserved better than how I treated him)
>view everyone as negative energy (no because i cared about all of them)
>Are you going to repeat the cycle (no because I'm not going anytime soon and because I learned from my mistakes)
Where have I said I won't do better? I can do better while feeling remorseful about my previous actions towards those I care about no?

>>81776548

Yeah like wtf lol.