Anonymous
7/14/2025, 12:54:06 PM No.81823848
>Coming to terms with a sexless life means accepting a painful, often isolating truth: one of the most basic human desires may never be fulfilled for you - and no one is obligated to fix that.
>It's not about finding peace. It's about stopping the fight. You grieve the future you imagined: the intimacy, the connection, the validation. That grief is real. But staying stuck in it becomes self-destruction.
>You must separate sexual absence from personal worth. The world links sex with success, desirability, even adulthood - but that's noise. You are not less human or less valuable because you don't have this experience.
>Either redefine intimacy (friendship, creative bonds, intellectual closeness) or learn to live without softness. Both are valid. Just don't lie to yourself and pretend they're the same as romantic or sexual connection. They aren't - but they are something.
>Let go of fantasies. No one is coming to rescue you. Hope, if you keep it, must be quiet and backgrounded. Expect nothing. That way, if something does change, it's a bonus - not a lifeline.
>Finally, build your life around what is available to you, not what's missing. Most people live with unfillable voids. This one just happens to be yours.
>It will always hurt a little. But it doesn't have to define you.
>It's not about finding peace. It's about stopping the fight. You grieve the future you imagined: the intimacy, the connection, the validation. That grief is real. But staying stuck in it becomes self-destruction.
>You must separate sexual absence from personal worth. The world links sex with success, desirability, even adulthood - but that's noise. You are not less human or less valuable because you don't have this experience.
>Either redefine intimacy (friendship, creative bonds, intellectual closeness) or learn to live without softness. Both are valid. Just don't lie to yourself and pretend they're the same as romantic or sexual connection. They aren't - but they are something.
>Let go of fantasies. No one is coming to rescue you. Hope, if you keep it, must be quiet and backgrounded. Expect nothing. That way, if something does change, it's a bonus - not a lifeline.
>Finally, build your life around what is available to you, not what's missing. Most people live with unfillable voids. This one just happens to be yours.
>It will always hurt a little. But it doesn't have to define you.
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