I've met a few girls off /soc/ and /r9k/. Every time its the same pattern: within minutes they're swapping nudes and kinks, a meetup gets set, you get told it was amazing, then they vanish for months. Then a few months later they come back and it resets like nothing happened. Ask for something ordinary (job, last name weekend plans) and they either dodge or go silent. They're insanely evasive.

Compared with women I meet through work, hobbies, or mutual friends they hook up much faster and zero in on looks. If a taller guy with abs drops a pic in a public discord they shift toward him immediately. I've had fembots tell me about drug runs they made for exs across international borders, porn addiction, sucking dick for money and much worse. It feels like everything runs on novelty and validation instead of anyone getting to know anyone else.

Anyone dated both on-board and off-board and seen the same pattern?

>>81824917 (OP)
tbf most of the girls I've added off here have told me they were virgins who have only done e-dating. I've never used soc.

>>81824917 (OP)
you think anyone who comes here has their shit together long enough to not be flaky? as if perfectly normal stacies would come to this shitty part of this shitty site. every foid here is fucked beyond belief

>Anyone dated both on-board and off-board and seen the same pattern?
Yep. Pic related. Better question is why imageboards attract cluster b people in the first place. The silence about current partners, the vanishing acts, the reappearances years apart, those are features, not glitches. I had someone who resurfaced in my WhatsApp/Telegram messages every six months to a year or so. Recently cut them out for good and feel much better.
>vanish for a few months, come back later like nothing happened
>Ask for something ordinary and they either dodge or go silent
Someone who leaves long gaps and then bursts back in often does it when an existing relationship stalls, ends, or becomes emotionally empty. You're just a validation backup for them.
Also, just date regular women you meet irl. That's the best advice I can give to people here. Don't mistake shared memes and anime for real compatibility; a lot of the girls here hide serious instability behind the same references we all joke about. They're also much more unstable sexually than we are.

>>81824917 (OP)
4chan e-girls are worse than normies. normies aren't as degenerate, chadsexual, and evil as these bitches. only reason they come here is because they're too ugly to compete with stacy

>>81824917 (OP)
Youre just describing whores, I dont why you try to imply that they are somewhat interesting
Just mentally ill, filthy whores, with the description you just posted normie women are way better

I have met a few girls off /soc/ and other boards but never /r9k/. The girls here are even more flaky than others.

>>81824917 (OP)
I had the same experience with one girl from here. I met her on Omegle but she told me she goes on /lit/ frequently. She 100% had some form of autism and abandonment paranoia. She would constantly ask me if I was offended by something she said if I wouldnt respond to her within a day. She then randomly blocks after 3 months

>>81824917 (OP)
I've never met up with a girl off this site but you're completely right about 4chan girls.
>flirt with a girl in a random thread
>she agrees to add you on discord
>you try to message her
>she just gives very short, late replies
>you try to gauge her vibe, whether she wants flirting, romance, friendship, etc
>she's just a total brick wall, giving only the most basic responses and never offering anything more to the conversation, never showing any initiative or enthusiasm
you'd think I'm being ultra specific referencing a single bad experience but no, I've been on this site since the 00's and in the last like 10 years all the women on here have become completely lobotomized. they show zero agency. I'd think it's a zoomer problem except this even applies to women in their 30's I've met off here. It's like being on 4chan just makes a woman retarded and unwilling to communicate even on a basic level. I hate it as someone that actually likes talking to people.

Worst thing about this place, speaking as someone who only comes back now and again and lurks (this post struck a chord with me) is how it can turn you into a misogynist who hates all women. My experiences with women on r9k and soc could fill two volumes. But in short:

- They're sluttier
- They're more shallow
- They lie constantly, even about really random huge shit that you'll obviously find out about at some point, like lying about having a university degree or a career or being multilingual
- They're more likely to cheat
- More likely to have done sex work of some kind
- More likely to have been sexually abused (unfixable people with no future)

Other women avoid the sort of women on here and ostracize them for a reason. Simps should do the same.

>>81824917 (OP)
they extract information, then backstab you the second they feel like they don't need you anymore.

I've never actually met a woman from 4chan who actually has a life. By that I mean they have friends, a social circles, interests beyond passively consuming entertainment, a career, skills and an education and so on. Biggest tells are that they don't have, and never seem to have had, any female friends at all (even online) - this is a huge one and you should always be wary of friendless women who otherwise show up in online social circles. Obsession with porn (I realize this one seems like it could be fun initially). Picking really specific hobbies they run with for like a year or two before dropping (ice hockey for example).

