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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 6:28:03 PM No.81826133
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Why do men think being a therapy makes them a green flag?

Usually when people are in therapy, they're there for a reason, and those reasons aren't generally good.
A man being in therapy would be more of a warning sign, if anything, and indicates how safe is he to be around, and likely be the kind of man that you'd want to for the sake of your own physical and emotional safety.

That's not a good sign, and not something to brag about.
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 6:34:32 PM No.81826185
>>81826133 (OP)
>for the sake of your own physical and emotional safety
I thought women liked abusers. Or was that just yesterday
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 6:37:15 PM No.81826205
>>81826133 (OP)
Did a man in therapy steal your waifu or something?
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 6:44:05 PM No.81826257
I've been in therapy for 20 years but I have to agree

At least I've never known people in therapy who weren't there for some horrible reason
Usually people with suicidal tendencies, domestic violence proclivities, self harm, addiction, assaults or violence towards others, delusions or hearing voices
Generally not the safest individuals to be around, and would otherwise be stuck in jail if treatment wasn't an option

Whoever said therapy makes you a safe person obviously has no experience in therapy, and probably just goes to counselors not actual doctors or therapists
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 6:47:01 PM No.81826290
>>81826205
If he did, then a). when did I become a lesbian? And b). I would be more scared for her safety than anything else.
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 6:49:53 PM No.81826313
>>81826133 (OP)
>Usually when people are in therapy, they're there for a reason, and those reasons aren't generally good.
your stigma over mental health services is dated. Most people do not see it as a big deal. It's like going to gym and thinking going to the gym is not a good sign either. It's neutral at best but a bad thing to do
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 6:56:25 PM No.81826363
>>81826313
>and thinking going to the gym is not a good sign either
It sometimes isn't, considering the amount of douchebros at the gym who try to harass you just for existing.
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:01:48 PM No.81826409
>>81826133 (OP)
They mistakenly believed women about therapy being good and a green flag. See, a woman being in therapy actually IS a green flag, because all women are inherently crazy, so getting a therapist is a good thing for them to learn emotional maturity. A woman NOT being in therapy is a huge red flag. But for a man, it's the opposite, because man is already rational. Being in therapy as a man just proves that something is wrong with you. I mean, it's still probably good for you, because you probably need it, but it shows that you are not sane.
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:01:49 PM No.81826410
>>81826313
>your stigma over mental health services is dated
the irony since defining mental health services for small things like needing someone to talking (even though this is what friends and family are for) does little but restigmatises the system for those who actually need them, and instead pushes them out in practise
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:02:57 PM No.81826420
>>81826133 (OP)
Idk sounds kind of retarded. Dangerous men aren't going to be in therapy.
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:04:49 PM No.81826430
>>81826290
>I'm a women
In that case. Post your panties
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:06:28 PM No.81826442
>>81826420
>Dangerous men
That's not why it's a red flag. All men are inherently dangerous to a woman; there is no getting around that. Women are tiny and frail and men are physically larger. The reason it's a red flag is because it shows that the man is also psychologically weak. And no one wants that. It's basically foid-brained, in a man's body. Not good for anyone.
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:07:15 PM No.81826451
>>81826257
>I've been in therapy for 20 years
Im extremely curious about this but at the same time I feel like you lie constantly
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:08:51 PM No.81826464
>>81826442
>Women are tiny and frail
Does that justify their constant manipulation?
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:11:18 PM No.81826480
>>81826133 (OP)
A lot of people seem to think therapy is "behavioural correction", even though mental health professionals prefer to avoid that approach for human rights reasons

Not only that, but therapy seems to have become synonymous with "moral" corrections in recent times, instead of just "behavioural", which might be worse

And then there's how commercialised therapy has become in the last 5-10 years, which no one ever seems to talk about
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:13:11 PM No.81826500
>>81826451
why would you be curious about that? therapeutic treatments are typically lifelong
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:13:38 PM No.81826505
>>81826442
>psychologically weak
Not really. Just shows that he's will to work on his problems. Which everyone should be doing. Most guys with serious mental health issues aren't going to be in therapy at all.
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:13:45 PM No.81826507
>>81826133 (OP)
Because women like it, thats all they go for. I went to therapy for my mental health long before women screeched about it. The entire thing is you paying someone to gaslight you into repressing any negative thoughts and becoming nomie cattle. E.g. If you're lonely and unloved they give you platitudes about family and platonic relationships, how you need to love yourself, etc. These are the same people who never experienced your life and went apeshit during covid lockdowns fucking them over socially. Therapists nag you until you pretend the things that hurt you, don't actually bother you. Then when you mask yourself, compromise your beliefs, and accept that status quo, you're "cured". It's like a doctor decided to cauterize your nerves becuase your leg hurt. It's still broke but you can't feel your leg so it's "fixed".

