What's the point in dating if they just leave me for Chad? - /r9k/ (#81788192) [Archived: 430 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:11:19 PM No.81788192
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I had a girlfriend but she kept asking me for the social media of my Chad friend "as a joke"

I broke up with her even though she told me she loved me because it's obviously a lie, but we did date so maybe it could happen again?

I think it's pointless though because I believe that even if I date another girl she will just leave me for Chad
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:12:19 PM No.81788198
>>81788192 (OP)
Why do you normalfags like to overreact so much? Grow the fuck up
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:50:12 PM No.81788425
>>81788198
nah op (if this is even real) acted in the only possible way to save his own dignity. what use would his gf have for another male's contact info? you literally cannot come up with anything that wouldn't roundabout into putting chad before op. if the genders were reversed, you 80 iq mouthbreather would be ripping into the guy asking his gf for her stacy friend's socials.
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:53:49 PM No.81788446
>>81788192 (OP)
Correct course of action. Women will only learn when they are consistently punished for not acting right.
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:55:27 PM No.81788454
>>81788425
Op here, apparently she was joking because she thought "my jealous side" was cute but she knew my Chad friend made me feel insecure so I think it was really fucked up

I did the right thing but now I feel hopeless, I don't know if she loved me. She told me she did and wanted to keep the relationship but respected my decision. I don't know man, it sucks
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:56:10 PM No.81788458
>>81788198
>woman asks for the socials of her boyfriend's attractive friend
it's so hilariously blatant that she's looking to cuck him
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:57:51 PM No.81788475
>>81788454
You did the right thing, bro. Don't worry.
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 2:58:20 PM No.81788478
>>81788454
1. Did you tell her to not do it?
2. Did she keep doing it anyway?

If you answered yes to both then she didn't respect you and there was no point continuing. Once a bitch thinks she can disrespect you and get away with it, you are finished. It will never stop and only get worse. If that's the case she forced your hand. But as a man you will feel loss of pussy regret even if it wasnt your fault, simply because of the instinctual knowledge that as a non-chad man pussy is hard to aquire.
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:01:39 PM No.81788504
>>81788475
>>81788478
Thank you guys, yeah, I did tell her but she told me she thought I was joking and I wasn't really insecure about him, I'm very sarcastic so I can understand where she is coming from but I still think it was fucked up

She did tell me that I was handsome, that she loved me and all that stuff but apparently she wanted to make me feel jealous, I don't know why, why did she do that?
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:10:06 PM No.81788554
>>81788446
>Women will only learn
they don't do any of that shit
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:16:40 PM No.81788602
>>81788554
If you punish anyone consistently and harshly enough they will learn. The men of old knew this well which was why up until modern times it was permissible to correct women with physical discipline when words failed to alter their behavior.
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:19:51 PM No.81788629
>>81788504
Do you guys she loved me or was it all fake? Any anons could give me any insight as to why she did this?
Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:22:50 PM No.81788656
>>81788504
>she told me she thought I was joking and I wasn't really insecure about him

Yeah that's called feigning ignorance and shifting the blame. People dont joke about protecting their mate and being "insecure" isnt a personal quality or failing. Anyone who respects their partner will honor their wishes if they ask them not to do something that makes them uncomfortable.

Let me put it this way. Say she told you that she was afraid of dogs so then one day you bring home a pit bull that barks at her and scares the shit out of her then when she gets mad at you, your response is "gee I thought you were joking about the whole being afraid of dogs thing, I didn't know you were so insecure about dogs".

Does that sort of frame things? Does that not come off as disrespectful and gaslighting?

You feel bad right now because losing anything we have invested time and effort into always feels bad. But time will make those feelings go away if you dont obsess over it.

She fucked up. What do you think is going to happen if you go back to her? Is everytime she violates your boundaries going to be another case of her thinking you were "just joking" and "being insecure"?
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:37:22 PM No.81788800
>>81788656
You are right Anon. I guess I feel pretty divided. On one hand, obviously I'm not a catch by any definition but I don't think I have bad intentions so I feel bad/worried about the future for her because there's a lot of bad people out there and I hope nothing bad happens to her, she is a dumbass, no doubt about it but she is not a bad girl, so I sincerely hope she doesn't stumble upon bad people

On the other hand, when I think about dating I'm second guessing myself a lot "am I attractive?" "Can I be loved?" Because she did call me handsome and all that stuff and that she was in love with me but now I think all of that was a lie and it triggered my repressed insecurities and now I think no girl will ever love me, so whenever I think about it I feel completely demoralized
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:46:53 PM No.81788897
>>81788800
Bro your mindset is all backwards. You got one woman to say she loves you and found you attractive so why on earth wouldn't that mean you could do it again?
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Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:48:45 PM No.81788913
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>>81788192 (OP)
Good job dude. You like dodged a bullet or something.
Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:52:06 PM No.81788945
>>81788192 (OP)
Ur a pussy kiddo

Shoulda just beat her ass
Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:53:54 PM No.81788957
>>81788602
>have to beat women 24/7 because they're impulsive retards
is this really an optimal solution?
Anonymous
7/11/2025, 3:55:39 PM No.81788977
>>81788897
Because I think she was lying to me Anon. When I confronted her about it she told me "maybe I'm not the right person for you" because according to her she kept hurting me. And when I told her it was better to go on different paths she told me she wanted us to be together but that she respected my decision

But she didn't try to fight or anything, so a part of me thinks she secretly wanted to break up, she was way too okay with the whole thing, she told me she cried and all but I don't really buy it, she just settled with me because she couldn't get a Chad, I'm quite sure
Anonymous
7/11/2025, 4:08:35 PM No.81789101
>>81788192 (OP)
this happened to me but I didn't care because I knew my chad friend wouldn't give a fuck and accept her advances and he was already married to stacy
Anonymous
7/11/2025, 4:23:42 PM No.81789241
>>81788425
>>81788458
Not the point. Just find a non-whore, simple as. You're normalfags, surely you can manage that.
Anonymous
7/11/2025, 6:52:08 PM No.81790509
>>81788192 (OP)
>she told me she loved me
women dont love shit. they are rollercoasters. the wait is long, the ride is short, and there's a bunch of dudes waiting their turn after
>but we did date so maybe it could happen again?
did it not hurt enough the first time you got your heart ripped out?
>I think it's pointless though because I believe that even if I date another girl she will just leave me for Chad
that's the spirit. if they wont commit, then you shouldnt either. be the guy who leaves her crying on the shoulder of some cuck, not the cuck who gets cried on