They're just dead people inside. You know how some women have "whore eyes", like how women in porn just look glassy and expired inside in pornography when they're throating some big dick? That's what they're like. They have no internal monologue, they have no sense of agency, they're just walking corpses carried by a tide of whoever the most attractive person in their DMs is at any given moment.

>>81824980
>>81824990
>>81825079
>>81825141
Curious about who the worst ones you've met were and why. Always funny especially when it's some dumb bitch half the board has had contact with at some point.

>>81825079
>- More likely to have been sexually abused (unfixable people with no future)

I wouldn't always be so quick to believe this stuff to be honest with you. There's an interesting study that came out last year that showed something like half of of BPDs who claimed CSA were either lying or literally made it up in their heads. Sometimes I think it's a badge they wear to signal abnormality and a certain kind of "uwu I'm so broken..." persona.

The grooming stories are mostly real but I'm skeptical of this idea that someone who is 16 had no agency when it comes to them sexting older men constantly.

>>81825046
Either they're deluded into thinking holding a proper conversation will make them less attractive or they really are just that boring.

>>81825200
>they really are just that boring.
Probably this because they think everyone else is boring while doing nothing other than scrolling through social media. Them not comprehending something is boring to them.

>>81825247
Try talking to a woman about art, politics, etc. and the best you'll get out of her is pretending to follow the same opinions as you and being interested to the point of copying them before they move onto the next guy to copy the opinions and personality of.

>>81825079
Where do I find such girls? I don't want a girlfriend, just a slutty whore to have sex with.

>>81824917 (OP)
Most of the ones I've dated tend to have low body counts. I just instantly get turned off at the whores you mention
And what leads up to them sending nudes? Do you send them your face first?

>>81825247
That's most of these zoomer women for you. The ones that can admit that they're boring are nice but most have insane egos

>>81824917 (OP)
>everything runs on novelty and validation instead of anyone getting to know anyone else

Nail, meet head.

>>81825046
That's just non-austistic women in general. I hate neurotypicals so much it's unreal.

>>81825186
It's because people tend to take claims of CSA seriously and at face value, and being a child and thus innocent absolves any suspicion of having deserved/asked for/lied about it. It gives their bullshit legitimacy.

Real child sex victims tend to be, you know, average people who try to deal with their issues instead of wallowing in them.

>>81825319
You say this but if a woman actually engaged with your politics on a serious level she'd probably find out you're a psychopath and block you if it's anything like /pol/'s. I've found that 4channers have the most braindead reactionary takes, even worse than normies a lot of the time, and due to their autism they can't handle being challenged on them to any degree without sperging out.

>>81825472
>I've found that 4channers have the most braindead reactionary takes
Wow, I wonder why

>>81825472
You're right about him, but he's also right about you.
Polchuds and femwhores are two sides of the same coin

Bro fell for the oldest 4chan meme, dating an e-girl lmfao

Nubs from britpol seemed pretty normal. I think she's the only one I spoke to who seemed like she had a normal life. I liked her and always wondered what happened to her.

>>81824917 (OP)
The types of people on this website are antisocial, they probably only felt compelled to talk to you because they were horny, and after sexting and whatever else then lose interest after the post nut clarity hits and they realize they are just not that into you outside of passive sexual entertainment.

>>81825706

I hope your dad comes home drunk one day and fucks you.

>>81825723
You seem to have been angered by something I said, but as far as I can tell this is pretty accurate of both men and women on this site, no?

>>81825472
I'm not gonna go deep into my own personal politics apart from saying I don't follow the same politics as /pol/ and that the girl I used to date claimed to have similar politics before we started dating so that's why I'd try to engage in conversation with her about it.

>>81824917 (OP)
She's so perfect, I love her

They're only flaky with you. Guess why.