John doesn't need therapy, he's sad for a legit reason after being rejected by the opposite sex. Sam is valid in hating his wife who only married him for his money. John is broke with no good career prospects, his suicidal beliefs are from his situation, not an error in his mind.
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:14:49 PM No.81826514
>>81826480
To add to this, there also appears to be recent misconceptions that therapy is temporary or has an end goal
(See: >>81826451)
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:17:03 PM No.81826527
>men
no man does, only women in dating profiles virtue signalling
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:18:17 PM No.81826537
>>81826133 (OP)
>Why do men think being a therapy makes them a green flag?
Woo troll thread!
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:18:40 PM No.81826540
>>81826500
Only for certain personality disorders. Idk if ur that poster. But 20 years and you still haven't got to the root cause of your issues?
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:19:06 PM No.81826543
>>81826133 (OP)
ESL ass nigga wtf are you trying to say?
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:19:56 PM No.81826552
>>81826133 (OP)
Personally, I'm in therapy for not a good reason yes, but it's better than doing nothing in terms of seeking mental help.
You'll also see a massive negative bias towards the conception of therapy online because the people it helps acquire better lives and are able to move on from their problems, while if it doesn't solve anything, you end up shitting on it with all the contempt in you. At least that's what I think.
I never even started therapy for years because I assumed it would be worthless from all the hate it gets online and on this site, but I tried it anyway eventually at my breaking point, and the woman actually ended up sympathizing with me on how much I hate my father and have struggled to gather any confidence
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:22:36 PM No.81826581
>>81826133 (OP)
Personally, I'm in therapy because I need help yes, but it's better than doing nothing in terms of seeking it or worse, relying on individuals that aren't professionals
I see a massive negative bias towards the conception of therapy online, possibly because the people it helps acquire better lives and are able to move on from their issues, while if it doesn't solve enough people end up shitting on it with all the contempt they have for failing them. At least that's what I think.
I never even started therapy for years because I assumed it would be worthless from all the hate it gets, but I'm trying it anyway eventually at my breaking point, and the woman actually ended up sympathizing with me on how much I hate my father, and have struggled to gather any confidence because he failed to raise my etc. actively wanting to listen and help.
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:24:59 PM No.81826602
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>>81826133 (OP)
Only liberal faggots or men who LARP as liberal faggots so they can put their dick in liberal women say this.
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:27:08 PM No.81826625
>>81826540
>Only for certain personality disorders
and trauma, and childhood abuses, and learning disabilities, and neurological issues like schizophrenia, and damages (either mental or physical), etc
>But 20 years and you still haven't got to the root cause of your issues?
they most likely have, what makes you think that would have any influence on their condition? they're still going to be stuck with that condition either way, just worse off without treatment. and, in fact, identifying the root cause leading to the abdication of their condition, and thus no longer needing treatment, only happens within a narrow range of disorders
i'm sorry, but mental health doesn't work that way
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:27:20 PM No.81826627
>>81826133 (OP)
Banger thread brother
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:29:03 PM No.81826642
I'm a therapy AMA
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 7:32:15 PM No.81826678
>>81826540
>Only for certain personality disorders
For *most* mental health issues, dumbass. You can't treat mental health like you can physical health, so it's going to be a life-long battle for most patients

>But 20 years and you still haven't got to the root cause of your issues?
Oh god, you have a very narrow understanding of what mental health is
(20 years is nothing)
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 8:06:52 PM No.81827023
>>81826625
>>81826678
I hope you two aren't serious rn
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Anonymous
7/14/2025, 8:09:47 PM No.81827044
>>81826642
Does it actually help?
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 8:18:28 PM No.81827115
>>81827023
maybe learn what therapy and mental health is, then, instead taking the "do your own research" approach. you have outdated views on how mental health works
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 9:13:19 PM No.81827630
>>81826133 (OP)
If you want a MHP's perspective: I've always felt it was argumentum ad verecundiam.

Therapy is often synonymous with mental health, which is a broad category of science. And science often carries with it a sense of authority that others rarely question. So whenever they hear (or see) anything related to therapy, mental health, etc. there's admittedly a bad habit of people taking it at face value, and assuming that what it says goes, instead of doing further research to verify it.

And you see this a lot with anything related to science. How often do you come across some news report citing some research or study? And how often do you read said research, and discovered that it was misrepresented, or simply misinterpreted? Or how often do you DO find that it's represented correctly, but the report had to break it down for the lay man, thus so much was lost in translation? Or how often do you see the average Joe citing some study or research, but their interpretations of are isn't entirely congruent with the study or research itself, or it seems like they're simply cherry picking details from it? And, of course, how often do you see people taking them at their word despite all this?

This happens a lot, and what you're describing isn't too dissimilar (in my opinion), because people tend to hinge their understanding on therapy and mental health off of the authority and prestige that comes with them, but not so much the information itself.

And I see this a lot, as well, when somebody hears about a person in therapy: the assumption that they're either a healthy and responsible individual ("green flag"), or the inverse ("red flag"), even though this is always case-by-case, and seeking treatment of any kind isn't enough to place them into either category.

There's also a lot of bad science in mental health, I should mention, as mental health is, unfortunately, more subjective than physical health, so a lot of misinformation gets passed around.
Anonymous
7/14/2025, 9:30:58 PM No.81827820
>>81826133 (OP)
>Why do men think being a therapy makes them a green flag?
They don't
I've ever only heard women say it is.