Thread 81806324

i got played by a woman. hard. it's my fault because i went against my gut instinct and i tried to play the game too but i'm still in some kind of shock state from realizing none of what i thought was happening was true and that i let down my guard against an enemy

just needed to vent this

>>81806324 (OP)
my only saving grace is that i got discarded rather quickly. in a way i'm lucky that i'm a sperg with little rizz

>>81806324 (OP)
>>81806330
story time?. I'd read and comment

>>81806324 (OP)
You have to make foid's come to you.
I learned that from working in sales:
>have a product people might want (You)
>put it out there with ZERO PRESSURE to as many foids as possible
The modern foid loves no pressure. Aim for situationships (friends with benefits).
1)if you're a shy sensitive mamas boy (you probably are) you need to get competent fast.
2)first work focus on being objective orientated (goal chaser) you should be doing stuff to the point women aren't the main focus (I highly suggest ebay reselling since it's cheap, will get you out of the basement, it satisfies the hunter-gatherer urge more then any vidya could, and (most important) you will get real skill which boosts confidence).
3)get RIZZ (joyful confidence) no one likes a miserable downer doomer fuck. Esspecially foids.
4)learn to notices things via mindfulness, given a few months of regular practice it will allow you to override your social anxiety, state freight, and most importantly you'll start NOTICING the tone people talk in (not what just what they're saying, but HOW they'res saying it) and you can match that tone, instantly giving you the ability to be outgoing extrovert if you choose.
>inb4 I'm ugly
I'm literally a 5'9 260 pound ugly hapa, and don't have problems (granted I'm not swimming in girls either, but I get about 6 relationships a years).

>>81806472
>. Aim for situationships (friends with benefits).
vomited
man child, stay in reddit. this is worse than wanking

>>81806324 (OP)
Same here bro, I got fucking rekt. It's been two months since and I keep thinking of her even though she moved on long ago. Wish there was a way to erase all memories of her.

>>81806499
So only those in LTR are adult men to you?

>>81806462
not much of a story really. we met at a party and i got her number. she seemed distant and i felt that the conversation didn't go as smoothly as it should have but i thought why not maybe she is shy or something.

then we met and for a moment i thought i had her. as in i thought i saw through her facade and found a beautiful girl. and to be honest i'm still kind of convinced that there was *something* whatever it was.

then we met for a second time and the meeting didn't go nearly as smoothly as the first one and i kind of let my autism loose. that's what probably saved me from more pain as she realized what a nerd i am and dropped me rather gently to be fair. although not without putting the blame ball in my court.

not once did she ever deny or affirm any feelings toward me so i thought maybe she is actually just shy. well it turned out to be plausible deniability as she told me very directly that she simply enjoyed our meetings without any deeper feelings.

well but i know i've been played because i made it EXTREMELY obvious that i saw her as more than a friend. even went as far as suggesting a platonic relationship if she wanted to. (she just kept quiet btw)

>>81806561
yes desu yo

>>81806472
nah i'd rather just play the game with people who actually care for me in the first place. this hurts like a bitch but i'm incredibly glad she saw no value in me. my subconscious probably protected me or something for making a lame date plan and fumbling even that. i can't imagine the heart break if i went on more dates

>>81806324 (OP)
it hurts
but try to at least learn from that
don't forget it

>>81806565
u had an anima projection, and she was a womanchild too inert to communicate more than a daddy's girl would to call your autism out sooner (or to work through it if she had actually liked you)

nothing special, just most basic relationship mechanics. u doing good if I didn't kys after the crash course

>>81806530
rip. some people are just weird. i don't know how hard they must have been broken but it's kind of sad that they'll go through life without ever being able to form a meaningful connection if they stay on their path.

my personal revenge will be to find a woman and give her that which i wanted to give that girl

>>81806594
>doing good if I didn't kys after the crash course
* u didn't

LoL lol mistype

>>81806594
>u had an anima projection
yeah that was definitely it. i remember when i first saw her i thought she was pretty but nothing beyond that. got burned already too many times before so i learned to be cautious. or so i thought. but when she suddenly played the role of an adult women it just snapped inside me and i fell deeply in love. despite really not wanting to

fuck man if i don't put in the effort to find a real woman i don't know how often i'll fall for these kind of tricks. no amount of mental preparation was able to protect me

>>81806630
unfortunately not my first rodeo and luckily we saw each other only thrice. but it still hurts like i bitch and i'm feeling kind of shell shocked. eyes wide open and unable to calm down despite being way past my usual bed time

fuck fuck fuck i knew it i fucking knew it.
when i talked to her i even had short flashes of "similar women" before my eye literally warning me (the flashes i mean)
a song that warns of women like that was playing in my head on a loop
i even managed to snap out of it once but the love feeling simply overwhelmed everything
i literally had a dream where my teeth were falling out after our first meeting
like every single thing in my mind was warning me but i didn't listen

>>81806594
>nothing special, just most basic relationship mechanics
if that's basic relationship mechanics then it makes me sick

>>81806719
>i literally had a dream where my teeth were falling out after our first meeting
ohhh that's the dream of "losing an interpretative grip on something". Jungian field day classic

no point in being angsty though, you're a free man now

>>81806739
I know, right?
this direction happens when both of the participants are under severely individuated though

>>81806749
>no point in being angsty though, you're a free man now
i knooooow. but i need some time to calm down. can't think my way out of this one. but talking to you guys helps a bit. thanks

>ohhh that's the dream of "losing an interpretative grip on something". Jungian field day classic
yeah even the AI i asked about the dream warned me haha to be fair i was already interested in Jung before that so there might be some influence but i tried really hard to reinterpret the dream to something positive. well it worked and i regret it now lol

>>81806762
>under severely individuated
severely under-individuated*

bedtime

>>81806762
i thought i really managed to get through her. i know we played a game and that she was putting on a show. but i'm no slouch either and thought i could weather the storm. and after i did i saw for a moment there was this vulnerable girl who was even ashamed for treating me that way. i guess that's where i fell in love a second time. but i couldn't keep it up forever and i revealed my hand. that's when i think she took her revenge on me for making her drop her guard even for a moment

>>81806577
Gay. If you ever seen how the average men in a relationship looks like and how he behave, you would be disgusted

>>81807213
that's your insecurity speaking, although you're partially right, except that fwib fags are just like that as well

>>81807299
>that's your insecurity speaking
Hardly, it's just common sense to me
>fwib fags are just like that as well
I can't speak for them, whenever I got casually involved with someone, no one had control over me.