My impression has always been that a lot of fembots are serial gooners and porn addicts and that they transpose this expectation of constant sexual over to online and offline interactions. They have an expectation of constant novel sexual gratification

>>81825828
That's Tira, she's some old camwhore from /soc/

>>81824917 (OP)
The problem is you're going for girls who are here to meet people, which means they're chasing the novelty high you mentioned. I have made this mistake you're making as well so I know exactly what you are talking about and how they behave. The one good relationship I had with a 4chan girl came when neither of us were looking to meet anyone and it happened organically.
>2011 /b/, I was 21
>thread about animals and pets
>get into a nice discussion with another anon
>thread is about to 404
>post my throwaway email to keep chatting
>anon emails me
>we talk for a few more hours, then have a bunch of other similar discussions over the next week (nothing sexual or romantic, I assumed I was talking to a guy)
>eventually we discuss vidya
>start playing games together on Steam
>get on mics
>wtf anon is a grill my age
>then find out she lives relatively close, only a couple hours away
>we exchange pics and make plans to meet at the state fair
>instant chemistry IRL
>it felt like we had been friends for years, zero awkwardness, we were both really into each other
>get a hotel and fuck nonstop the next few days
>become bf/gf, spend other every other weekend together for the next few months
>after about 7-8 months she moves in with me and we dated for 3 years

>>81826034
I could tell it was an older pic since she is much sexier than girls now

>>81826138
why did you break up anon? That sounds really sweet

>>81825953
That's right. Because he's not black

>>81825953
It sounds like they're flaky with everyone other than chad given the replies.

>>81826549
Congratulations, you get it.

>>81824917 (OP)
The women here like the men here are crazy

>>81826577

so why do i meet so many male channers who have a normal job, normal life and eventually settle down but virtually all fembots, even the 30 somethings are all either still whoring around with anonymous internet men or, at best, married to some dude they settled with purely for money?

>>81826549
They ghost chad too once they orgasm

>>81826421
Two reasons. The main reason is we just sort of fell out of love. No big fight or drama or cheating or anything like that. One day we realized we had become roommates who have sex a lot instead of lovers. We kept living together as roommates for a couple more years after we broke up (never slept together again after breaking up plus we had separate bedrooms). We got along just as well as always. Did chores together, made and ate most meals together, watched some shows and movies together, played some games together, tried new bars/restaurants together.

The next biggest reason is her life goal was to move across the country to a state and a big city I had zero interest in ever living in. I had visited that city a couple times before so I wasn't completely uninformed. I didn't like the weather, the people, the architecture, the politics, the traffic and the huge increase in cost of living. I wanted to settle down in the smallish town area I was living in at the time (which I did). She wanted to leave this area of the country and never look back. When she moved out it was to move to that city. We kept in touch and occasionally gamed together for a few more years. I think the last time I talked to her was 2019.

If we weren't completely incompatible on where we wanted to eventually live I might have pushed for couples therapy and tried harder to reignite the spark when we sat down to discuss breaking up. But that issue of where to live long term had reared its head several times before we broke up and it was clear neither of us would budge, so I decided to cut my losses.

>>81824917 (OP)
I am a flaky girl who has been fooling around with /soc/ guys so I can answer.
>Every time its the same pattern: within minutes they're swapping nudes and kinks, a meetup gets set, you get told it was amazing, then they vanish for months.
This is how I treat every man I find attractive. I view it all as casual and temporary. It is nothing personal. Why do women do this? We are just horny. This is how we act when we don't want to plan for the long-term and enjoy ourselves in the moment.
>Ask for something ordinary (job, last name weekend plans) and they either dodge or go silent. They're insanely evasive.
Because we, as women who are internet-savvy, know that revealing too much personal information about yourself like that is a terrible idea. I try to be secretive for safety reasons.
>Compared with women I meet through work, hobbies, or mutual friends they hook up much faster and zero in on looks. If a taller guy with abs drops a pic in a public discord they shift toward him immediately.
Again, this is just how we act when we are horny.
>It feels like everything runs on novelty and validation instead of anyone getting to know anyone else.
Getting to know people means you have to be vulnerable and think about the future. I don't want to deal with that when I am in the mood for mindless hedonism.
>Anyone dated both on-board and off-board and seen the same pattern?
I would say I'm definitely like most of what you are describing but I don't understand why you are confused about this. Why wouldn't they flake? Were you expecting to stay together forever? Everybody comes and goes.

>>81826681
Most people, men and women, want something long-term past a certain point.

>we
>we
>we
>we
Why do you keep doing this? You don't represent most women. Most women would think you're a weird meme spouting porn addict who has casual, unprotected sex with men from an anime website. Stop pretending like normie women are on your side. There's a reason you have no friends lol.

