Why does it seem like everyone around me sucks fucking balls with handling relationships?

You people are sexist, unempathetic, petty, and judgmental, and still think its a good idea to start dating?

Whenever I hear of some 'lovers quarrel' anywhere ever, its almost always just the couple's ignorance in communicating properly with each other.

A relationship is built on mutual understanding and respect. You're with that person and do things for that person because you love them, not because you'll get something in return, vice versa.

Men, you don't owe dinner or money.
Women, you don't owe sex or housekeeping.
A girlfriend or a boyfriend isn't a trophy.

It ain't a fuckin business deal, it should not be that way.

How to fail in a relationship: read OP's post.

it's a bit twee for my tastes, but i will still be talking to the little girl.

>>81784800 (OP)
Who are you to say how things should be. I wish it was like that as well but I honestly don't know because from what I learned we are slaves to the will of nature that wants us to feed it new meat so the cycle of suffering continues. Correct me if I am wrong and unwise, I hope I am, but dating and sexual selection are not moral at all. Relationships are all transactional and based on power and utility in some way.

>>81784800 (OP)
>You people are sexist, unempathetic, petty, and judgemental
>Proceeds to make an unempathetic, petty and judgemental post directed at all readers
I'll take the sexist label though, you got me there.

>>81784896
I'm saying to not be that way to your partner mainly, do you think I'm trying to court any of you?

Honestly based on the replies so far, making this post was probably screaming into the void, you can lead a horse to water so they say.

>>81784840
Well yes I also have that philosophy that free will doesn't really exist, and yeah, it sucks that its like that. Transactional relationships are normalized, and it sucks, it should not be that way.

>>81784927
>I'm saying to not be that way to your partner mainly, do you think I'm trying to court any of you?
Hopefully not.

>you can lead a horse to water so they say.
You are just yelling in a field that could have horses in it that there's water in the area. You aren't leading any of them. You would do that by finding people who this rant actually applies to in your life, and trying to help them. My rule on this behavior is to only try once per person. Good luck!

>>81784800 (OP)
>humans
Wow I can't believe I'm talking to a non human. So what type of animal are you?

>>81784988
I still have to learn that trying to help people is very futile. Unless they want to learn, you can't do anything.

But mostly in this post I'm just trying to tell you that you're all kinda stupid. This is the main place that people who suck with relationships go.

>>81784800 (OP)
>You people are sexist, unempathetic, petty, and judgmental, and still think its a good idea to start dating?
>leaves out racist
I know what you are, OP. No wonder you have problems with relationships.

>>81785019
this is probably bait but I simply just forgot to add that.
i'm not the one that struggles with relationships, I'm reveling on how bad it seems everyone else is.

>>81785015
You're so close to the answer, but it's one you won't listen to unless you figure it out on your own. Do me a favor and save this thread, and read it back to yourself after a while.

>>81784800 (OP)
i think the same thing OP lets date each other and see how it goes

I've been chasing true love my entire life, only ever found it even briefly in very far away people... the biggest thing I've learned is that most people seemingly do not want anywhere near that level of commitment and thus connection.

Wanting a connection that deep, desiring a frankly codependent level of love... well, normal people see it as a disorder and even most internet people don't understand any more either.

I wonder if it's a modern thing, a first world thing, some sort of capitalist hyperindividualist thing... some potent desire to be fully independent, even in romantic relationships... it's very counter to the idea of romantic relationships and indeed marriage, a fundamental intertwining of two souls

my future wife must need me in order to breathe as much as I need her for my heart to continue beating each day

>>81785110
>I've been chasing true love my entire life, only ever found it even briefly in very far away people
>the biggest thing I've learned is that most people seemingly do not want anywhere near that level of commitment and thus connection.
>my future wife must need me in order to breathe as much as I need her for my heart to continue beating each day
nigga you have BPD

>>81785080
Alright but being cryptic isn't going to help me either lol. People usually have to figure it out for themselves. Everyone has an answer, its just different for everyone. I'm sure time will help me figure more stuff out.

>>81785118
yeah and I never WON'T be BPD and I can't settle for someone who treats me the way my family did to make me this way

maybe I'm a vapid shortsighted selfish narcissist for insisting I'm deserving of the love of someone who feels as deeply as I do, but if that's the case then so be it. If I'm just ontologically evil for wanting to matter to ONE PERSON in my wretched life, there's nothing to be done about it because it's my single greatest desire

Oh eat my shorts I really dont give a hoot to be frank

>>81785136
its not that youre an evil person its that BPD is probably what is keeping you from nurturing a long term relationship
you should read about it

>>81785121
It's not because I enjoy it, it's because if I say it you won't listen. As you say, people usually have to figure it out for themselves. Time for you to do the same. Ciao, anon, good luck on your quest.

>>81784800 (OP)
thats literally all it is.
every one of my relationships has either ended with them chasing me (im a guy) or, more often, with them losing respect when i let my guard dow to open up to them and talk to them as people, without playing mind games. its tiring

>>81785164
what is it exactly you think I do?

do you even know what BPD actually is or are you using some meme zoomer girl definition that includes narc crashouts and intense self harm as some mandatory aspect of it?

I'm a sad old man, not a teenage girl. I just want to be loved.

>>81785208
no you just fit the classic BPD criteria of being desperate for love and having unstable relationships
>my future wife must need me in order to breathe as much as I need her for my heart to continue beating each day
this is not how normal people think. this indicates you at least got some PD going on

>>81785219
what are you even saying

do I not deserve love because I desire it..?

>>81785208
>>81785219
Op here, I feel like it depends what you want in your relationship, you gotta find someone that shares the same goals as you. If you wanna be dependent and mate for life.. you gotta find someone that also wants that.

Personally I really like my personal space and function just fine as an individual away from my partner.

>>81785244
i never said you didnt deserve love how did you reach this conclusion

>>81785257
>you gotta find someone that shares the same goals as you
that's what I'm searching for

>>81785258
what ARE you saying?
literally what are you saying?
do you even know what you're saying?

>>81784800 (OP)
No matter what people date by attraction it transactional regardless, if you dont attract the door doesnt even open to you

>>81785348
is it jeet hours already?

>>81785371
If you dont sound good you dont get to reddem it

>>81784800 (OP)
>teizokurei daydream
I'm intrigued, but also saddened that the cute character in your image is probably undergoing something related to the trash gay fetish that is bdsm.