>>81825200
>>81825247
You don't get it. They don't need to bother trying to conversate because you're not the only one she's talking with and she's not that into you compared to the others she's talking with.

>>81826681

Does your name begin with an N?

>>81826665
Thank you for sharing your story anon. You say you still had sex a lot but that you were missing the romantic aspect in your relationship but isn't that comfortable companionship what love eventually morphs into? I think reaching that stage is almost inevitable and even to some degree desireable if you manage to keep sexual attraction alive along side it
Was the sexual attraction dead after you broke or how did you manage never to hookup?
Your lives really became incompatible then, that's quite sad. Do you ever miss her? Or what you had?

>>81826708
>she's not that into you
not those anons but it's more like those other guys were hotter, that's pretty much the only reason.

reminds me of when a fembot I knew got involved with a guy from here who she "couldn't believe was into her" because of how attractive he was. he fucked her and then left her endless messages on read for two months before blocking her.

i dont even want a relationship, i just want a girl to fuck at random times

>>81824980
>date regular women you meet irl
they're no different, but I think that's in large part due to living in the PNW US, where being flaky and unstable is baseline behavior for everyone

>>81826706
>Most people, men and women, want something long-term past a certain point.
And what do they have to do with this subject?
>Why do you keep doing this? You don't represent most women. Most women would think you're a weird meme spouting porn addict who has casual, unprotected sex with men from an anime website.
Your illiteracy is astounding because I have not once said I am speaking for ALL 4 billion women. He was asking about flaky women on 4chan, so I responded, being one of them.
>Stop pretending like normie women are on your side. There's a reason you have no friends lol.
I have plenty of normie friends, why did you feel the need to pull this cope out of your ass?
>>81826723
No. Stop asking personal questions like this.

>>81826681
>safety reasons.
>Having sex with men you barely know hours after meeting them

>>81826681

Why not just be transparent about your intentions from the get go then? Seems like OP and others are describing something different to a woman who clearly and explicitly just wants NSA sex. This is how ordinary women will behave for the record, on dating apps and elsewhere they'll just be entirely clear they're looking for something casual. Seems like some sort of mental self rationalization ("I'm not really a whore....") if you can't do this.

>>81826809
That is easier to vet than you might think. I have never had a bad experience during any of my casual encounters. Vetting for relationships takes much more effort and time. This should be obvious, no?
>>81826827
My intentions are perfectly clear, it's men who expect you to be there forever just because you had sex once who are betraying the agreement.

>>81826730
Thanks for listening. Even as a 35 y/o boomer now that is still the longest relationship I've ever had. I can't say what relationships eventually morph into because I don't have another one that long to personally compare it to. Earlier in our relationship we were both doing sweet, thoughtful things for each other all the time and going on a couple dates a week. We slipped up on that towards the end and, being a woman, she took it much harder than me. She initiated the conversation about feeling like the romance was dead. I think this problem could have been overcome, but again the "where to live" debate cast a big shadow over us.

We decided it wouldn't be emotionally healthy for either of us to keep fucking around together after breaking up, so we behaved like mature adults instead of horny animals. We both started dating other people within a few months of breaking up. The only time I saw her naked again after breaking up was when she came home wasted from a girl's night. She puked on herself and asked me for help. I undressed her, threw her dirty clothes in the washer, bathed her, put pajamas on her and tucked her into bed. None of that felt sexual and the next morning she was embarrassed enough to never get that drunk again.

Sometimes I wonder if I fucked up my one and only chance with a soulmate. I have dated plenty of women since then. Most of them casually, but a couple relationships were serious enough to live together and discuss the potential of marriage/kids. I still haven't felt that instant spark and immediate chemistry with anyone else. No woman I have dated since her "gets me" the way she did, and vice versa. I think this is because we met organically while all other relationships afterwards have had a dating expectation from both of us going into it.

>>81824980
The issue is that cluster b(itches) are like a dangerous drug and they live rent free in your mind. I still hope for "mine" to come back two years after she broke up with me.

>>81826951
If you're actually clear that you only want something casual then you're not who I at least am talking about so I'm not sure where this reflexive combativeness is coming from. If you're above the age of 30 I'd urge you to meet people in a more mainstream way though, even if it's just dating apps. Nobody who wants casual sex should be using imageboards to find it unless they're severely dysfunctional.

>>81826992
>If you're actually clear that you only want something casual then you're not who I at least am talking about so I'm not sure where this reflexive combativeness is coming from.
Even if they wanted something more than casual, are they obligated to stay in contact with a man forever? Maybe they were just not feeling him, found someone else or changed their mind. It happens all the time in the dating scene.
>If you're above the age of 30 I'd urge you to meet people in a more mainstream way though, even if it's just dating apps. Nobody who wants casual sex should be using imageboards to find it unless they're severely dysfunctional.
Why is it dysfunctional? I do hook up by other means too. Doing it here has its own appeal.

>>81827040
>are they obligated to stay in contact with a man forever?
They're obligated to give a clear and transparent reason if they led someone into something then want to cut things off. Are you retarded or just incapable of basic social interact? Your mouth clearly works when it comes to hoovering up semen, so use it communicate clearly.
>Doing it here has its own appeal.
Peculiar

>>81826770
>it's more like those other guys were hotter, that's pretty much the only reason.
That's what I meant. People are into each other due to physical attraction, not due to chatting abilities

>>81827040
>"why should i tell someone i said i wanted to be in a relationship with several times that i no longer want to be in a relationship with them?"

you have got to be trolling. worst thing is it's almost certain because some chad appeared on the radar. no wonder you bitches can't even hold down basic sales roles.

>>81827131
Any truly handsome guy on here is only here because he wants to be a big fish in a small pond in my experience.

>>81827111
>They're obligated to give a clear and transparent reason if they led someone into something then want to cut things off.
No they're not. People can stop talking to you for any reason. How are you a grown adult and not used to this fact of life?
>Are you retarded or just incapable of basic social interact? Your mouth clearly works when it comes to hoovering up semen, so use it communicate clearly.
Fuck off. What is there to communicate if someone doesn't want to talk to you anymore? You couldn't get the hint from them not responding?
>>81827139
Why do you want her to tell you "Some Chad appeared on the radar so goodbye"? Men are also sliding into dozens of girls' DMs so she has the right to keep her options open when you are not even in a relationship.

>>81827158
We're here to try to hunt down easy pussy.

>>81827273
>No they're not. People can stop talking to you for any reason.

Are you a zoomer? Going on several dates with someone over the course of two months, sleeping together, them calling you their boyfriend, them telling you they want to build something with you and then ghosting isn't socially acceptable behavior. It's the behavior of a coward.

>>81826956
I see, it just feels like finding someone like her that you have such a genuine connection with is so rare. Not only as a lover but even as a friend.
You handled the situation very maturely but it's still kind of depressing. It's unfair how life throws stones in our path.
In my opinion that easy going companionship is one of the things I cherish most. Just knowing there's someone who truly gets you and will stick by your side, someone that you'll enjoy spending time with even as you get older, when looks and health start fading. I feel like romance naturally fades over time if both parties don't consciously try to revive it ever now and then.
You say you never felt the same kind of spark again but would you say that your other gfs/wives truly get you?
Also why did you stop talking completely? It seems like you were both mature enough to stay friends

>>81826138
Sheesh what are the chances......

I've tried making friends with other women on here and even the ones who say they're looking for other women to be friends with are invariably lying and simply put that up on the /soc/ friends thread because they have an aversion or at least feel shame at stating explicitly "I want to meet men".

>>81827273
Hey. Not the person you're responding to and I'm also a woman (who has been ghosted in similar circumstances). I don't agree with any of this. Firstly, you're right that no one is obligated to talk to anyone. But that's not the point and I'm surprised you think it is. It's a red herring at best. The issue is about basic decency and courtesy. If someone invests emotionally, because the other person explicitly encouraged that, then just vanishing without a word is spineless. It's not about legal obligation, it's about respect. I would expect even someone who is chronically online to understand this.

If someone can't even say "Hey, I'm no longer interested" they're not protecting the other person's feelings. They're protecting their own discomfort at the expense of someone else's confusion. That's weak. It's also just stunted and socially maladjusted. Honestly I'd go as far as to describe it as very childlike.

I get that you've probably been treated badly too, and maybe ghosting feels normal now. But normal isn't the same as right and the fact this has become so commonplace paints a bleak picture of how people interact with each other 20 years into the digital age.

>>81827301
Who are you talking about? This is not what OP was describing. If girls just keep leaving you with this exact same pattern, you must be doing something that makes them think it is safer to ghost instead of talking it out with you.

>>81827428

It's a Gen Z thing. They are terrified of even having phone calls. If she's in her 30s and still meeting chan guys for casual sex then god help her.

>>81824917 (OP)
>a meetup gets set,
they don't want to meet up with you, dummy. they just want to schlick their bean

>>81825186
>>81825469
Weird thing I noticed related to this is on lolcow where they have a whole thread about "sexual assault" and "grooming" is that these same girls who do the whole liberated kinky sex freak on here and /soc/ in their late teens and early 20s will 100% regret it all in their late 20s and label the guys as abusers to cope with the shame. So if you're one of those guys who hooked up with a "fembots" ten years ago chances are she's calling you an exploiter at best, a groomer/abuser at worst. It simply isn't worth it to involve yourself with these women. They lack any sense of accountability.

>>81827428
Don't bother reasoning things out with these idiots, they only understand gaslighting and not actual discussion cause that's unironically all they do.
Of course it's just common courtesy to respond to someone you've already been talking to for a while but ADHD zoomzooms don't get that

>>81825079
Yeah my sister is normie incarnate and makes fun of femcels lol

>>81827446

Happened to me twice with the same girl. Said she wanted a relationship both times. Dated for a bit then disappeared both times. Never had that problem with normal women.

>>81827428
I have ghosted and people have ghosted me so many times that I do think it's normal because I know nothing is permanent. I don't expect anyone I'm interacting with to be around me forever and I have never asked a guy why he left. I cannot imagine genuinely getting upset about this. If they want to leave, the door is open. You can't force someone to stay. Why don't people who get ghosted just move on and find someone else? That's what I do, I can't relate to this mindset at all.

>>81827523
Please don't call them femcels. They're the furthest thing from celibate lol.

>>81827544
How old was she and where did she claim to be from?

>>81827545
There is so much wrong with what you said but im to low iq to explain it

>>81827545
>Why don't people who get ghosted just move on and find someone else? That's what I do

Ma'am you're on an animation fan themed imageboard for weirdos of all stripes. This pretense at social normality is something you should be can do with your colleagues, but not with us. People who are normal don't end up cruising places like /soc/ for sex. Especially the women.

>>81827574
nobody normal would be accepting of constant ghosting

>>81827574
I don't care if you think I'm normal or not but I said what I said. I don't know why you act as if 4chan is just so eccentric and niche in the year of 2025. Millions of people from all walks of life use it. If you hate it so much and think we are all serial killers, go browse normie sites then.

>>81827601
How is having a mental breakdown over someone not talking to you as if you are entitled to their time is any better?

>>81827545
We're going on circles here. Please try to stay on point. Again: You're not wrong that nothing is permanent and people are free to leave. No one is talking about forcing anyone to stay. What's at issue is how you leave.

If you ghost people regularly and feel nothing when it happens to you, that's not proof of maturity. It's just a sign that your brain's ability to form meaningful connections has atrophied. It is easier to play at detachment after all.

Saying "I don't get upset so others shouldn't" is just a reflection of emotional numbness and an absence of a really really basic, baseline threshold level of empathy. Not everyone operates on your emotional frequency, and expecting others to mirror your numbness isn't strength. It's social retardation dressed up as pragmatism. Yes, people can move on. But ghosting makes them question themselves instead of getting clarity. The overwhelming majority of normal people in the real world respond in the same way to this sort of emotional amputation. So it's not about forcing a bond, it's (and I thought this would be quite obvious) about ending something you started with a bare minimum of decency. If you find that unreasonable, you might want to ask yourself why connection feels like a burden to you.

>>81827635

There's abnormal in the sense of 'this schizo anon creates awesome web art' (male anons) and then there's abnormal in the sense of 'this cum breath femanon keeps gurgling random pozzed loads in cheap motels while thinking she's superior to others'. We would all prefer the latter type of abnormal to leave. Back to lolcow with you, in other words.

>>81825469
>childhood sa victims
this is the most idiotic take in this thread and everyone is now stupider for reading it. if anyone confides this in you please stay far away from them.

>>81827655
>entitled to your time
Bitch you spend your time meeting dudes on imageboards for sex. Let's not pretend you're some ultra productive type a personality with a high flying career here. Ok?

>>81827686
welp, these are my cents
some people click and some do not, if someone flakes or ghosts you they kind of filtered themselves so fuck it who cares really?
hit unfriend for the mutual break away and call it a wash.
some people are kinda busy too maybe they will eventually loop back this is rare so don't wait on it.
been ghosted, ignored, flaked on etc all my life and quite frankly fuck people not women, fuck people every person on this earth except the few people i actually like can catch a buckshot.

>>81827686
>If you ghost people regularly and feel nothing when it happens to you, that's not proof of maturity. It's just a sign that your brain's ability to form meaningful connections has atrophied. It is easier to play at detachment after all.
Think whatever you want about me, I also view those who are unable to move on from people who want nothing to do with them as immature.
>Saying "I don't get upset so others shouldn't" is just a reflection of emotional numbness and an absence of a really really basic, baseline threshold level of empathy. Not everyone operates on your emotional frequency, and expecting others to mirror your numbness isn't strength. It's social retardation dressed up as pragmatism.
I do have empathy, for the person who left. Why is the ghosted one incapable of self-reflection? It's always "Why did they leave?" but never "What did I do to make them leave?"
>So it's not about forcing a bond, it's (and I thought this would be quite obvious) about ending something you started with a bare minimum of decency. If you find that unreasonable, you might want to ask yourself why connection feels like a burden to you.
If someone leaves without any explanation, it shows they didn't care enough to do so. How you want to interpret that is up to you but the most reasonable thing to do would be to accept what happened and move on. You are not supposed to lose sleep over it.
>>81827767
Why are you projecting so hard?
>>81827808
I never said I am some ultra productive type A personality with a high flying career, but I don't have to be one to have the basic freedom to stop talking to someone.

>>81827655
normal people don't ghost they just say thanks i'm not interested and then stop replying

>>81827131
>People are into each other due to physical attraction, not due to chatting abilities
For people who can't pair bond, yeah

>>81827313
Never been married. I don't think my other girlfriends ever really got me, not as well as my /b/ gf. There were still things we had in common and enjoyed doing together, things I taught them and they taught me, but the /b/ gf and I were really on the same frequency. We didn't deliberately stop talking. That's just how life played out. She stopped gaming and Steam was the only thing still connecting us at that point. We'd chat about non-vidya topics while gaming, but we weren't calling and texting each other all the time just to chat.

Since we're geographically very far apart there are no chance meetings. Neither of us have social media and we had different friend groups so there's no keeping up through the grapevine. I just Googled her name and it came back with a small business she is running in that city she moved to. It's a business doing something I know she was working towards. I'm happy to see she has her dream life. If I happened to bump into her I'd invite her to dinner and spend a few hours catching up.

>>81827339
Yeah, when I reflect back on this it feels like a lightning strike moment.

>>81827925
>I also view those who are unable to move on from people who want nothing to do with them as immature.
I doubt most of those people are unable to move on. It's just that those who ghost are very inconsiderate. People are well-justified to be dissatisfied with bad people.
>It's always "Why did they leave?" but never "What did I do to make them leave?"
There's the gaslighting here

>>81827985
not true at all. some people regardless of being a normie or chronically online e-slut get so overwhelmed from life or trolling they need to disassociate. people who've been through the shit understand this and those who have been abusive towards them always love to play the victim

>>81826385
She was underage, like many camwhores of that era. Sick fuck.

>>81827925
It's like talking to a brick wall. The thing is, you're not actually defending ghosting. You're just shifting blame onto the person who got ghosted, like they're automatically at fault for being abandoned without explanation. That's a cope. Not everyone who gets cut off did something wrong. Sometimes people ghost because they're avoidant, flaky, or just too weak to handle discomfort (you).

Self-reflection is one thing. Being blindsided and left without context is another. You can't reflect meaningfully when someone leaves without a word. You're left reconstructing a conversation they refused to have. That's not maturity. That's emotional cowardice hiding behind posturing. And no, the fact that someone didn't care enough to say anything isn't a reason to stop caring altogether. That's a shallow way to avoid feeling anything real. Most people don't want to be treated like they're disposable when the explicit or implicit messaging was that they were anything but. Acting like it's weak to expect basic closure says more about your detachment than anyone else's resilience.

You're free to keep living like nothing means anything. But don't dress that up as strength or emotional intelligence. It's just learned numbness.

>>81828130
>abusive
I love the way fembots dress up the performative hypersexual behavior designed to entice men when they're younger, and the ensuing reaction (tons of sexual interest that, surprise, ends in sex they actively sought out!) as "abuse". Will never not be funny to me.

Makes you wonder why they post on anonymous imageboard to begin with...

>>81828357
yeah taking advantage of a mentally unstable young girl is soo funny teehee xd kys

i feel like most men are boring too but yes, the women dont even have to put on any airs about being interesting bc men will always do the heavy lifting or be discarded

>>81828383
>Mentally unstable girl: "Hey guys here are pictures of my tits, I also love being sexual and have a billion fetishes I want to try out."
>Man who meets threshold of physical attractiveness required to bang: "Hey, I'm in X location. Want to meet up?"
>Mentally unstable girl: "Sure!"
Amazing anyone with a brain cell could read these situations and call them abuse.

Stop being whores. We've all seen how femanons act and how hypersexual they are. If you don't want sexual attention, then stop inviting it in the most explicit form imaginable.

>>81828357
I'm talking about legit abuse but whatever misogynist

>>81824917 (OP)
>Meet woman on 4chan
>She avoids me
>Lies to me
>Acts completely emotionally detached
>Doesnt even tell me about the country she lifes in
>Get tired of her
>Drop her
>She claims she liked me and its my fault
Atleast she was a biofem, heh

>>81828130
sure, normies just go through their every day life getting ghosted for the 1000th time thinking this is completely normal. I'm not saying it's a big deal, I'm not even saying they care I'm saying normies don't even get into situations like that. Maybe one or twice but not repeatedly like people online
people who are so damaged they can't manage basic social kills are not normies

>>81824917 (OP)
you gotta be insanely retarded to possibly even think egirls especially those on 4chan actually would date

>>81824917 (OP)
If they were normal they wouldn't be here.

What's the usual gap between the first message and sending pics (either body or face)?

>Every time its the same pattern: within minutes they're swapping nudes and kinks, a meetup gets set, you get told it was amazing, then they vanish for months. Then a few months later they come back and it resets like nothing happened. Ask for something ordinary (job, last name weekend plans) and they either dodge or go silent. They're insanely evasive.
these are your "femcels"

>>81825079
>My experiences with women on r9k and soc could fill two volume
You should elaborate some more. I would read.

>>81829446
I'm not him but I could tell you about a few if it would be interesting.

>>81824917 (OP)
i've never met anyone from 4chan but i did have a phase in ~2019 when i added several guys from here on discord attempting to edate. but in the end i always (regretfully) essentially ghosted them, because every single time i basically put my everything into the first conversation, like carried the whole conversation and did everything to seem as interesting and cool as possible. and then the next day i'd realize i'd never be able to keep that up and it'll just become awkward (and i hate making conversations awkward), so i'd stop using discord for a few weeks every single time.
everyone here is mentally ill is the reason

>>81824917 (OP)
i've had two relationships off r9k, one in person and one online canadian e-girlfriend
both were great and i blew it
one girl has a phd now
they both have me blocked on social media/linked in
but this back around 2010 so it was more like 4chan gave space for weirdos to accumulate, now its more like 4chan is a place where you go to act out the different flavors or weird (go on pol and shout nigger, go on r9k and be an incel, go on v and argue about consoles)
or maybe zoomers are just irony pilled and getting to know a person is cringe

>>81826956
so you were like 25 and didn't want to leave the small town you were in

>>81829738
>or maybe zoomers are just irony pilled and getting to know a person is cringe
hate this because i love getting to know people.
unironically though if you want to get to know people just go to other places online other than 4chan. my online friends i found in places that were not 4chan and we met up because we were in the same city.
no we shoot guns, go to the gym together and play mtg im basically a normie when surrounded by these guys it feels good

>>81829815
>I grew up in the suburbs of a big city on the West Coast
>moved to the Midwest for college
>liked the area and wanted to stay
>she grew up in the area I moved to and wanted to leave for a certain big city on the West Coast I do not like, it's not close to where I grew up so I wouldn't even have the benefit of being close to family and friends
>I really dislike that city she loves but just in general I don't want to live anywhere so crowded and busy ever again, there are maybe 3 cities I would have made an exception for her if she wanted to move there

>>81829551
Sure, go ahead old man